Im now into third year as a medical student. My results are not bad and I have a good and stable relationship too. But the problem is my friends always seem to tease me maybe because im smaller in stature and my girlfriend is always upset about the constant teasing. What should i do? I pretend in front of her that im okay but in reality this makes me kind f short of self confidence...
Tyrion Lannister said it best (see HBO's Game of Thrones made from RR Martin's "Song of Ice and Fire" series), but I can't find the exact quote. Tyrion is the "imp" a dwarf, the half-man, of whom his beautiful family is ashamed. He is one of the main characters and influential to the story line. Check out the HBO series or read the books. They are amazing fiction and have a story line better than Jordan and more intriguing than Tolkein.
Essentially, his message is if you take what you are, what people make fun of you for being, and make it part of yourself, suddenly it is no longer a sensitive matter. It cannot be used against you, and people will stop.
For example, asking someone to get something for you that is clearly within your reach, "im too short to reach it, you see." Or, walking on your toes during rounds so you can participate.
No one determines what you are sensitive about except you. You can't control others' actions. Whether they be in jest or cruelty is irrelevant. If it makes you sad, the problem lies not in the other, but in yourself. If you say it doesn't bother you, it won't. You're short, you cant change that. Other people are themselves, you cant change that either.
What you can change is your own perspective of what you can't change.
A) It will make you a stronger person for taking something that injures you and owning it, and, in turn, rescuing yourself
B) You will use it to define your identity, rather than others using against you to define you in your own eyes. Control is key to happiness
