sending letter to school you are accepted at for significant other

[xsxoxfx7]

I am wondering...I was recently (about a month ago) accepted at a medical school. My boyfriend (of 8+ years) is also applying to medical school. We would like to go to the same school or a school in the same area. Would it be inappropriate to send a letter to the school that I was accepted to, re-expressing my interest in their program, and explaining to them my situation, in the hope that they would extend an interview invite to my boyfriend...I believe he would be a good candidate for this school,b ased on his GPA, MCAT and extracirriculars, but I definitely don't want to overstep my bounds.

Thank you for your thoughts

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[TBV]

I doubt they would take it seriously

 

[NYCpremed212]

I am wondering...I was recently (about a month ago) accepted at a medical school. My boyfriend (of 8+ years) is also applying to medical school. We would like to go to the same school or a school in the same area. Would it be inappropriate to send a letter to the school that I was accepted to, re-expressing my interest in their program, and explaining to them my situation, in the hope that they would extend an interview invite to my boyfriend...I believe he would be a good candidate for this school,b ased on his GPA, MCAT and extracirriculars, but I definitely don't want to overstep my bounds.

Thank you for your thoughts

Why can't your boyfriend just send them an update letter and express his interest in the school? I think that's the better way to go about this.

 

[Rumor13]

I am wondering...I was recently (about a month ago) accepted at a medical school. My boyfriend (of 8+ years) is also applying to medical school. We would like to go to the same school or a school in the same area. Would it be inappropriate to send a letter to the school that I was accepted to, re-expressing my interest in their program, and explaining to them my situation, in the hope that they would extend an interview invite to my boyfriend...I believe he would be a good candidate for this school,b ased on his GPA, MCAT and extracirriculars, but I definitely don't want to overstep my bounds.

Thank you for your thoughts

I personally would recommend the reverse. Have your boyfriend send a letter of interest stating your intent to stay together at all costs if possible.

As an accepted and not a matriculated student, you literally carry no weight in the admissions process for others. HE is the one who needs to prove why he should be interviewed and admitted, not you. Geographic and strong relationships to a school (such as a spouse or long term relationship attending the program) are viewed as motivating factors for matriculation and worth mentioning in updates. It will not hurt him to state this as a reason, among others of course, for why he would choose this school over others.

Especially at this point in the game, at best you sticking your neck out for him will not accomplish anything other than relieving misplaced guilt because you think you could help him if you send a letter. At worst, it may offend an admissions officer by them perceiving it as you telling them who to interview and accept.

 

[The Knife & Gun Club]

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[xsxoxfx7]

I personally would recommend the reverse. Have your boyfriend send a letter of interest stating your intent to stay together at all costs if possible.

As an accepted and not a matriculated student, you literally carry no weight in the admissions process for others. HE is the one who needs to prove why he should be interviewed and admitted, not you. Geographic and strong relationships to a school (such as a spouse or long term relationship attending the program) are viewed as motivating factors for matriculation and worth mentioning in updates. It will not hurt him to state this as a reason, among others of course, for why he would choose this school over others.

Especially at this point in the game, at best you sticking your neck out for him will not accomplish anything other than relieving misplaced guilt because you think you could help him if you send a letter. At worst, it may offend an admissions officer by them perceiving it as you telling them who to interview and accept.

I was thinking of it not as telling them who to accept, but simply saying "please consider." This school does not accept updates from candidates who have not been offered an interview, otherwise I would think it would make sense for my boyfriend to message them as well.

 

[Goro]

Unless both of you are significant catches, these missives will, in all likelihood, be ignored.

I was thinking of it not as telling them who to accept, but simply saying "please consider." This school does not accept updates from candidates who have not been offered an interview, otherwise I would think it would make sense for my boyfriend to message them as well.

 

[xsxoxfx7]

Unless both of you are significant catches, these missives will, in all likelihood, be ignored.

I'm not worried about it being ignored, I'm worried that in some way my admission will be jeopardized and wouldn't want to do that.

 

[Goro]

Schools are not so vindictive as to rescind an acceptance because an acceptee was being annoying at worst.

I'm not worried about it being ignored, I'm worried that in some way my admission will be jeopardized and wouldn't want to do that.

 

[Promethean]

Your admission is unlikely to be jeopardized by writing to say "hey, my sweetheart wants to go here, too, and I'd really like to go wherever he goes, so could you do us a solid and look him over?"

I think if you were married, it would go a little further, but even then... a letter from you isn't likely to tip any scales if he isn't already being considered. If he is already on their radar, maybe it might help a little to know that they would have two students with a strong incentive to attend together.

In any case, no one is going to pull your acceptance for asking them to check him out.

 

[chipwhitley]

I don't think it will hurt, but I also don't think it will help unless you're engaged or married. Even after 8 years, you could break up any day.

 

[xsxoxfx7]

I don't think it will hurt, but I also don't think it will help unless you're engaged or married. Even after 8 years, you could break up any day.

Half of marriages end in divorce so it's not like being married or engaged is a testament to love. Besides, engagement isn't a legal binding agreement so this point is moot. I'd argue that the couple who has been dating for a year and is *happily* engaged is more likely to break up than someone who has maintained an 8 year relationship since the age of 15.

 

[samac]

Half of marriages end in divorce so it's not like being married or engaged is a testament to love. Besides, engagement isn't a legal binding agreement so this point is moot. I'd argue that the couple who has been dating for a year and is *happily* engaged is more likely to break up than someone who has maintained an 8 year relationship since the age of 15.

Yes I get your point. But to the world it could be seen as "they're not even married. They might bring some drama with them if they can't handle med school together"

Personally I wouldn't want to annoy anyone in my school, especially before matriculating, I think it would hold more weight if he asked for an update and said his long term significant other is going there and that you would love to say together.

I wouldn't even name drop.

 

[xsxoxfx7]

Yes I get your point. But to the world it could be seen as "they're not even married. They might bring some drama with them if they can't handle med school together"

Personally I wouldn't want to annoy anyone in my school, especially before matriculating, I think it would hold more weight if he asked for an update and said his long term significant other is going there and that you would love to say together.

I wouldn't even name drop.

Yeah I agree it would be more effective if he sent the letter. Unfortunately, this school doesn't accept pre-ii updates so it complicates things

 

[chipwhitley]

Half of marriages end in divorce so it's not like being married or engaged is a testament to love. Besides, engagement isn't a legal binding agreement so this point is moot. I'd argue that the couple who has been dating for a year and is *happily* engaged is more likely to break up than someone who has maintained an 8 year relationship since the age of 15.

You're right that being married isn't foolproof either, but it's a lot harder to get divorced (legally speaking) than just to break up if you're not married. Being married holds a lot more weight in my opinion. Engaged probably doesn't mean much, I agree with you there. But if you really are committed to your partner for so many years, one wonders why you're not married? I'm sure you have your reasons, but if you're trying to convince someone you will stay together, marraige definitely helps.

 

[tantacles]

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