shadowing a do question

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hello

so i am calling a DO tomorrow that i have spoken with previously about meeting up with her..i was just wondering if I should ask her if I could shadow her first or if I should take her out to lunch/dinner first. I just don't know which is more appropriate...what do you think? thanks.
 
shakeit said:
hello

so i am calling a DO tomorrow that i have spoken with previously about meeting up with her..i was just wondering if I should ask her if I could shadow her first or if I should take her out to lunch/dinner first. I just don't know which is more appropriate...what do you think? thanks.

You can discuss it over lunch, sure.
Maybe some wine.
But if you lean in for the kiss and she pulls away, don't ask to shadow.
 
wasn't there a site that had a list of DOs by state who were willing to have students shadow them?
 
I personally think that asking her to lunch or dinner is inappropriate. I think that you should keep the relationship professional, especially if you don't know her well previously. It sounds like you want to "get to know" her. There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking her outright if you can shadow. JMO
 
Oculus Sinistra said:
You can discuss it over lunch, sure.
Maybe some wine.
But if you lean in for the kiss and she pulls away, don't ask to shadow.

^^ that is very funny :laugh:

but in all seriousness, from my experience you and the doctor will talk on the phone briefly, you will talk about your intent to shadow to gain some clinical experience, and you two will work out a time when you can stop by the doctor's office to talk a little more. When you arrive at the doctor's office you may either start shadowing that day or set up a time to shadow in the next few days on a regular schedule if so desired. Meetings outside the office (or a professional setting) are not likely. I hope this helps.
 
I didn't even talk to the physician I shadow until my first day. I just found the physician on the internet, called the office, talked to the nurse, and set it up that way. It worked out really well for me...I shadow a great physician.
 
Most docs I know are too busy to have a lunch meeting...and if they do have time, would rather do so with their family, etc...

Usually, the only time I get to talk to the doc is when i'm actually there, otherwise, it's a nurse or a office manager.
 
shakeit said:
hello

so i am calling a DO tomorrow that i have spoken with previously about meeting up with her..i was just wondering if I should ask her if I could shadow her first or if I should take her out to lunch/dinner first. I just don't know which is more appropriate...what do you think? thanks.

No. Don't go to lunch with them. That's ******ed. Just show up at their office and talk with them there.

If they want to invite you to a meal, that's their business.
 
how long should you shadow a doc berfore asking for a LOR?
 
The doctor that I'm supposed to shadow actually asked me to talk over lunch and then shadow him in the afternoon. I don't think introducing yourself and talkin over lunch is a bad idea.
 
socal,

Last shadowing I did with a DO Anesthesiologist, I spent the day with him, then at the end of the day, he said just to let them know when/if I needed a LOR, and they'd be happy to help me out.
 
Oculus Sinistra said:
You can discuss it over lunch, sure.
Maybe some wine.
But if you lean in for the kiss and she pulls away, don't ask to shadow.

LOL 😀
 
I think I probably have a bit of a different situation as the others. I'm friends and know all the physicians I'm shadowing already. They asked me if I wanted a LOR before I even followed them around in some cases.lol
 
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