It depends on the personality of the dentist. I got a very high evaluation from the 2 dentists where I did an internship. They both liked how I talked to the patients and how I manage to calmed down the nervous ones including kids (well, I'm a mom all you have to do is talk about Sponge Bob).
One of them talked to death and is the King of multitasking at chatting while pulling a tooth or doing root canals.....I had no idea how he managed to talk TOO MUCH LIKE A RADIO and still do a good job! LOL!! The other was more quiet and talked very soft when it was necessary. He is very sweet.
At first, you are a total stranger and all you have to do is be confident, ask a question when you have one. Pay attention to what's put on the table with instruments, materials, etc...click with the staff and smile not matter what 😀 be early, positive, happy, content, humble, not matter how nasty of a day you are having.
Ask the dentist to explain you chair-side manners 🙂 because each dentist has their own unique way to treat their patients ethically. With dentist #1, I watched him do work on a 95 yr old lady...I LOVE seniors and was like about to jump up and down from excitement....when he showed me some gum problems I said loud: OH WOW!!!!!!! And he was like oh no! I forgot to teach you "manners"....he said never say "wow" "OMG" or anything like that because that makes people nervous! Ooooppsss.....luckily the lady couldn't hear a thing and he just laugh with the assistant....after that only when he saw MD she would allowed me to say OMG, and WOW!
I really clicked with these 2 guys, but not so much with another one who was older and extremely conservative in every imaginable way. I'd had cry if I to deal with him for over 170+ hours!
So Dr Pretty, my darling, is not you, it's her! You girls didn't click, maybe some PMS was involved from her part? Maybe she didn't like to talk and work at the same time? I hope you can find someone that *you* click with soon.
I did a formal internship, so if you want more tips on how to succeed in the dental office just send me a PM 🙂 I've seen and lived the good, the bad and the ugly of shadowing. I went from being an stranger to having lunch with the dentists every day, and getting a job offer as well 😀