Should I disclose?

[burnq]

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My wife (who I am in the process of getting a divorce from) took out a temporary restraining order on me. I wanted the separation. The allegations are grossly exaggerated and mostly untrue. During the court hearing we agreed for the temporary restraining order to remain in place for six months after which it would be dismissed and the court records sealed. There are no criminal charges against me, and the order (since it is temporary) should not show up in any database. This all happened after I was accepted to medical school.

Since there are no criminal charges pending, should disclose this to my school's officials. If I do, is there a chance that my acceptance will be rescinded? And if I don't, is there any way this can hurt me in the future. My lawyer has assured me that this will not go on any criminal database.

Thanks in advance for your response.

 

[Penner]

I think you'll be fine. I don't think this is something you have to tell med schools if they don't ask.

 

[zeinz]

you must be one scary dude😱 j/k
some, maybe most....possibly all, schools do a background check which probably looks for a criminal record. If its not even going onto any record of yours I would bother bringing it up unless some at the school specifically says, "burnq, has anyone got a restraining order against you?" I doubt they will, so youre most likely fine.

 

[NotAsking4Much]

I thought it's actually really hard to get a restraining order - like you have to show physical evidence of a threat at large or something.

Anyhow though, you should be ok as long as it's not on record.

Sorry to hear about it though. I can imagine it to be pretty rough.

 

[plauto]

It's amazing how people you love all of a sudden become strangers to you....from personal experience, I feel for you.

 

[burnq]

I thought it's actually really hard to get a restraining order - like you have to show physical evidence of a threat at large or something.

Anyhow though, you should be ok as long as it's not on record.

Sorry to hear about it though. I can imagine it to be pretty rough.

The temporary ones are very easy to get. Judges err on the side of caution and therefore pass it like candy. You don't need to show any evidence, and the terms are usually so broad that virtually anything can be construed as harmful and grounds for one. Also they are given ex-parte before the other party has a chance to defend themselves.

To everyone who replied: Thank you for your responses. I feel a lot better.