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I am confused as to what I should do. I am a sophomore at the University of San Francisco, which is a small private school and I often find myself in modes of depression. I like the city and my surroundings. I also enjoy my labs and my science classes because I like the fact that I can get help from my professors during office hours.Another positive thing about being here is that I am near UCSF. I am a clinical research volunteer in the emergency department and I love what I am doing. Another upside is that I am doing well academically at USF and I got a 4.0 my freshmen year.I know I can acquire effective letters of recommendation for med school. However, there is a major downside which I think is responsible for my depression. My shifts at UCSF are usually on Friday nights and I usually get back to my room at 11:30 PM or midnight. Every week, during the walk from the bus stop back to my room, I find myself bursting into tears because to a certain extent, I am very unhappy. During the walk home I usually reflect upon my week and I always realize that the friends I have made here are only superficial. I also realize that all I do is eat, sleep, study, and volunteer because I haven't met people I truly want to spend quality time with. For the last three semesters, I have made lots of friends to party and hang out with, but the drinking and partying just becomes redundant and pointless. However, I have yet to meet individuals that can hold an intellectual, deep, meaninful conversation. How do I put this politely? The majority of the people around me are shallow and superficial. On top of that, my real friends always ask me why I decided to attend such a mediocre institution. When I say I am stressed, they say they don't understand how that is possible since I am at an institution that isn't quite so competitive. This doesn't exactly make me feel good about my decsion to come here and it just squashes my self-esteem. They don't realize that o-chem and bio require effort regardless of where you go. Most of my friends are at Cal Tech, Berkeley, Standford, and the other more "prestigious" colleges. They usually jokingly imply that I am a ***** because I chose USF when I got into Berekeley, UCLA,and other "better" schools. I hate the fact that I always find myself bursting into tears when no one else is around. When I flew home for Thanksgiving, I sent out transfer applications to some of the UC schools, but I am iffy as to whether I want to leave USF. Then again, if I transfer, it doesn't guarantee I will be happy either. In addition, I chose USF because I received a lot of scholarship money and I wouldn't get any financial aid from the UC schools.Perhaps I chose to go here because it was more economically efficient for my parents. Ahhhhh! Sometimes I feel the "forlorness" or "anxiety" Sartre talks about in his book, Existentialism and Human Emotions. Am I making any sense to anyone? Or am I just an overemotional individual who needs to get a grip of things? Do the advantages of a small institution outweigh the loneliness I feel? Should the monetary factor play into my decision as to whether I want to transfer? Or should I just bite my tongue and stick it out and just hope med school is more pleasant? I would really appreciate constructive advice. I didn't intend to ramble and I apologize for the length of the message.-depressed college student-