Single Mom Success Stories?

[Perrotfish]

Uh, free speech much? He gives pretty sound advice for the most part, and it's stuff people don't want to hear. You want flowery advice, 24/7? Go watch Nick Jr.

Uhh, watch Nick Jr. much lately?

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[t-funk]

So I take it, upon graduation, you'll be bringing the kid to the office for the receptionist or the nurse to take care ?

That one is a classic, anybody else seen that one pulled ?

Coastie, where in this post is there a remnant of sound advice? Maybe I'm just to stupid to see it and need your help to show me this guy's infinite wisdom. This guy's daily task is to attempt to insult as many single moms as he can. He is neither trying to be helpful nor compassionate and for the most part his posts are not accurate and are just making blanket generalized statements that make it seem that he thinks that all single mothers are low-class and unprofessional regardless of their educational or socioeconomical background. I'm all for free speech but not for unwarranted cut downs and insults. It's getting old.

 

[hilseb]

why don't you self-indulgent people quit asking each other what the success rate is for yourselves and start worrying about the outcome of the kid you brought into the world.

2 or 3 generations of latch-key, nannyized, daycare neglected kids have already turned this nation into a freakin nightmare.

It's tough enough for a kid to make it with 2 parents working. If you go to med school, the kid will be driving by the time you have time for them.....
just in time for your career to peak and you'll need it, to pay for their drug Rehab.

Quit kidding yourselves, do like the other poster did, Remarry or get married and this time , go for the short , squat, bald guy named Morty the Accountant

[EDIT].

People have their kids in extended day care for many dead end, underpaid jobs. If you have a problem with this, campaign for subsidized day care and flexible hours and better pay for parents. Read "Nickel and Dimed" or "The Motherhood Manifesto". Single moms can't afford to stay home and cater to their kids' every need, even if they are not in medical school.

Putting your kids in some sort of care or with family to go to medical school, especially with family support, is a fantastic idea. It is too bad there are jerks like you who want to squash her optimism and drive.


Doctors can have flexible schedules and afford good care and insurance for their kids. Sounds good to me.

And to suggest to marry "an accountant" or somebody for money is, well, just insulting. I think goals are better.

 

[QofQuimica]

Folks, please keep your posts in this thread civil. It is fine to disagree with other people and give your opinion as to why you think they are wrong. However, calling other posters names or otherwise personally attacking them is not acceptable behavior on SDN, and it is a violation of the TOS you agreed to when you joined this website. This topic has obviously generated a lot of heat, but please try to avoid posting when you're angry so that we can get some light out of it, too. 🙂

 

[Perrotfish]

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[alpha62]

Uhh, watch Nick Jr. much lately?

You can't even do that now. Brittney Spears Little sister is knocked up at the age of 16 on that channel now too.

shall we save her a spot at the LSU school medicine, Class of 2018 ?
Like the other guy from Louisiana said. " You can do it ! "

 

[alpha62]

Are you actually for real? I can't even believe that you haven't been banned yet. You're 43 yrs old, you're not a pre-med, and you get your jollies off by going onto a pre-med forum and daily insulting single moms. Honestly, what is wrong with you? A single, professional mom is no more likely to behave inapropriately in a work setting than a married professional mother. My mid 40s boss who is a male and married with 3 children whose wife works from home with their horse grooming business will occasionally bring his kids into work if his wife needs some extra time to work at home by herself. This is not a phenomenom reserved for young single mothers. If the health care field is as un-family friendly as you try to make it seem, I feel sorry for anyone who is a part of it. You are demeaning and insulting and absolutely ridiculous.

Your boss sounds like a wimp to me. I don't know how old the kids are, but if they're handling live stock, there's plenty of character building work to do around a horse barn that involves a shovel and a pitchfork, rather than hanging out with the girls at the office.

 

[Perrotfish]

What else to do you want from me, Assign the Teletubbies to an aircraft carrier ?

Well, the Marines would love it, anyway.

 

[alpha62]

Well, the Marines would love it, anyway.

I think they'd take advantage of the Purple one with the purse

 

[t-funk]

Your boss sounds like a wimp to me. I don't know how old the kids are, but if they're handling live stock, there's plenty of character building work to do around a horse barn that involves a shovel and a pitchfork, rather than hanging out with the girls at the office.

I don't work at an office like I assume you think girls should. I've been a chemist for the last 7+ years and now do research on extraction and instrumental method development for LC and GC mass specrometers. I'm also a well water technician and geologist intern and occasionally go out to swine and cattle feeding lots to collect ground water samples as a part of a research project I'm working on. Oh yeah, and I got to experience being a single mom for about a year about 5 years back and survived it just fine.

My boss's kids do have their daily chores but sometimes it is easier for him to pick them up from school and bring them to the lab then to take them out to the country if their mom is busy. Am I to assume that you are saying my boss is a wimp bc he is willing to share parental duties with his wife?

 

[Nasrudin]

I could be mistaken having read the slew of self-important dribble coming from this threads respondents but I thought the subject of the thread was soliciting "successful single mother's stories."

Now it would seem from alpha's apparent disgust with all things vagina that don't involve orgasm that he--presumably he--has neither procreated nor been successful in a medical career, something perhaps noteworthy, in assessing the motivations to post incessantly on a subject that for all practical purposes one would think have little to do with him. One would think and yet.....?

 

[Doctor Bagel]

I could be mistaken having read the slew of self-important dribble coming from this threads respondents but I thought the subject of the thread was soliciting "successful single mother's stories."

You're saying exactly what I've been wanting to say. So if you have experience as a single mother on this path, please share it with the op. Otherwise, check out another thread because the op wasn't asking for your input.

 

[overthemoon]

Arabella and others,
I'm also a pre-med single mum. So while I'm not a success story, I'm on the path with you, also looking for evidence of other women's success. So far, with the pre-reqs and the working part-time, our life is pretty wonderful. (I'm willing to tolerate late nights, lack of sleep...) There's so much that I could say, but this thread has deteriorated. So I'll leave it for another time.

Yes, I believe that you can be a loving, good parent and choose this path. For me, the key is that I'm not really alone. I have a support network of friends and family (including my ex) who would step in at a moment's notice. IMHO, it takes a village...And also a well-constructed plan for how to get from A-B, for you and your children.

You know, there are even people who take 5 years to get through medical school 😱 or have children in medical school 😱. You have all kinds of options.

Listen to the advice and support of those who love you and care about you and your family...not just random people who don't know your heart or your abilities. I also feel that there are people who want to elevate medical school to a supernatural status...but I see it as a job...not an easy one...maybe more of a calling or vocation...but still just a job. A job that we single mums are certainly capable of doing, perhaps even with grace.

 

[alpha62]

Arabella and others,
I'm also a pre-med single mum. So while I'm not a success story, I'm on the path with you, also looking for evidence of other women's success. So far, with the pre-reqs and the working part-time, our life is pretty wonderful. (I'm willing to tolerate late nights, lack of sleep...) There's so much that I could say, but this thread has deteriorated. So I'll leave it for another time.

Yes, I believe that you can be a loving, good parent and choose this path. For me, the key is that I'm not really alone. I have a support network of friends and family (including my ex) who would step in at a moment's notice. IMHO, it takes a village...And also a well-constructed plan for how to get from A-B, for you and your children.

You know, there are even people who take 5 years to get through medical school 😱 or have children in medical school 😱. You have all kinds of options.

Listen to the advice and support of those who love you and care about you and your family...not just random people who don't know your heart or your abilities. I also feel that there are people who want to elevate medical school to a supernatural status...but I see it as a job...not an easy one...maybe more of a calling or vocation...but still just a job. A job that we single mums are certainly capable of doing, perhaps even with grace.

Oh god, there it is, I knew it was coming... It takes a Village... no you did not just drop that bomb girlfriend.

 

[phomp]

Now it would seem from alpha's apparent disgust with all things vagina that don't involve orgasm that he--presumably he--has neither procreated nor been successful in a medical career, something perhaps noteworthy, in assessing the motivations to post incessantly on a subject that for all practical purposes one would think have little to do with him. One would think and yet.....?

right on, nasrudin.

i suppose everyone is entitled to their opinion but as others have said this is not the place for it. too much of (pre)medicine is trying to cut the other guy down and it seems like that is happening a bit here.

i am a single mom of 2 school age children. i will be starting med school in the fall. not a success story (just yet anyway), but i plan to be. 😀 i really don't have any desire to post here just to be flamed, but would love to chat with those who are in the process through pm or whatever...

 

[alpha62]

I keep waiting to read a success story, but all I've gotten is one persons resume and a lot of wannabes.

 

[QofQuimica]

Ok, folks, the fun is over. Everyone go find something else to do. This thread is way off track and receiving multiple complaints. Closing.