So I have a friend who I think is faking an acceptance to NYU...

[What up doc]

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Okay so I have this "friend" who my freshman year was a pathological liar. She dissapeared for like 3 years, and I now all of a sudden see her everywhere. Apparently she is telling everyone that she got accepted to NYU. This sorority that she is not in (but has a friend whos in it) even threw a party for her earlier in the year. I'm about %85 sure she is lying. For instance, yesterday I asked if she went to a minority re-visit and she sad yes. I dont think they have a revisit for minorities, and I believe their actual revisit was this weekend. I definitely saw her at the bars this past fri and sat. Lol, im just playing detective here and Im wondering if there is anyway I can confirm that she is lying. Or perhaps more questions I can ask to confirm my suspicions. My intent is not to publicly expose or humiliate her; i just want to know for myself. Part of me thinks that she knows I know shes lying anyway.

 

[Handy388]

oh, the guy who thinks besides Harvard, UCSF, JHU, WashU, Stanford, Yale, UCLA and Duke all the other med schools are tier 10.

Why worried about NYU? Isn;t it too lowly ranked anyway?

 

[JulyMorning]

Why do you care if she is lying or not?
Many pathological liars have a major problem with self-esteem, and need to look better for everyone else, hence the lies. If you have reasons to distrust this person, then don't socialize with her, or simply treat everything she says with a grain of salt. But it beats me why you would want to know whether or not she's been accepted to NYU.

 

[Tin Man]

Does it really matter in the long run? If she's faking, all she wants is attention, and you're certainly giving it to her.

Also, you aren't giving us a whole lot of information as to how educated she actually is to the process. You could ask her what her MCAT and GPA scores were, then compare them to the general acceptance scores, but if she was pre-med and wanted to apply there anyway, she probably knows already.

If nothing else, most medical school classes aren't particularly big (around +-200). If you knew anybody in the class, it wouldn't be too hard to figure out when certain activities were going on, and then quizzing her about where she was during these activities.

My guess is that if she's actually looking for attention, there's a reason for it. Disappearing for three years is weird, but lying about it is even weirder, so if she is, then, if you feel it's your business to get involved, your question shouldn't be whether or not she's going to medical school, but rather why she would lie.

 

[thegetupkid]

If she's a liar--she's crying herself to sleep every night. (And, since apparently you aren't too fond of her, this should be consolation enough) If she's not lying, you are wasting your time.

Congrats on your acceptances though--baller.

 

[Dr Lyss]

I'm pretty sure NYU did have a mini revisit for URM students...

 

[georgearms]

A similar thing happened at my high school. This girl had been lying about being accepted to Stanford, and someone found out and told the entire school. About 500 people constantly gossiping about her was unproductive for everyone. I feel especially bad for the girl, since obviously she was already insecure. She didn't deserve to be publicly humiliated and ostracized, even if she did lie. Just let her be. People who lie about big things regret it sooner or later, and one day she'll probably see what living in deception has cost her.

And you never know, she might be telling the truth. 🙂

 

[Wylde]

Okay so I have this "friend" who my freshman year was a pathological liar. She dissapeared for like 3 years, and I now all of a sudden see her everywhere. Apparently she is telling everyone that she got accepted to NYU. This sorority that she is not in (but has a friend whos in it) even threw a party for her earlier in the year. I'm about %85 sure she is lying. For instance, yesterday I asked if she went to a minority re-visit and she sad yes. I dont think they have a revisit for minorities, and I believe their actual revisit was this weekend. I definitely saw her at the bars this past fri and sat. Lol, im just playing detective here and Im wondering if there is anyway I can confirm that she is lying. Or perhaps more questions I can ask to confirm my suspicions. My intent is not to publicly expose or humiliate her; i just want to know for myself. Part of me thinks that she knows I know shes lying anyway.

Just wait until she attends (or doesn't) in the fall?

Or ask questions that you actually know the answer to! Don't ask a question about revisits if you don't know when they are ...

 

[What up doc]

oh, the guy who thinks besides Harvard, UCSF, JHU, WashU, Stanford, Yale, UCLA and Duke all the other med schools are tier 10.

Why worried about NYU? Isn;t it too lowly ranked anyway?

haha..where did this come from? oh how i dont miss the pre-allo forum...f'ing lame-o.

If she's a liar--she's crying herself to sleep every night. (And, since apparently you aren't too fond of her, this should be consolation enough) If she's not lying, you are wasting your time.

Congrats on your acceptances though--baller.

ehh, i guess. i mean its not really consolation. im jus sick and tired of ppl walkin up 2 me and saying "OMG OMG OMG can you believe it!?" the minority community is pretty small at my school and its kinda like the talk of the town right now...there were very few of us who got admitted and i dunna, i just think its kinda wack 2 be fakin'...

i jus want sum ve-ri-tas.

I'm pretty sure NYU did have a mini revisit for URM students...

oooo...damn it...so maybe that is not a contradiction...ne confirmation of this?

A similar thing happened at my high school. This girl had been lying about being accepted to Stanford, and someone found out and told the entire school. About 500 people constantly gossiping about her was unproductive for everyone. I feel especially bad for the girl, since obviously she was already insecure. She didn't deserve to be publicly humiliated and ostracized, even if she did lie. Just let her be. People who lie about big things regret it sooner or later, and one day she'll probably see what living in deception has cost her.

And you never know, she might be telling the truth. 🙂

yea, true. she could of, i have no problems with her. i think its quite funny...and like i said i wanna kno jus 4 sum myself..now back 2 the question: ne ideas???

 

[DrYoda]

I think we should all choose a new accent to adopt for medical school.

I call Australian mate!

 

[WaterBird]

Also, you aren't giving us a whole lot of information as to how educated she actually is to the process. You could ask her what her MCAT and GPA scores were, then compare them to the general acceptance scores, but if she was pre-med and wanted to apply there anyway, she probably knows already.

Woah, I hope you don't take this advice. I think it's rude to ask someones scores - people get pretty sensitive about this.

But yeah, what do you care? If she's lying, you'll easily be able to tell come next fall. What made you doubt this to begin with? If she isn't lying, won't you feel kind of like a douche? Even though she's the talk of the town right now, you totally cleaned up this year and should be able to give her her five minutes

 

[guestdoc]

You sound surprisingly insecure even with all those acceptances. Is the URM community really so small at your school that there's only room for you?

Let her be. If you want to follow up on it later on (when it will be easy to figure out), so be it, but I think it's a big waste of time to be sleuthing it all out. Don't you have an apartment to find in Boston or something? 🙄

 

[sindadel]

Quit minding other people's business - even if she is lying, it just makes you look insecure.

 

[virusgirl]

Okay so I have this "friend" who my freshman year was a pathological liar. She dissapeared for like 3 years, and I now all of a sudden see her everywhere. Apparently she is telling everyone that she got accepted to NYU. This sorority that she is not in (but has a friend whos in it) even threw a party for her earlier in the year. I'm about %85 sure she is lying. For instance, yesterday I asked if she went to a minority re-visit and she sad yes. I dont think they have a revisit for minorities, and I believe their actual revisit was this weekend. I definitely saw her at the bars this past fri and sat. Lol, im just playing detective here and Im wondering if there is anyway I can confirm that she is lying. Or perhaps more questions I can ask to confirm my suspicions. My intent is not to publicly expose or humiliate her; i just want to know for myself. Part of me thinks that she knows I know shes lying anyway.

While it's pretty lame for someone to lie about a medical school acceptance, it's also kind of lame for you to get worked up about it to the extent that you want advice about "playing detective." Why do you care about this at all (since you claim you don't want to humiliate her)? Let's say you do some investigating and you do confirm your suspicions; what then? Will you feel happy or vindicated? I don't see what your goal is, except to pry into something that isn't exactly your business.

I agree with what's been said -- if she IS lying, it's because she's seriously insecure. If I knew someone who was acting this way, my instinct wouldn't be to figure out ways to catch them in a lie; I would just feel sorry for them. I would also be tremendously grateful for any acceptances that I legitimately earned.

Dude, you're going to medical school. Don't worry about where other people are going (or say they're going). It has absolutely no bearing upon you, so just let it go.

 

[JJMrK]

ehh, i guess. i mean its not really consolation. im jus sick and tired of ppl walkin up 2 me and saying "OMG OMG OMG can you believe it!?" the minority community is pretty small at my school and its kinda like the talk of the town right now...there were very few of us who got admitted and i dunna, i just think its kinda wack 2 be fakin'...

So basically, you want to go back to being the "talk of the town".

 

[littlealex]

Leave the poor girl alone and stop being so insecure. Who cares if she's being truthful or not? Focus on yourself and play your own game man. You can't race when you're always looking at the other runners.

Oh, and please, stop typing like you are under-educated. It is difficult to read.

 

[Just Joshin]

Someone who has med school acceptances and is pissed about someone possibly lying about theirs is suffering from "I wanna be the only star" syndrome, low self-esteem, and confidence issues.

 

[Siverhideo1985]

Did you post this expecting anything but scorn for your interest in someone else's (possibly made-up) acceptance?

 

[Handy388]

Never seen low-self esteem like the OP since the Great 57' low-self esteem oubreak.

Nah, I am just ****tin' ya. There ain't no 57' low-self esteem outbreak, it's just the OP.

 

[rocketbooster]

A similar thing happened at my high school. This girl had been lying about being accepted to Stanford, and someone found out and told the entire school. About 500 people constantly gossiping about her was unproductive for everyone. I feel especially bad for the girl, since obviously she was already insecure. She didn't deserve to be publicly humiliated and ostracized, even if she did lie. Just let her be. People who lie about big things regret it sooner or later, and one day she'll probably see what living in deception has cost her.

And you never know, she might be telling the truth. 🙂

that girl deserved to be humiliated and ostracized by the whole school. you should get no sympathy for lying. I don't buy any of this "compulsive liars need to lie in order feel good about themselves" as an excuse. lying isn't a disease, despite what the DSM labels it. if you lie, you pay the consequences.

 

[MilkmanAl]

Oh, and please, stop typing like you are under-educated. It is difficult to read.

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

 

[georgearms]

that girl deserved to be humiliated and ostracized by the whole school. you should get no sympathy for lying. I don't buy any of this "compulsive liars need to lie in order feel good about themselves" as an excuse. lying isn't a disease, despite what the DSM labels it. if you lie, you pay the consequences.

I used to think exactly like this too. Unfortunately because none of her friends decided to speak to her and she received no counseling, she STILL continues to lie even at college. This girl lies about EVERYTHING. Sure, people make conscious choices to lie, but with compulsive liars it is an addiction. They lie about the smallest, most inconsequential things as well as the bigger issues. I find it hard to believe that all of her lies were premeditated choices. So did she deserve to have everyone in the entire school bash her for what she did, ridicule her to the point where she feels even more isolated? I don't know. Obviously her lying habits do not indicate she was living a very secure or stable life. I don't think that isolation and ridicule is an appropriate "consequence" for a compulsive liar who is otherwise a very kind person.

 

[gumbyj]

Someone who has med school acceptances and is pissed about someone possibly lying about theirs is suffering from "I wanna be the only star" syndrome, low self-esteem, and confidence issues.

This is obviously all this thread is about.

OP, stop being such a tool.

 

[Siverhideo1985]

that girl deserved to be humiliated and ostracized by the whole school. you should get no sympathy for lying. I don't buy any of this "compulsive liars need to lie in order feel good about themselves" as an excuse. lying isn't a disease, despite what the DSM labels it. if you lie, you pay the consequences.

haha, one of your ex-gf/bf's lied to you, huh? seem a little heated on the subject...

 

[vickpick]

to the op: admit it, ur just a incredibly jealous jerk

 

[futIDdoc]

so I have this 'friend' that I am going to slam on an internet forum that is probably read by other people in the small community that I hang out in. I am really recognizable b/c I post a lot of personal info about me so it'll be quite easy to find out who this so-called 'liar' is.

Glad OP is not my friend

 

[phospho]

Someone who has med school acceptances and is pissed about someone possibly lying about theirs is suffering from "I wanna be the only star" syndrome, low self-esteem, and confidence issues.

Never seen low-self esteem like the OP since the Great 57' low-self esteem oubreak.

Nah, I am just ****tin' ya. There ain't no 57' low-self esteem outbreak, it's just the OP.

👍👍

OP, you have way too much time on your hands. Go get a job, or find yourself a hobby...

 

[Fakesmile]

OP, don't you have better things to do?
Why does it matter whether she lies or not?
Just let her be.

 

[redlight]

i don't think she's lying. and if she is, it will come out later.


either way the noise will die down sooner rather than later.

 

[MrBurns10]

Never seen low-self esteem like the OP since the Great 57' low-self esteem oubreak.

Nah, I am just ****tin' ya. There ain't no 57' low-self esteem outbreak, it's just the OP.

I don't laugh at many things said on an internet forum. Rumor has it I may not have a sense of humor at all. But this...this was funny.

 

[Siverhideo1985]

I don't laugh at many things said on an internet forum. Rumor has it I may not have a sense of humor at all. But this...this was funny.

You have no sense of humor? How are you surviving medical school? Life? 😱

 

[Anthony Hartsoc]

Never seen low-self esteem like the OP since the Great 57' low-self esteem oubreak.

Nah, I am just ****tin' ya. There ain't no 57' low-self esteem outbreak, it's just the OP.

I would equate the OP's low self-esteem to the horrendous levels seen in the 1918 outbreak.

 

[witness23]

lebron >>>>>>>>> wade

 

[GoSpursGo]

Let's please try to keep this thread civil and stay away from personal attacks.

 

[witness23]

Let's please try to keep this thread civil and stay away from personal attacks.

oh sht, thats actually dwyane?

 

[MrBurns10]

You have no sense of humor? How are you surviving medical school? Life? 😱

Self-flagellation?


That sounds dirty.

 

[MilkmanAl]

Not at all. I flagellate all the time.

 

[GoSpursGo]

oh sht, thats actually dwyane?

I wasn't referencing you specifically, just the thread in general 🙄

 

[MrBurns10]

Not at all. I flagellate all the time.

With or without informed consent?

 

[MDman87]

oh sht, thats actually dwyane?

 

[rocketbooster]

haha, one of your ex-gf/bf's lied to you, huh? seem a little heated on the subject...

no, there was this kid in my high school like the person the other poster described. he was in the IB program and dropped it his senior year. he said he wanted to go to UCLA, which preferred AP classes over IB so he dropped IB to take more AP ones. why would UCLA prefer AP over IB? they're looked at the same by all colleges who actually know what IB is, and UCLA is definitely a school that would know what IB was. then, later in the year he said he was national merit but "for some reason" they did not announce his name on the intercom like everyone else's. he also wasn't given the special candy-filled mug with balloons like everyone else. we asked him where his balloons were and he said "oh they're in my car and I already ate all the candy." he ended up going to our crappy state school (the crappiest one of the 3 in our state). we asked him what happened to UCLA and he goes "oh, I got into UCLA but decided to stay close to home instead." UH HUH after how BAD he wanted to go there....

then in college, he didn't take any classes his first year. he said he was going to model!? that didn't make sense because he was ugly and had pimples all over his face. I don't know how you could model like that...the next year we asked him about modeling and he said "oh yeah, I modeled a little a bit for the local newspaper but that was it." UH HUH.

so, of course now, everyone just refers to him as a compulsive liar and doesn't believe anything he says. we've never said anything to his face since we'd feel bad and are too nice of ppl.

that poster's comment made me happy because his school actually had ppl who were mean enough to humiliate that person for their lies. I always wanted someone to call that guy out who I know, but I didn't want to be one to do it because I'd feel bad making him look like an idiot in front of everyone. Just wanted to SEE someone do it. I'm glad that girl who the poster knows was called out. Justice! 👍

 

[funkymunkytoes]

OP, get a life.

 

[bkz]

Leave the poor girl alone and stop being so insecure. Who cares if she's being truthful or not? Focus on yourself and play your own game man. You can't race when you're always looking at the other runners.

Oh, and please, stop typing like you are under-educated. It is difficult to read.

👎 Textspeak is not difficult to read, everyone does it. Some people just type the way the speak. I don't proofread my posts 8000 times for grammar/spelling because I don't take them that freaking seriously...the only time I edit them is when I've said something a little too bluntly and I kinda suspect the op might be the same way

in his defense I think a lot of people are giving sarcastic responses because they assume he wants to go around outing her...he already said didn't want to do this...he just wants to know for his own curiosity.

just sort of randomly butting in here but there seems to be a reading comprehension issue.

oh sht, thats actually dwyane?

😆

 

[Handy388]

I knew a chick in highschool, she told me that

1. She dated a rockerfeller who gave her a Porsche
2. Her mother is a high up in the Oracle company
3. She goes to paris for the weekend
4. Her boyfriend is a special agent sent by CIA to seduce her.

I used to think she's bat**** insane compulsive liar(she went to my middle class highschool).

Then I went to her house.

She live in a gated community in the mountains, by herself. Appearently her mom did buy her a 2 million dollar mansion.

I fail.

 

[georgearms]

...
then in college, he didn't take any classes his first year. he said he was going to model!? that didn't make sense because he was ugly and had pimples all over his face. I don't know how you could model like that...the next year we asked him about modeling and he said "oh yeah, I modeled a little a bit for the local newspaper but that was it." UH HUH.

Hahaha...I thought this was funny. Good detective work.👍

 

[mbe36]

Putting so much energy into this puts you on her level.

Just worry about your own stuff---the truth always comes out.

 

[Lukkie]

add her on facebook to find out

 

[MsKrispyKreme]

Someone who has med school acceptances and is pissed about someone possibly lying about theirs is suffering from "I wanna be the only star" syndrome, low self-esteem, and confidence issues.

👍

so I have this 'friend' that I am going to slam on an internet forum that is probably read by other people in the small community that I hang out in. I am really recognizable b/c I post a lot of personal info about me so it'll be quite easy to find out who this so-called 'liar' is.

Glad OP is not my friend

Basically.

 

[witness23]

hey dwyane can i be in your fave 5?

 

[135892]

hahaha.....wow, its shocking to see what this thread has turned into...ummm, im not insecure, and no im not wanting 2 be "the only superstar" haha...i do have alotta time on my hands and i guess i shouldnt waste it posting on an anonymous internet forum with a buncha losers who feel it neccesary to bash on sum1 whom they dont kno...all u ppl bashin on me without even knowing me can eat a dick

neway, maybe she did get in...but shes been caught lying before, and sumthin jus doesnt add up...personally i dont feel like ive put much effort by spending 2 seconds and typing a thread to find out more about the school...and no, not very many ppl i kno actually frequent this website and i have no intentions of exposing her...i jus wanted 2 see if i could confirm my suspicions...if you wasted 10 seconds of your day to post "get a life" or to call me a "tool" then you obviously are the insecure one...haha...i love this website!

Is it really that hard to type out a few more letters? Or is purposely misspelling the "cool" thing to do nowadays? I am seriously curious, I don't know these things 😕

And warranted or not, you should have known that this sort of response was coming...