So I was accepted to the same school as my ex-fiancee who is a M3. What could go wrong?

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It pretty much all depends on why you broke up with her. Why'd you break it off?
 
entgegen123 said:
So I broke up with my fiancee and basically cut off contact a year ago. She is an M3 at the medical school I will be attending. It was a nasty break up and I had considered filing a restraining order against her (but never did).

My questions:

1) Will I see her as an M1 if she is a M3 and the class size is ~100 students?

2) Is there some way she could cause trouble for me as an M1?

3) Is this something I should discuss with the administration before I enter?

Thank you.

Also, PM me and I can go into more details...
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1)maybe
2)maybe
3)maybe
 
I don't think you'll see her much (or at all) if she's an M3 and you're an M1, especially if you don't attend lectures. I also don't think she could do anything to cause trouble unless she causes trouble for herself too. And no, I wouldn't tell the admin, but you might consider telling her so she can actively avoid you too.
 
Women hate being dumped. Probably much worse for you since you ruined her date with her Big Day. So I'd say at the minimum, she spreads nasty rumors and all her friends will hate you. Whether she goes psycho again just depends on where she's at.
 
damn you guys and your helpful advice, i wanted the juicy gossip ><

but forrealz OP, i dont think i would drag the administration into your lovedrama...
 
1) Unlikely. It depends on the school, but you won't really be seeing 3rd & 4th years unless you're all up in the hospital or something.

2) Not that likely, but possible, unless maybe she bad mouths you to her attendings, which I can't imagine being a big deal.

3) I wouldn't, but I guess it depends on what you expect she would do. Comes off as childish/petty. Now if something comes up, maybe, but not now in anticipation of something happening. Also, don't tell her anything. If she doesn't know your attending, is even less likely she would do or say anything about you,
 
solitarius said:
Women hate being dumped. Probably much worse for you since you ruined her date with her Big Day. So I'd say at the minimum, she spreads nasty rumors and all her friends will hate you. Whether she goes psycho again just depends on where she's at.
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Should be ok unless the rumor involves a gerbil.
 
So she'll be an M4 when you start next year?

1) Very rarely, if ever. Most of the time she'll be in the hospital on rotations. Then again, M4s do have tons of free time to do what ever they want including making their ex-fiancee's life miserable.

2) Sure, anything's possible. Especially if she's cray.

3) Why not?
 
ex sex is the best sex

edit: no seriously, it is. As a matter of fact, my relationship with my ex had never been better the moment I broke up with her. Sex after that was so glorious and hanging out was fun. do it op

editx2: Ex-gf. Never got engaged.
 
JP2740 said:
ex sex is the best sex

edit: no seriously, it is. As a matter of fact, my relationship with my ex had never been better the moment I broke up with her. Sex after that was so glorious and hanging out was fun. do it op

editx2: Ex-gf. Never got engaged.
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Lol.
 
entgegen123 said:
So I broke up with my fiancee and basically cut off contact a year ago. She is an M3 at the medical school I will be attending. It was a nasty break up and I had considered filing a restraining order against her (but never did).

My questions:

1) Will I see her as an M1 if she is a M3 and the class size is ~100 students?

2) Is there some way she could cause trouble for me as an M1?

3) Is this something I should discuss with the administration before I enter?

Thank you.

Also, PM me and I can go into more details...
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m3 or m4 usually never see m1 or m2, unless they go out of their way to like a club activity or perhaps major school event
 
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solitarius said:
Women hate being dumped. Probably much worse for you since you ruined her date with her Big Day. So I'd say at the minimum, she spreads nasty rumors and all her friends will hate you. Whether she goes psycho again just depends on where she's at.
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who cares. she would be m3 when he is m1; group of friends will never interact
 
Whether or not you realize it, worrying about her and/or feeling the need to take pre-emptive action only gives her power over you. Look forward, not backward; let the past be the past. I speak from 20+ years of dating experience, and understand your situation.

Don't mention it to administration. You want them to remember you for your excellence, not for past drama.

As others have said, the possibility of a MS3 or MS4 interacting with an MS1 are low. You'll be in the classroom, and she will be on her clinical rotations.

Good luck!
 
As an MS3, I think I only know ~10 MS1's. 5 of them through the mentorship group thing that my school does, 4 of them through a club, and 1 of them from before med school. I guess OP would fall in that last category, but I have seen that person zero times since school started, as I am not in school except for aforementioned club.
 
Ismet said:
As an MS3, I think I only know ~10 MS1's. 5 of them through the mentorship group thing that my school does, 4 of them through a club, and 1 of them from before med school. I guess OP would fall in that last category, but I have seen that person zero times since school started, as I am not in school except for aforementioned club.
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At my school of ~100 per class, I knew about half of the M1s when I was an M3. And more like 80-90% of them as an M4 since I got more involved in stuff like mentoring and anatomy TA-ing/tutoring.

We had a lot of school wide social events.

I could easily see if someone had a vendetta how they could make life pretty uncomfortable for their ex. But it all depends how crazy/dedicated to doing so they are. I agree with all others it would likely be fine...just could also see lots of creative ways for them to make things dicey.
 
UCbanned said:
Whether or not you realize it, worrying about her and/or feeling the need to take pre-emptive action only gives her power over you. Look forward, not backward; let the past be the past. I speak from 20+ years of dating experience, and understand your situation.

Don't mention it to administration. You want them to remember you for your excellence, not for past drama.

As others have said, the possibility of a MS3 or MS4 interacting with an MS1 are low. You'll be in the classroom, and she will be on her clinical rotations.

Good luck!
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Totally agree. Don't let this issue change you OP. Keep your head up and be the bigger person. If she wants it to bother her, assuming she'll even find out, fine, but don't let it bother you.
 
fancymylotus said:
Grouch

Relationships aren't that bad
Especially with the right person 🙂
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Yea, and then when she becomes a different person in 10 years, and decides to get a divorce and step on your life, it's not so bad. Everyone's doing it, right?

Or if I get cancer and she cheats on me. No thanks.
 
fancymylotus said:
Ummmmm...

maybe you should go post on theredpill 🙂
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I just don't want to get into a fighting matching with 60% fail rate. Sounds hard. Not willing to put up with the possibility, and not one of those guys who wants to be working on 3rd marriage just for the lulz. Don't wanna be in poverty mode from child support making a doctor income either. I mean I'm not asexual, now those mother ****ers are strange, and also admirable.
 
JP2740 said:
I just don't want to get into a fighting matching with 60% fail rate. Sounds hard. Not willing to put up with the possibility, and not one of those guys who wants to be working on 3rd marriage just for the lulz. Don't wanna be in poverty mode from child support making a doctor income either. I mean I'm not asexual, now those mother ******* are strange, and also admirable.
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You need to look at the 60% statistic in context. That number includes the kids who get knocked up in High School, the kids who get married between 18-25, etc. I imagine the divorce rate for mature adults--who did not marry under duress--is much lower.

There are plenty of great people in the world; you just need to learn how to recognize the good and the bad. Things like attention-seeking behavior, rudeness, dislike of animals, blaming others, or stories of past domestic violence are huge red flags ... men just tend to ignore them.
 
I can help her stay away from you if you want. However... you supply the lotion..
 
JP2740 said:
I just don't want to get into a fighting matching with 60% fail rate. Sounds hard. Not willing to put up with the possibility, and not one of those guys who wants to be working on 3rd marriage just for the lulz. Don't wanna be in poverty mode from child support making a doctor income either. I mean I'm not asexual, now those mother ******* are strange, and also admirable.
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Lots of things in life with large failure rates. Doesn't mean you're supposed to hide out at home and live in fear...

Although I guess going HAM on the bishes in da club on top of mount privilege(I think I hit all our allo high points) does sound appealing, I suppose??
 
Southplains said:
Uninhibited, more about physical experience than expressing the relationship between them.
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I would have thought the opposite. That having a relationship between the two would make it better, rather than just physicality only when you don't have any connection with the person.
 
DermViser said:
I would have thought the opposite. That having a relationship between the two would make it better, rather than just physicality only when you don't have any connection with the person.
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I totally agree, but they broke up so I'd imagine the former just wasn't there. Feigning love making when all you want to do is get freaky isn't as great as finally getting freaky.
 
Southplains said:
Haha "lovemaking" only implies you really love them, not boring vanilla sex. My freakiest exploits have been with those I really love, and will be most open about what I want with.
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Ah. Well. The only person I'm trusting enough to do anything super kinky or crazy with is someone I'm in love with so i agree with you. It's way more fun that way.
 
UCbanned said:
You need to look at the 60% statistic in context. That number includes the kids who get knocked up in High School, the kids who get married between 18-25, etc. I imagine the divorce rate for mature adults--who did not marry under duress--is much lower.
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There are also the serial divorcers bringing that number up.
 
Y'all need to chill with this women-bashing ish.

For real tho hon I don't think you will ever have to see her if you don't want to. I never see 3 years :shrug: I wouldn't bring anything up to the administration unless she pulls something.
 
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