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It's a sick "keeping up with the Jones" mentality that is rooted in pride. I'm a doctor, my friends are doctors, their kids are doctors, my son better damn well be a doctor. Why? So I can brag about my son to my friends when they brag about their kids. And within the community, this feeling self perpetuates because it is a form of social proof. A caste system really.
I grew up exposed to the "fact" that being a Doctor is the ultimate, greatest, be all end all, career. It took me until my 3rd year, talking to my counselor to realize that this is just a twisted opinion and nothing else. I had a wonderful career before (non-traditional), but the minute I hit some roadblocks there, I reverted to the "fact" that maybe I should have gone to Medical School as my parents insisted.
And now here I am. All alone on a cold winter night after a snowstorm with nothing to show for this greatest of all careers. I had a date with a beautiful gal whom I had to cancel on for this SOAP. Don't get me wrong, it is my fault and I take the blame for not having good enough scores. But that's the point, it's not at all dandy as the picture that was painted. I just never ever appreciated or thought about the risks. Because the rewards were infinitely greater supposedly.
I think this is my favorite quote of the thread. Very interesting and great points.
So I've already experienced several programs that have put their phones to automatic voicemail, with the mailboxes full. Lol
I understand their position, but what the hell are we supposed to do as we wait?
Go to the gym.. that's what I'm gonna do (I haven't been in 3 days). Waiting and stressing is for soap, now you can only hope for a program to randomly open up a position and for you to randomly hear about it thru swaparesid, word of mouth, etc. One time last year in May I tried to get a pgy-1 position that I found out thru word of mouth. No luck calling and they didn't respond to emails. I drove 3 hours and hand delivered it and got my school to email my lors (since I couldn't contact thru eras, and lors are waived obv). The PC or secretary or whoever I gave my app to was stressed as she had been getting so many calls and emails and literally thousands of apps.
Turns out they weren't really looking for a position, or they were, but only someone super excellent and did not want word of mouth to get out and get like 3k apps. Ultimately the PD decided to just be short one resident July 1.
My advice is to look for 2 kinds of work starting Monday:
1) Work in the medical field: This is NOT getting PA jobs, pharm companies, can I be a nurse?, or a half doc in missouri>?..... NO. F THAT! Those jobs all want multi-year commitments and have additional training, requirements, licenses, etc. And if you want to be a PA you should do it because you want to be a PA more than a doctor, not as a stepping stone cause it's only a stepping stone for getting INTO medical school NOT residency. Now, by work in the medical field I mean preparing Monday for next year's MATCH!! You are a doctor and the jobs doctors get are available after you complete residency. That's how it works and I'm in the same position as you. Hammer your dean of student affairs as it is their job to help you match! Contact every PD you interviewed with/applied to and ask how you can improve. They allow 4 LORs make sure they are all great and all in your field. I could go on but you get the point that looking for "work in the medical field" is essentially improving your app to land a position.
2) Work not in the medical field: Your degree is your street credit and tells people you are smart and hardworking. You will find people just find it interesting when a "doctor" is looking for work in their field. You don't have to make much, you just gotta pay some bills for 9 months or so. I'm gonna warn you that you gotta be very creative and/or humble. Ok, you are a doctor and trying to find work as a doctor (a residency). This is a noble pursuit no matter who you talk to. But what else are you good at that can maybe bring in $$. You referenced talents in your quote above as you had a job before no? So, you are lucky, and may not need to be as creative as I've had to be in the past. Sometimes the humility comes when you wake up every morning asking the question, "how can I put food on the table today?"
This SOAP week was bad and certainly a tough time in my life. I've had a crazy, interesting life and have faced more difficult times than this though. I guess I feel bad for the kids who are like 27 years old and this is the first kinda bad thing that's happened to them.
It's kinda just a game. Next year you will play it better and win.