Social Failure. Anyone else feel like they are missing out?

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You have to balance. I have had times when i wish i could do things that i had to turn down to study, but i keep a social life. I have friends in my science major and outside of my major. I am involved in a sorority and several other organizations. Although we do have to sacrifice more than most, don't let your college years pass you by either.
 
At least you live on campus. I live at home because living on campus is too much money so I really have no social life. Oh well.

+1. Commuter woes make it a lot more difficult to socialize. =/ Enjoy living on campus while you can OP -- you've got a cool social life practically smacking you in the face when you do, and you need only learn when the proper times and places are for studying/having fun respectively. Go get 'em, OP.
 
I feel like this thread is describing my life right now. I'm not doing ANYTHING tonight because I'm heading back to school in a few days and my parents want me home. Not to mention I just turned 21 so I think they're forcing me to stay home on purpose haha.
 
I feel like this thread is describing my life right now. I'm not doing ANYTHING tonight because I'm heading back to school in a few days and my parents want me home. Not to mention I just turned 21 so I think they're forcing me to stay home on purpose haha.

dont you just hate that
 
I was actually thinking about joining APO, I might depending on how next semester goes. 🙂
 
Why is this thread 6 pages?

I demand cliffs...
 
You know what I disagree with everyone who says "college is best times ever.... drinking is fun" yea for some people but college is not the high light of life. People make it seem like you must have a "life" in college. Big deal life starts when your career starts when you meet people in your level of intellect those are the people you want to make friends with. Society is what puts that pressure that you need a social life and beer to survive.
 
You know what I disagree with everyone who says "college is best times ever.... drinking is fun" yea for some people but college is not the high light of life. People make it seem like you must have a "life" in college. Big deal life starts when your career starts when you meet people in your level of intellect those are the people you want to make friends with. Society is what puts that pressure that you need a social life and beer to survive.

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You know what I disagree with everyone who says "college is best times ever.... drinking is fun" yea for some people but college is not the high light of life. People make it seem like you must have a "life" in college. Big deal life starts when your career starts when you meet people in your level of intellect those are the people you want to make friends with. Society is what puts that pressure that you need a social life and beer to survive.

I dunno, working kind of really sucks.
 
You know what I disagree with everyone who says "college is best times ever.... drinking is fun" yea for some people but college is not the high light of life. People make it seem like you must have a "life" in college. Big deal life starts when your career starts when you meet people in your level of intellect those are the people you want to make friends with. Society is what puts that pressure that you need a social life and beer to survive.

wow an outstanding post
 
You know what I disagree with everyone who says "college is best times ever.... drinking is fun" yea for some people but college is not the high light of life. People make it seem like you must have a "life" in college. Big deal life starts when your career starts when you meet people in your level of intellect those are the people you want to make friends with. Society is what puts that pressure that you need a social life and beer to survive.

College is a time for most people to have fun. Then they go work menial jobs with their business management (retail chain store manager) degree.

Med school is a good time to make intellectual friends and party with smart folks. College can sometimes be that way, too.

By the time our careers, as physicians, roll around in full swing, it's time to calm down a bit.

tl;dr, make time for life no matter what time of life you're at.
 
College is a time for most people to have fun. Then they go work menial jobs with their business management (retail chain store manager) degree.

Med school is a good time to make intellectual friends and party with smart folks. College can sometimes be that way, too.

By the time our careers, as physicians, roll around in full swing, it's time to calm down a bit.

tl;dr, make time for life no matter what time of life you're at.

You don't have to make friends with your med school mates do you? I heard most people who go to med school are busy with work and rarely is there a closeness to them like there is in college.

I see myself as being the guy who will probably make friends with a lot of non-med school people.
 
You don't have to make friends with your med school mates do you? I heard most people who go to med school are busy with work and rarely is there a closeness to them like there is in college.

I see myself as being the guy who will probably make friends with a lot of non-med school people.

That's not what I've seen. Some med schools are isolated from other grad/undergrad schools. Either way I've seen med school folks from all over hang out with buddies from the med school.
 
You don't have to make friends with your med school mates do you? I heard most people who go to med school are busy with work and rarely is there a closeness to them like there is in college.

I see myself as being the guy who will probably make friends with a lot of non-med school people.

it depends I guess. I think the best time of med school (including 4th year) was actually the start of second year. The work was a bitch, but by then you got good at studying and knew when to cut back, and with the Phillies in the post-season it was like one big party.

By mid-second year though, everyone kinda got stressed out and about half the class at JMC (and other med schools in the area) ended up on match.com to try to meet new people. A few classmates of mine are married now from meeting people at that time, but by then the closeness starts to break up. (third year though you tend to meet people you never met before thru your rotations).
 
yeah I've seen a lot of med school students form small groups of friends starting first year and they seem to hold it together throughout the remainder of med school. It's like a little family, and they hang out all the time. But some of the others have said that they NEED friends from other backgrounds because at some point in the day, you don't want to hear about medicine anymore. You just want a break
 
It's OK... 10-15 years from now you'll be a successful doctor earning top money and you'll be getting all the bishes and couldn't be happier.

Oh, wait.
 
LOL, guys on this forum are a bunch of wimps who would settle down with just about any women who would give them the time of the day. They get mad at guys who have options.

Well I am gonna get out before I completely ruin the thread.

AMEN. American culture in general is like this. It definitely emasculates males to a high degree. It goes both ways too, its not right for either sex to sleep around. I guess there are a lot of ****** on this website that take this as a personal attack on them.
 
have some confidence man...

I'm a loner myself, so I can't help you with the other stuff, but first and foremost you should get your confidence up.
 
I'm only making this post because I want to admire my new signature. Sorry everyone... this is the first and the last time I'm doing this.
 
"This one had me, my husband, and our friend laughing out loud, good work"

Funniest post of the thread, so you guys tell your family members and other friends about the drama on an internet forum?

Well we know you don't have much going on in real life.

Seriously who does that though? Most people keep their internet posts and stuff to themselves and don't bother to share it with family because, well, they have better stuff to talk about than posts on an internet forum.

Bubble bubble bubble, I swear, you guys are one of those people born with golden spoons in their mouth who go to top prep schools where everyone is White and the sheltered from the real world.

Here's the difference between you and me, I have a life, and I have friends, who come over... when I am on my laptop and am laughing out loud, in front of other, REAL people, I let them know why I am laughing out loud... They ALSO laughed out loud, at YOU! Btw, that's AT YOU! Real people, laughing out loud at you and your misguided view of women.

If I have said anything about being Indian, it has been about how much I wish I wasn't an Indian. My family is traditional in the education sense but in other ways they don't care who I date or marry.

What "respectable" Indian family? Oh you mean the same families that hang their kids for associating with Blacks and Hispanics?

I didn't once show any pride in being Indian, you people need to get your heads out of your rectum and exit the safety bubble you live in, interact with people in the real world rather than overly privileged snobs. And somehow you guys are supposed to be doctors, poor patients =(

Respectable Indians who teach their children to be respectable adults who respect ALL people, I'm not sure what group of Indians you're referring to, as I have never met any like what you're describing... What you describe doesn't sound respectable, it sounds like YOU, judgmental and hateful!!!

Protagonistic STOP POSTING ON MY THREAD.😡

WHY WON'T THE MODS BAN PROTAGONISTIC? I have seen new members get banned for the littlest things, but yet the mods won't ban protagonistic for trolling this much.

As to everyone else thank for all the help and advice. Thanks for all the encouragement as well, it has given a different perspective on my situation. 🙂

OP, you have way fewer social issues than you think, you'll make friends in no time, like I said, just make sure you get out 1x/2x times each month, and join some clubs... it will be fine!

I dunno, working kind of really sucks.

OH YEAH! Work in the real world does suck! Especially if its not what you really want to do...

You don't have to make friends with your med school mates do you? I heard most people who go to med school are busy with work and rarely is there a closeness to them like there is in college.

I see myself as being the guy who will probably make friends with a lot of non-med school people.

GEE YA THINK??? You get along so well with all of us premeds? Who would have thought it might be tough for you to make friends with us? Also, yes, they FORCE you to be friends with the people you go to school with, if you don't, you're bound, gagged, and tortured until you submit to being friends with them...

AMEN. American culture in general is like this. It definitely emasculates males to a high degree. It goes both ways too, its not right for either sex to sleep around. I guess there are a lot of ****** on this website that take this as a personal attack on them.

Yep, THAT'S why women take offense to being told their used up if they had sex once... Yep... that's the making of *****'s right there... wow... Another completely idiotic statement...
 
I was gonna ask for cliffs, but I had no idea there was so much drama in this thread.

Will read.
 
Wow, I pissed her off pretty bad xD.

She told all her "real life" friends about me, I am a celeb to people I don't know and people I don't give a crap about.
 
Protag omg you're soooo annoying
 
lol Protagonist makes fun of people who are on this site about settling for anything. Yet, he has 300+ posts. He brags about having choices on this site. I bet in real life he really has self-esteem issues and comes on this site and makes up stories to make himself feel better LMAO. People like you crack me up hahahahhaahha. I mean if your going to say people on this site are losers who would settle for anything, at least don't have a 300 post count lol.

To OP: For me, it is honestly impossible for me to study if I feel depressed. I just end up sitting around doing nothing and unable to concentrate. So honestly, I am impressed u can study 24/7 without being distracted.
Anyways, It is also weird to me that you said you didn't have time in high school for a social life. I felt high school was extremely easy and there's no way you studied 24/7 in high school. I honestly think you are using schoolwork has a rationalization for not having a social life.
 
lol Protagonist makes fun of people who are on this site about settling for anything. Yet, he has 300+ posts. He brags about having choices on this site. I bet in real life he really has self-esteem issues and comes on this site and makes up stories to make himself feel better LMAO. People like you crack me up hahahahhaahha. I mean if your going to say people on this site are losers who would settle for anything, at least don't have a 300 post count lol.
3 things.
1. thats the stupidest thing i've ever read in my life...

300 posts? he's been a member for 6 months... lets assume that gives him 2 posts per day... average time to write a response (we'll go high end here) is 5 minutes..

10 minutes per day to post on sdn and that means that he has no social life? Worst argument ever.

2. with that in mind... everything that protaganist has said has been blatantly ******ed...

3. to the op: um...find a balance? It's not as hard as you think. If you cant find a balance now you are going to hate med school. Find a group of friends...make time for them, atleast once a week/2 weeks. No excuses. Topic over.
 
this... thread... needs... to... STOP

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I just finished up my undergrad, and while college may or may not be "the best time of your life," when else can you do the following, as the Mrs. Stinson says:

"There is no thrill equal to looking into [someone's] eyes and thinking, 'I don't know your name, you don't know mine, but for the next eight minutes we are gonna rock this gas station bathroom right off its foundation and then just drive off in opposite directions.'"

"Just keep driving."

OP, just keep driving

Protagonistic, I just want to take a shot at you too. You are pathetic and your views towards women are absolutely unacceptable. I wouldn't be surprised if you face a lawsuit one day for harassing a female patient
 
Wow, I pissed her off pretty bad xD.

She told all her "real life" friends about me, I am a celeb to people I don't know and people I don't give a crap about.

Wow... you really think highly of yourself... all my real life friends? Lets see... I am sure to you one friend plus a spouse probably does seem like a great many, however, it's no where close to all my friends... I am sure its 2 more than you have... You're not a celebrity, you're a pathetic loser... And I'm not mad at you, I feel bad for you...
 
Protagonistic is an elaborate troll. Stop responding 😕
 
Please don't go to 7 pages. 🙁
 
First of all I want to say congrats for getting into a top 10 university, that in itself is admirable and I am sure your parents are proud and now onto your question.

I wasted my first two years of high school with depression and being alone, didn't have a strong social life but my high school only had like 350 or so students in it. My junior year I aced everything including AP classes and same with senior year, didn't get into any top 20 schools but did get into some top 50 schools, no scholarships so I had to settle for commuting.

Well my high school social life was a waste so the summer after my high school graduation I go ALL OUT socially. Got myself a girlfriend, got myself an active social life, and I ended up having that till my very first semester of college.

Result? I was so concerned with getting a social life I got a 2.9 my first year of college, I had hopes of getting a 3.8 at least so I could transfer somewhere like to an Ivy but hey, that is out of reach now, best I can get is a 3.6.

My point!?

You only get 4 years of college to get that good GPA and work your way to med school. People think college is for active social life and partying hard but those are for people who waste their first two years and wake up their third year with a low C average knowing they are limited in what they can do in terms of pursuing their studies after college. Grades in high school matter, grades in college REALLY matter.

If you find yourself studying nearly every hour of the day to get a high GPA then do just that. You will have a life after college for a social life (as many people have told me) and girls will come when the cash starts rolling in. You will get an opportunity for finding love and finding that special someone and you will become a somebody, if you have time in your day then walk around the campus and chat with a few students for a short amount of time.

Your grades matter and I will get swarmed but believe me, you are making the right choice in caring about grades. I wish I had your ambition my first semester of college, wouldn't be sitting here a bit bothered.

Best of luck!

There are some good points here, but lets not forget you are on SDN, you want to go to med school, and med school REQUIRES social skills, I cannot imagine being a patient and talking to a med student that has absolutely no social skills, you can be the smartest guy ever but that doesnt make you stand out in clinical settings as much as someone who knows how to act around people, would be good to start working on this now. Join clubs etc, talk to random people, get urself out of that shell! social skills will put yourself light years ahead of someone who doesnt have any.
 
senior year sort of feels that way. by the end of college, not that many remain as pre meds. most of my friends are in business/engineer/it/cs majors and it kinda sucks to be pre med right now. my friends are basically partying all day and spending $$ because they all have jobs lined up for after college paying on average around 6 figure payouts after bonuses. i guess thats what i get for being pre med in an ivy league school in new york -_-
 
senior year sort of feels that way. by the end of college, not that many remain as pre meds. most of my friends are in business/engineer/it/cs majors and it kinda sucks to be pre med right now. my friends are basically partying all day and spending $$ because they all have jobs lined up for after college paying on average around 6 figure payouts after bonuses. i guess thats what i get for being pre med in an ivy league school in new york -_-

so... Columbia...
 
I found the best way to balance it is to study your butt off all day monday to thursday, but take an hour or so to go eat with some friends at dining hall or off campus. Also study for several hours late sunday afternoon.

Friday afternoon through midday Sunday should be spent doing fun stuff, the things provide the great memories from college.

i know some people on here (ones that dont have much of a social life themselves) wil ltell you college is only about studying, but that is false.

You will meet lifetime friends from college and will regret missing the opportunity to really experience the most fun 4 years of your life.
 
to summarize:

Manage your time wisely, leaving time to hang out with friends and meet new people!




and protagonistic is a troll 😉
 
honestly though, how can undergrad be so time consuming? I didn't find undergrad too overwhelming and I find med school to be crazy, I can't imagine if you have to study 24/7 what med school will be like for you?
 
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