Strange interaction with one resident. Should I still rank this program highly?

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Hi all, so I will get straight to them point. So I applied to a program that is far from where my med school is for a residency program. I liked the interview day but there was one resident that rubbed me the wrong way. Just seemed not as welcoming as everyone else. And seemed like she is a problem to work with (from my limited exposure to her). I also noticed that the other residents would talk over her during lunch and she got upset several times. To me specifically she asked, "so why did you apply here out of ....(name of state where my med school is)?" I answered her that there aren't alot of programs for my chosen field in my state. It wasn't necessarily what she said but how she said it.

Anyway, I liked everyone else but she will be my senior resident if I match there. Not sure what my "gut feeling" is. I thought the PD and the other people who interviewed me were awesome.

Just wanted to hear anybody's opinion, preferably someone who has gone/going through the match. Don't want to miss out on a program because I am avoiding one person.

Expecting alot of views and very few answers lol...

If someone can give their two cents, it will be appreciated.

 

[Siverhideo1985]

All of your professional life you will have to work with people you don't like or get along with, strange characters, complete nuts and plain mean people. Take this opportunity to learn how to deal with this fact.

 

[GoSpursGo]

To me specifically she asked, "so why did you apply here out of ....(name of state where my med school is)?"

That doesn't seem like an unusual question to me at all 😕

In any case, I agree with what was said above. There's always going to be someone at whatever program you go to that you don't like dealing with. The fact that you happened to find this person on your interview day at this program rather than at the other programs shouldn't affect how you rank them, unless it seems like it's a problem with many people at the program.

 

[Miss Alyssa]

I met some weird residents along the way. I asked one resident about something... I don't even know what it was, maybe vaginal hysterectomy experience/training. and she was like "you wont be doing that as an intern" and I was thinking, "well one day... when i'm not an intern..."

I had another resident get too close in my personal space and ask me strange questions. If your head is at my shoulder you're too close.

As the others said, you will meet 'personalities' at any program. One fellow put it "what's worse, the beast you know or the beast you don't". For all we know the other programs we interviewed at were hiding their 'personalities'.


What would raise an eyebrow for me is the fact that the residents at the program u interviewed were talking over a resident. That seems rude.

 

[zappeuse]

well one program I visited actually exposed its most uncomfortable resident to make the tour. at least I cannot imagine anyone worse. all I can think of this person when I think back to the iv day..

 

[Stixman28]

Yeah I disagree with the sentiment on this thread. Of course I know that there are always oddballs and personalities we will have to deal with no matter the career. However, depending on the size of the program you're going into, you may be signing up to spend 100's of hours with them.

I also know that in any random residency class, there is usually the one who slipped through, and not reflective of the overall personality of the department.

In the end, I strongly believe using personalities you interact with to help determine rank list is not only legit, but essential.

 

[gutonc]

If this is a specialty where there are 1-5 residents/year then it might be an issue and something for you to consider. If this is an average-sized university IM program, this person represents ~1% of your future co-residents and is irrelevant.

As others have pointed out, you're going to spend your career dealing with asshats and d-bags (as partners, consultants, referring docs, etc), might as well get used to it now.

Also, just because you didn't meet them, don't assume that similar people aren't in every other program where you interviewed.

 

[deleted497653]

Thanks for the responses. Just trying to pick a good place where I will atleast be at peace, happy, and with people I can hang out with outside the hospital