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I think it's a wholly appropriate supervision comment, as long as it can be explained in a coherent way with operational definitions and examples. As far as this example, it's not really anywhere near being reportable.
We obviously don't know the full story here, but I have no idea what the issue is. He's not a cuddly teddy bear, but that's not a requirement. Nothing you have posted is even slightly inappropriate even if it doesn't feel great to hear. It can be somewhat annoying to have people nitpick at reports, but that's a sign that they care about quality. This is assuming they can back that comment up with examples and help you improve. If you want to stand up for yourself, I'd encourage you to do so. My experience with these folks is that a mature conversation about how you react to their feedback and how it impacts your behavior in supervision is likely to be well-received. Specific requests for how to improve are likely to be well received. "Stop being mean to me and only say supportive things" is not likely to go over well though. Your mileage may vary though.
I actually wish I had more supervisors like that. Only had one. Learned more from them than from all my other supervisors combined. Its just like therapy - the folks who make the most progress are almost invariably the ones who get pissed at me every now and then.
I actually wish I had more supervisors like that. Only had one. Learned more from them than from all my other supervisors combined. Its just like therapy - the folks who make the most progress are almost invariably the ones who get pissed at me every now and then.
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Not even close to being "reportable" and not inappropriate.
You aren't good at taking feedback if you're only good at taking positive feedback.
You aren't good at taking feedback if you're only good at taking positive feedback.
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Thanks for the input it was really helpful!
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I agree with the above comments. I also think it may be useful to ask for specific examples when your supervisor makes these comments in the future (if not already stated) and how the supervisor thinks you could improve.
In my experience with getting feedback that was difficult to hear I spent time reflecting on it and determining how I could apply it. When I wasn't sure how to do so or if I were to get the feedback again I would talk with my supervisor in more detail. Having a respectful conversation about how some feedback has affected your behavior in supervision will not only clarify the feedback, but also aid in your growth as a supervisee.
In my experience with getting feedback that was difficult to hear I spent time reflecting on it and determining how I could apply it. When I wasn't sure how to do so or if I were to get the feedback again I would talk with my supervisor in more detail. Having a respectful conversation about how some feedback has affected your behavior in supervision will not only clarify the feedback, but also aid in your growth as a supervisee.
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