Suprised pregnancy at the begging of pharmacy school
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This profession is going straight to hell.My friend and I both got into pharmacy school this year. suprisingly she just found out she’s pregnant and will be due in the middle of September. School starts in August. Nobody plans something like this to happen so please no insults. She’s worked very hard to get to where she is and didn’t think she will be in this situation. Please any suggestions as to how she can get help with the baby? She really wants to go to school and abortion is out because she might not give birth again . Who knows? She wants the baby and she’s by herself. Her family feels as though since she got pregnant she should handle everything and no one should help her. She’s the only person in her family to go this far in life, to go to school and even get a bachelors degree and by God’s grace gotten an admissions to pharmacy school. Her boyfriend lied to her to get in her pants. He saw how naive and young she was. He told her everything she wanted to hear. They even planned a future together in pharmacy school and after school. He goes to the same pharmacy school we are going and is telling her hurtful things such us he don’t love her, he can have any girl he wants, that the girl planned the pregnancy, he don’t want to be with her anymore and so on. He said the girl doesn’t listen and that he told her to get an abortion but she doesn’t want to so oh well he’s not ready to be a father and can’t be forced. He’s telling people that the girl came unto him and he never even liked the girl and only showed interest after the girl came unto him. Currently my friend is OhKay and don’t want anything to do with the guy. She’s over him and looking forward at what’s ahead of her. Please if you could offer any advice or tips, we would appreciate it. Thanks
You friends needs to delay going to pharmacy school. There is no way a single mom with minimal support can raise a newborn and be successful in pharmacy school. Once her child is older apply to Roosevelt pharmacy school in Chicago where they have a day-care on campus. The other option is to get a abortion or put the child up for adoption.My friend and I both got into pharmacy school this year. suprisingly she just found out she’s pregnant and will be due in the middle of September. School starts in August. Nobody plans something like this to happen so please no insults. She’s worked very hard to get to where she is and didn’t think she will be in this situation. Please any suggestions as to how she can get help with the baby? She really wants to go to school and abortion is out because she might not give birth again . Who knows? She wants the baby and she’s by herself. Her family feels as though since she got pregnant she should handle everything and no one should help her. She’s the only person in her family to go this far in life, to go to school and even get a bachelors degree and by God’s grace gotten an admissions to pharmacy school. Her boyfriend lied to her to get in her pants. He saw how naive and young she was. He told her everything she wanted to hear. They even planned a future together in pharmacy school and after school. He goes to the same pharmacy school we are going and is telling her hurtful things such us he don’t love her, he can have any girl he wants, that the girl planned the pregnancy, he don’t want to be with her anymore and so on. He said the girl doesn’t listen and that he told her to get an abortion but she doesn’t want to so oh well he’s not ready to be a father and can’t be forced. He’s telling people that the girl came unto him and he never even liked the girl and only showed interest after the girl came unto him. Currently my friend is OhKay and don’t want anything to do with the guy. She’s over him and looking forward at what’s ahead of her. Please if you could offer any advice or tips, we would appreciate it. Thanks
My friend and I both got into pharmacy school this year. suprisingly she just found out she’s pregnant and will be due in the middle of September. School starts in August. Nobody plans something like this to happen so please no insults. She’s worked very hard to get to where she is and didn’t think she will be in this situation. Please any suggestions as to how she can get help with the baby? She really wants to go to school and abortion is out because she might not give birth again . Who knows? She wants the baby and she’s by herself. Her family feels as though since she got pregnant she should handle everything and no one should help her. She’s the only person in her family to go this far in life, to go to school and even get a bachelors degree and by God’s grace gotten an admissions to pharmacy school. Her boyfriend lied to her to get in her pants. He saw how naive and young she was. He told her everything she wanted to hear. They even planned a future together in pharmacy school and after school. He goes to the same pharmacy school we are going and is telling her hurtful things such us he don’t love her, he can have any girl he wants, that the girl planned the pregnancy, he don’t want to be with her anymore and so on. He said the girl doesn’t listen and that he told her to get an abortion but she doesn’t want to so oh well he’s not ready to be a father and can’t be forced. He’s telling people that the girl came unto him and he never even liked the girl and only showed interest after the girl came unto him. Currently my friend is OhKay and don’t want anything to do with the guy. She’s over him and looking forward at what’s ahead of her. Please if you could offer any advice or tips, we would appreciate it. Thanks
I’m helping a friend. Do you have a problem with that ?How do you fit into it?
I’m helping a friend. Do you find a problem with that ?
My friend and I both got into pharmacy school this year. suprisingly she just found out she’s pregnant and will be due in the middle of September. School starts in August. Nobody plans something like this to happen so please no insults. She’s worked very hard to get to where she is and didn’t think she will be in this situation. Please any suggestions as to how she can get help with the baby? She really wants to go to school and abortion is out because she might not give birth again . Who knows? She wants the baby and she’s by herself. Her family feels as though since she got pregnant she should handle everything and no one should help her. She’s the only person in her family to go this far in life, to go to school and even get a bachelors degree and by God’s grace gotten an admissions to pharmacy school. Her boyfriend lied to her to get in her pants. He saw how naive and young she was. He told her everything she wanted to hear. They even planned a future together in pharmacy school and after school. He goes to the same pharmacy school we are going and is telling her hurtful things such us he don’t love her, he can have any girl he wants, that the girl planned the pregnancy, he don’t want to be with her anymore and so on. He said the girl doesn’t listen and that he told her to get an abortion but she doesn’t want to so oh well he’s not ready to be a father and can’t be forced. He’s telling people that the girl came unto him and he never even liked the girl and only showed interest after the girl came unto him. Currently my friend is OhKay and don’t want anything to do with the guy. She’s over him and looking forward at what’s ahead of her. Please if you could offer any advice or tips, we would appreciate it. Thanks
Sounds like condoms would’ve been a great idea, or birth control... what do I know I’m just a druggist!
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Even hell doesn't want this profession.This profession is going straight to hell.
I still don't see the problem. Pharmacy school 1st year is not so difficult that you can't have a child during it especially if you have in-laws. It's not a disaster, it's not the end of the world, but your friend has to be disciplined about getting through both. If not, @BC_89 's advice is accurate and waiting should be done while she gets her life back together from this "tragedy". Also, FYI, we are not psychologists (probably the furthest from it) on this forum, but it is hard not to see that you are emotionally invested in the outcome based on your writing.
I was going to post something similar. Multiple classmates of mine became parents during pharmacy school or were already parents when we started and still managed to get through it. Hell, a couple of the parents even got in to Rho Chi! If your friend learns to prioritize ruthlessly, she’ll be all right.
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Thank you for this, even if we have to get a nanny or day care or pay someone to stay with her for a little while, we will. I’ve seen many elderly people and married people in pharmacy schools.I was going to post something similar. Multiple classmates of mine became parents during pharmacy school or were already parents when we started and still managed to get through it. Hell, a couple of the parents even got in to Rho Chi! If your friend learns to prioritize ruthlessly, she’ll be all right.
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Thanks for replying. She is currently looking for help anywhere she can get it. If it’s to get a nanny or day care or someone to stay with her for a little while to help with the child. The school starts August 20th (first day of classes) and she’s due sept. 16th but that’s subject to change. The best case scenario is if the baby comes right before school starts.What's the problem? I had plenty of successful students with children in class. One particularly fecund couple had 4 in pharmacy school and they were both students without inlaws. This isn't PD James Cover Her Face where an out of wedlock child mother has to take up scullery or nunnery (both indications of the word) to get by.
I'm one THOUSAND percent sure I'm not the fatherSDN isn't "Maury."
Thank you for this, even if we have to get a nanny or day care or pay someone to stay with her for a little while, we will. I’ve seen many elderly people and married people in pharmacy schools.
Thanks for replying. It’s better to pursue something she’s always wanted to do all her life and fail at it than to regret not trying at all in the future*elderly? LOL
The best course of action is for your friend to avoid pharmacy school altogether. An accelerated BSN is a much better option for your friend.
She could also pursue a degree in Health Information Management. Basically, she'll graduate to be a supervisor/manager/auditor of hospital coders. She already has a bachelor's. Most schools would likely only require her to take major-specific coursework. She would be in and out in a year, maybe 1.5 years. Pay is ok, actually. Coders at the VA do well and you can't beat the benefits. For the most part, these are telecommute positions, which would be perfect for a single mother.
That's my humble opinion.
Thanks for replying. It’s better to pursue something she’s always wanted to do all her life and fail at it than to regret not trying at all in the future
Thanks for replying. She is currently looking for help anywhere she can get it. If it’s to get a nanny or day care or someone to stay with her for a little while to help with the child. The school starts August 20th (first day of classes) and she’s due sept. 16th but that’s subject to change. The best case scenario is if the baby comes right before school starts.
Yikes, I just noticed that.“Best scenario if baby comes right before the school starts”? So it’s best if he/she comes early? Preterm? Don’t know how’s that’s best.
Also...delay the school year. I think she can wait a year to start, you don’t want to miss the first few months of the baby. Plus I would lawyer up and get that bastard of a “boyfriend” to financially support your friend beginning of delivery. So he better be paying child support while he’s in school. What a jerk that SOB is (personally I would’ve oust that person to the entire P1 class and shame him, but that’s the childish side of me).
Yikes, I just noticed that.
Not sure what kind of...person... wishes their kid would be born a month early so it doesn't affect their schedule.
We’ve been able to find a child care place that accepts one month old babies and above from 7:am to 5:30pmThere were people in my pharmacy school who had newborns. Some completed school....some didn't. Doing ANYTHING with a newborn, will be exponentially harder, than doing it without a newborn, but certainly something like completing pharmacy school can be done. Although I agree with everyone else, she needs to defer a year. Having a baby 1 month into pharmacy school, it will be extremely difficult to complete that semester. Not impossible, but it will be much easier if she takes a year off. By next year, she'll have figured out child care for when she is in classes (a necessity) and have a routine down for the baby, making it easier to add in studying.
We’ve been able to find a child care place that accepts one month old babies and above from 7:am to 5:30pm
Nice. Is the dad involved or deadbeat?Y'all she waited a year and started the following year. her program is accelerated and she graduates in MAY!!
I would take the child support money at least....Nice. Is the dad involved or deadbeat?
Nice. Is the dad involved or deadbeat?
Y'all she waited a year and started the following year. her program is accelerated and she graduates in MAY!!
I mean, you know they must put out.Ohhhhhh so this is how you pick up the ladies at the school playgrounds.
Smooooth as ice, sir. I salute you.
Waiting a lifetime would have been an even better decision....Congratulations! Waiting a year was an excellent decision, given the circumstances. You can level with us now, were you the mom, the mom's new boyfriend, or the mom's own mother?
How is the baby? Happy, Healthy? Did they end up being preterm by a month as was wished? Boy or girl? I feel so emotionally invested!Y'all she waited a year and started the following year. her program is accelerated and she graduates in MAY!!