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...wtf did i just do with my life.

> be 25
> re-active facebook after 3 and half years
> make post about finishing up last year and starting next chapter of my life
> get 7 comment notifications in like the next two minutes
> "awe, yeah finally!!! I am sure everyone is so proud of you! Mary Ann is half way through 1st grade"
from a chick i use to like in high school. And I am wondering who is Mary Ann?? I click on her profile, and realize she has a 6 year old daughter now...
> "congrads bro, finally going to be getting those paychecks!"
from a guy from college. click on his profile, has Goldman Sachs as employment, most recent album is "new condo" and has pics of a NYC condo probably worth $3-$4M.
> same guy messages me "Hey man, long time, we are going to ibiza for spring break, hit me up".
> change status from online to offline because I don't even want to explain to him what residency is, how long it is, how much I get paid or why they call 6 years of anything "integrated"

I don't regret medical school or anything of that nature. Just some what shell shocked, since I think I am one of the few people at my med school that had some what of a social life in high school / college, and just realizing everyone is married and has kids now and are "grown adults", while I am still associated with "school" =/



Anyone else in the same boat?
Would be great if someone can save and re-up this image for me, it'd make my day lol
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I had this sensation a couple of months ago. The three girls that I dated in high school are now all married, one has a kid. There are a handful of fairly/very successful former classmates in business, law, DJing, being a TV personality, writing etc. Living the big life etc. But, none of them are post call right now and stopped someone from exsanguinating last night when their AV fistula ruptured. None of them did an embolectomy and saved a 32yo's leg. None of them sat at a brand new mother's bedside last night and comforted her about being separated from her newborn because of illness.

My wife and I will owe the federal government over half a million dollars for our educations. We will be able to pay it back and live comfortably with relatively good job security. I won't feel like I do right now every morning. There are going to be tough, tiring, never mind that, exhausting days ahead, but honestly, I wouldn't give these days up for anything.
 
mimelim said:
I had this sensation a couple of months ago. The three girls that I dated in high school are now all married, one has a kid. There are a handful of fairly/very successful former classmates in business, law, DJing, being a TV personality, writing etc. Living the big life etc. But, none of them are post call right now and stopped someone from exsanguinating last night when their AV fistula ruptured. None of them did an embolectomy and saved a 32yo's leg. None of them sat at a brand new mother's bedside last night and comforted her about being separated from her newborn because of illness.

My wife and I will owe the federal government over half a million dollars for our educations. We will be able to pay it back and live comfortably with relatively good job security. I won't feel like I do right now every morning. There are going to be tough, tiring, never mind that, exhausting days ahead, but honestly, I wouldn't give these days up for anything.
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Great post!

It's all about perspective...
 
mimelim said:
I had this sensation a couple of months ago. The three girls that I dated in high school are now all married, one has a kid. There are a handful of fairly/very successful former classmates in business, law, DJing, being a TV personality, writing etc. Living the big life etc. But, none of them are post call right now and stopped someone from exsanguinating last night when their AV fistula ruptured. None of them did an embolectomy and saved a 32yo's leg. None of them sat at a brand new mother's bedside last night and comforted her about being separated from her newborn because of illness.

My wife and I will owe the federal government over half a million dollars for our educations. We will be able to pay it back and live comfortably with relatively good job security. I won't feel like I do right now every morning. There are going to be tough, tiring, never mind that, exhausting days ahead, but honestly, I wouldn't give these days up for anything.
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Glad to see that it's worth it in the end.
 
If your the type to deactivate your facebook because you started medschool, then I dont know why you would be surprised that life is passing you by. Its a personal choice to put medschool before the rest of your life, but if thats the choice you make then this should be what you expect.

(On the otherside of the coin, I have made different choices and therefore I have no right to complain that Im not competitive for neurosurgery or whatever)

Typically I wouldnt respond to this sort of thing, but I know a post like this can weigh on some premeds leading to self fulfilling prophecies.
 
surftheiop said:
(On the otherside of the coin, I have made different choices and therefore I have no right to complain that Im not competitive for neurosurgery or whatever)

Typically I wouldnt respond to this sort of thing, but I know a post like this can weigh on some premeds leading to self fulfilling prophecies.
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Yup, totally agree - it's all about choices. If you can accept that you won't be going into plastics, derm, et. al., then you can strike a great work/life balance. I'm sure there are people that match into those things and still able to manage everything. I know that I wouldn't be able to though, and ultimately when push comes to shove, life wins over work 95% of the time (the other 5% being only when necessary, e.g., test time).

Overall I have plenty of free time to do with what I want and I really enjoy med school. It's stressful and it sucks to spend as much time as I do studying, but I don't have any regrets and don't feel like my personal life has really been hindered by school.
 
mimelim said:
I had this sensation a couple of months ago. The three girls that I dated in high school are now all married, one has a kid. There are a handful of fairly/very successful former classmates in business, law, DJing, being a TV personality, writing etc. Living the big life etc. But, none of them are post call right now and stopped someone from exsanguinating last night when their AV fistula ruptured. None of them did an embolectomy and saved a 32yo's leg. None of them sat at a brand new mother's bedside last night and comforted her about being separated from her newborn because of illness.

My wife and I will owe the federal government over half a million dollars for our educations. We will be able to pay it back and live comfortably with relatively good job security. I won't feel like I do right now every morning. There are going to be tough, tiring, never mind that, exhausting days ahead, but honestly, I wouldn't give these days up for anything.
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fantastic post.
 
Most people in their mid to late 20's don't have 4 million dollar condos.

The vast majority of my friends are either working low-medium paying entry level jobs or are 'reinventing' themselves by getting another degree/masters which will lead to a decent job.

Yes people are having babies. If you are guy this really doesn't matter a whole lot. If you are a girl you have a solid 10 years before you have to worry.
 
Meh, don't have any old HS friends that are too successful, or at least they don't FB about it.

Most of mine consists of "xxx just pooped!" or the massive barrage of professional baby photo albums. I don't think I'm missing out on too much at this time.
 
vandy1990 said:
...wtf did i just do with my life.

> be 25
> re-active facebook after 3 and half years
> make post about finishing up last year and starting next chapter of my life
> get 7 comment notifications in like the next two minutes
> "awe, yeah finally!!! I am sure everyone is so proud of you! Mary Ann is half way through 1st grade"
from a chick i use to like in high school. And I am wondering who is Mary Ann?? I click on her profile, and realize she has a 6 year old daughter now...
> "congrads bro, finally going to be getting those paychecks!"
from a guy from college. click on his profile, has Goldman Sachs as employment, most recent album is "new condo" and has pics of a NYC condo probably worth $3-$4M.
> same guy messages me "Hey man, long time, we are going to ibiza for spring break, hit me up".
> change status from online to offline because I don't even want to explain to him what residency is, how long it is, how much I get paid or why they call 6 years of anything "integrated"

I don't regret medical school or anything of that nature. Just some what shell shocked, since I think I am one of the few people at my med school that had some what of a social life in high school / college, and just realizing everyone is married and has kids now and are "grown adults", while I am still associated with "school" =/



Anyone else in the same boat?
Would be great if someone can save and re-up this image for me, it'd make my day lol
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Hate to say it, but the reasons in bold point to this guy being an utter douche. Not sure you've missed out on much.
 
NickNaylor said:
Yup, totally agree - it's all about choices. If you can accept that you won't be going into plastics, derm, et. al., then you can strike a great work/life balance. I'm sure there are people that match into those things and still able to manage everything. I know that I wouldn't be able to though, and ultimately when push comes to shove, life wins over work 95% of the time (the other 5% being only when necessary, e.g., test time).

Overall I have plenty of free time to do with what I want and I really enjoy med school. It's stressful and it sucks to spend as much time as I do studying, but I don't have any regrets and don't feel like my personal life has really been hindered by school.
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I agree.

The woe is me crowd in medicine are the people I avoid. I like learning this stuff and while I work hard, I leave plenty of time to do things I want to do and take days off regularly.

There are plenty of great fields in medicine that aren't derm or neurosurgery... besides, derm would be boring and neurosurgery would be hell.

You can't really put life on hold. Steve Jobs said in his Stanford graduation address - "If there was ever a time where I woke up and I wasn't doing what I wanted to do for too many days in a row, I knew it was time to change." Life is now.
 
I have a 4mo old and I'm graduating this year as well. Life goes on man. I hope you did something other than study in the last 4 years.
 
Isozyme said:
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Unless you went to H/P/Y, the majority of your friends aren't buying 3-4 million dollar condos. Most of them are probably grinding out TPS reports and pulling down $50-100k/year.
 
fahimaz7 said:
I have a 4mo old and I'm graduating this year as well. Life goes on man. I hope you did something other than study in the last 4 years.
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congrats on the kid! I do sympathize with the OP, though, it definitely is quite difficult to meet people (who are not medical students). Personally, I find something about medical students that rubs me wrong and we have no undergrad campus or mixers with other disciplines of our school....so yeah it's definitely a challenge.
 
Agreed with the peeps that mentioned there can definitely be a good work-personal life balance if you make it happen.

However, as far as the OP's topic, last year I felt this a bit. I would see some people go on exotic 2 week vacations multiple times a year and think "Oh man, they must be living up their life! They probably have no worries in the world whatsoever." Also, the past few years, seeing multitudes of people getting married + having 1/2 kids made me realizing that people are growing up so fast while it's slower for me(due to reasons not pertaining to med school). As well as seeing most of my non-grad school friends work 40 hour jobs, not have to worry about anything after work(or even during work)...where I would feel exhausted after a week of rotations and want to be a homebody for a night.

Despite all of that, I knew perfectly well what I was getting into it, and eventually turned those negative thoughts into focusing on the end goal. After all, focusing on your life is number one! You might still be associated with "school", but not for long!

Oh...and those mothers who post every detail of their baby....that gets annoying 😡. And it's not just cool milestones like "Baby's first steps" or "My baby finally talks!" its: "My baby slept for only 6 hours today!!!", "My baby makes such stinky presents for her sweet mommy.", "Stayed up all night feeding my perfect angel and staring at her going to sleep when she makes a dirty diaper! #mommyproblems".
 
why did you deactivate for 3 years? u can still have a social life in med school, i actually went to ibiza between 1st and 2nd year lol, it was fun
 
circulus vitios said:
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Unless you went to H/P/Y, the majority of your friends aren't buying 3-4 million dollar condos. Most of them are probably grinding out TPS reports and pulling down $50-100k/year.
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Maybe he did go to a top school for undergrad lol.
 
Life passes you by.... even as an attending - life blazes at a fast speed. Atleast you have something to look forward to as a newly minted intern (or soon to be intern)... I'm looking forward to retirement and that's like 30 years away.
 
pinipig523 said:
Life passes you by.... even as an attending - life blazes at a fast speed. Atleast you have something to look forward to as a newly minted intern (or soon to be intern)... I'm looking forward to retirement and that's like 30 years away.
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Burnt out already?
 
I agree OP. Everyone who didn't go to medical school is having an amazing life with little to no stress, is uper rich, loves their job, have extraordinary families and social lives, and are just all-around living life to its fullest. Everyone who is going to medical school now regrets their decision.

Disabling your facebook just for medical school for that long is really weird bro. You are definitely in the minority in that respect.
 
I am astonished everyone equates Facebook to having a life.
 
Out of the people I know, only a handful have actual careers with opportunities for advancement (engineering, finance). The rest of my friends are either working odd jobs or considering post-grad education. School has been pretty manageable so far, so I don't feel like I'm missing too much. Can't say how I'll feel when clinicals start up and all my free time is lost...


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This may be a function of being a non-trad, but I definitely get what the OP is feeling. My 3 closest friends from high school:

1) Just upgraded to captain at his airline, making good $$, taking lots of cool international trips with his wife and kids thanks to flight benefits

2) Just promoted to management at his company, buying a nice house with his wife, going on all sorts of adventures

3) Working as a retail pharmacist, good $$, great hours, spends more time fishing than I spend sleeping

Me:
Poorer than dirt, no end in sight.

Not saying I didn't know what I was getting into, and I think it will be great in the end!! But in the here and now, it really can be difficult.
 
KnuxNole said:
Agreed with the peeps that mentioned there can definitely be a good work-personal life balance if you make it happen.

However, as far as the OP's topic, last year I felt this a bit. I would see some people go on exotic 2 week vacations multiple times a year and think "Oh man, they must be living up their life! They probably have no worries in the world whatsoever." Also, the past few years, seeing multitudes of people getting married + having 1/2 kids made me realizing that people are growing up so fast while it's slower for me(due to reasons not pertaining to med school). As well as seeing most of my non-grad school friends work 40 hour jobs, not have to worry about anything after work(or even during work)...where I would feel exhausted after a week of rotations and want to be a homebody for a night.

Despite all of that, I knew perfectly well what I was getting into it, and eventually turned those negative thoughts into focusing on the end goal. After all, focusing on your life is number one! You might still be associated with "school", but not for long!

Oh...and those mothers who post every detail of their baby....that gets annoying 😡. And it's not just cool milestones like "Baby's first steps" or "My baby finally talks!" its: "My baby slept for only 6 hours today!!!", "My baby makes such stinky presents for her sweet mommy.", "Stayed up all night feeding my perfect angel and staring at her going to sleep when she makes a dirty diaper! #mommyproblems".
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I used to be that guy minus the wife and kids, haha. I traveled around the world for either free or close to it since I was working in the airlines. I worked 40-45 hours per week maximum. But you know what? Whenever I was going to those incredible exotic places over a short weekend (entry-level positions barely have any time off), I would always feel sad on my return flight home. I never felt fulfilled. When I was working those 40-45 hour weeks, I just didn't care whatsoever about what I was doing.

Even though things might look glamorous on the outside, they definitely aren't. My friends were jealous of my travel perks. But it just wasn't worth it knowing that I would always come back to the same thing with little to look forward to. It kind of sucks thinking that you'll end your work-life as some analyst doing meaningless stuff. At least as a doctor, I can do things that would actually matter. It's worth the sacrifices, so I can look forward to every day.

Yes, there's still a little bit of idealism in me despite getting the $h1t kicked out of me on a daily basis. I hope I can remain optimistic in a couple years from now. 🙂
 
Imagine how I must feel when I am approaching 30 and not even half way finished with med school... At least you get your paycheck at 25... You don't need a lot of $$ to go to ibiza, just something..
 
You work hard and pay a buttload for 4 years then a little for 3-7. That's a lot of post grad time when college friends are potentially becoming very successful. It's not that weird of a feeling to sympathize with.

Slack3r said:
Reading comprehension skills a little rusty, eh?
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Akali said:
I agree OP. Everyone who didn't go to medical school is having an amazing life with little to no stress, is uper rich, loves their job, have extraordinary families and social lives, and are just all-around living life to its fullest. Everyone who is going to medical school now regrets their decision.

Disabling your facebook just for medical school for that long is really weird bro. You are definitely in the minority in that respect.
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Lame.
 
The grass is always greener on the other side guys.. Even though some of your friends might seem to be living exotic lives, you have no idea how they feel on the inside. If you're happy with what you're doing, thats enough. For all you know those people could be seeing your status of finishing medical school and becoming an MD and are envious of you as well, but the big point is 'Don't covet thy neighbor'.
 
I have the opposite feeling quite honestly. Most of my high school friends who didn't initally go to a grad school are either unemployed, working in retail/waiting tables, or are clamoring to get into grad school. I am sure there are people out there who are successful in their early 20s, but I think that graduating med school around age 26-30 is a fantastic position to be in, all things considered.
 
It's a big mix for me and my friends, as I'm sure it is for everyone when you take the selection bias out.

Some friends are working things like consulting/banking, making good money but generally hate their jobs.

Some are making good money, like their jobs, and are enjoying their 20s (mainly engineers, compsci type people)

Some are in start-ups, working crazy hours but like what they do, currently poor but may end up with more money then a doc could ever make.

Plenty of them are in law/grad school, living a similar life style as a med student with less payoff afterwards.

Some are unemployed or found crappy jobs and are either stuck or trying to find a way back into school.


Sure there are times when I wish I had some more time/cash to go out or travel, but when it comes down to it I'm enjoying what I do and have a great group of friends in a similar situation. No regrets here so far.
 
yesno said:
Imagine how I must feel when I am approaching 30 and not even half way finished with med school... At least you get your paycheck at 25... You don't need a lot of $$ to go to ibiza, just something..
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you definitely need a good amount of money to go to ibiza, it was NOT CHEAP, but it was very fun. i recommend highly if you are in europe between year 1 and 2 take a flight down there for a weekend, its a party like you've never seen before
 
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