The whole OD thing is ruining my life and my marriage

[Eyegirl2k7]

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I just finished having a 3 hour fight with my husband (where I definetly should have been doing my calculus homework which may never get done by the due date). I don't even care right now.

He is having huge trouble getting a job in Chicago and just doesn't seem like he's that into it to be honest. I thought we were going to do this together but it doesn't seem like it.

I'm scared we're going to breakup and I'm going to be alone (again, this is a lovely pattern in my life) in a big city where I don't know anyone with no way to suppor tmyself.

And yet there's no way I can stay in this stupid pissant town anymore becuase there's nothing for me to do here. Plus I WANT to go to OD school.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR.



I am so sick of my ****ing life.

He's my best friend and everything to me and I may just lose him in 6 months.

Eyegirl
😡 😡 😡 😡

 

[rpames]

I'm so sorry to hear this. I knew you were having some problems, but not this bad. From knowing you on this forum for the past year, I think of you as a friend. Like hearing bad news from any friend, it hurts. I don't know what to do about your marriage, but I hope you know that you will not be alone in Chicago. I will be there with you in person. You will have an old friend waiting for you, and don't forget about Batlauren and of course Anthony. I know his is very little conciliation when you fear the loss of a spouse and best friend, but I hope it at least helps.

I know of people who have gone through graduate or profession school with no outside support and have made. Yes, they are in debt, but they made and so will you. I pray you will not have to go it alone, but if you do, you will make it and I will push you.

Your friend,
Ryan

 

[Batlauren]

Do you believe that if something's meant to be, then it will happen, regardless of where you are or what you do?

Maybe I'm not the best person to give advice right now, because I could sure use some myself. BUT, I do know one thing though. Things happen for a reason, and everything usually works out in the end. I'm sure you'll be together in Chicago in 6 months. You have absolutely nothing to worry about right now. Life throws us curveballs sometimes, but only to make us stronger and help us grow. SO with that out of the way, KICK SOME BUTT IN CALCULUS!!!

😉

 

[cpw]

Things do have a way of working out, eyegirl. My boyfriend and I are doing the long distance thing (over 2000 miles apart) and have been together almost five years. If I'd stayed in CA we'd probably be married by now.

I'm sure your husband is just stressed about not finding a job. The job market sucks the big one right now and I'm sure it's taxing. Once that lines up I'm sure everything should be fine. But, in every relationship there is compromise. He has to realize how much OD school means to you and be willing to give some things up to help you out. (if he's REALLY your best friend he'll understand this). My boyfriend knew this is what I had to do to be happy in life so he supports my decision. If that means I pay 40 dollars a month for my cell phone minutes so I can keep in touch.. so be it. I do know some people who are in school who have fiance's and husbands in other states. It CAN be done!!

Your friends in Od school are friends for LIFE! YOu've studied together, taken tests together, boards together, partied together, cried together. I know I have about ten really close friends now that I can't imagine life without. OD friends will be our support group when things aren't as rosy at home. My friends will always take me out or invite me over when I'm just not into it.

So, take a deep breath. Go make up with your husband (that's always the best part anyway)...
Things will work out.. and GO STUDY !! 😉

Let me know if you need to talk.. PM me if you don't want to post it here.
And here's to a GREAT future collegue!
cpw

 

[Batlauren]

HAHAHAHA.....The funny thing is, that made ME feel better!! 😉 I guess everyone's in the same situation!! It's comforting and sad at the same time.

 

[Eyegirl2k7]

I finished my calculus homework just now but half of it isn't right (and not through lack of trying) I spent a total of 14 (yes, you read right) working on it yesterday. It was frustrating but one bad homework asst isn't going to kill me. I'm going to make an appt with the prof to talk over my problems with optimization.

I made up with my husband. We always do, the next day. This is going to sound stupid but I just don't know how to be without him. We've been together solid since I was 17 (5 years ago) and I just haven't thought about doing things by myself for a long time. I think part of it is that I'm sort of afraid of living apart.

In an idyllic world, I suppose I wouldn't be faced with having to leave. I hope very sincerely that he gets a job by the time I have to move. If he doesn't I know I'll still go to Chicago. I know we'll promise to stay together if we have to separate. I believe our love will keep us together in my heart.

Thanks for the encouragment, all of you. Eyegirl loves ya🙂

 

[rpames]

I'm glad to hear everything is working out. By the way, what kind of job is your husband looking for?

 

[Simisn]

Yay, people on this site told you that you'll get through this, and things are better for you now! Like everyone else on this site, I too think that it'll all work out somehow🙂

 

[Eyegirl2k7]

He's looking for an IT job.

 

[Tyra]

Eyegirl

I pm'd you about a job a ran across in this past Sunday's ppr. Let me know if you recv'd it-- aol kicked me off right after I sent it.🙂