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Well, never thought I’d find myself in this position but here goes.
Mid 30s male with a family(stay at home spouse and kids). I’m coming from another professional career and worked for about a decade and did reasonably well in my position. Six figure salary and built a networth of about 750 k prior to matriculating this year - I think this is important to mention as it holds weight in the decision.
A bit of a background on medicine - it was always something I have wanted to do and spent the better part of the last decade preparing for it. I fell into my previous career by chance and so medicine was always the goal. I worked extra hard to build myself financially so that my family will be okay through this journey of medical education and training. I got accepted to a school up north and a few months after that I started getting cold feet but chocked it up to a natural feeling that one would get to let go of a good paycheck. I decided then that medicine was more important and followed through.
Here we are now, 2 months in and I am trying to remember why i want to do this. I wake up every morning with a sense of dread, I miss my old life (which by the way was 80 hr work weeks so I’m not unaware of hard work) - but i was in control and it seems now that it was a smooth simple life. I look at my kids and I have a sense of guilt for what I am about to put them through for the next 7 years. My wife is a saint and has always encouraged me to follow my heart. But I keep asking myself now...why am I doing this to myself and to everyone. I keep thinking that if I put this much efffort In something else for the next 7 years, I would save my myself and my family a lot of heartache, both emotional and financial. I am also extremely angry at myself because I knew all this prior to matriculating, none of this is a surprise and I keep on telling myself to stop thinking so much and be positive but the thoughts don’t go away. What makes this particularly difficult is my boss for who I still do a couple of hours of work on the weekends mentioned that my position is still open and I could go back should I want in the next few weeks. The time limit to this is also adding a sense of pressure to my decision. Sorry for the wall of text, but I guess I’m trying to figure out if anybody has been through a similar situation here. What did you do? Are these just normal thoughts that eventually disappear?
Mid 30s male with a family(stay at home spouse and kids). I’m coming from another professional career and worked for about a decade and did reasonably well in my position. Six figure salary and built a networth of about 750 k prior to matriculating this year - I think this is important to mention as it holds weight in the decision.
A bit of a background on medicine - it was always something I have wanted to do and spent the better part of the last decade preparing for it. I fell into my previous career by chance and so medicine was always the goal. I worked extra hard to build myself financially so that my family will be okay through this journey of medical education and training. I got accepted to a school up north and a few months after that I started getting cold feet but chocked it up to a natural feeling that one would get to let go of a good paycheck. I decided then that medicine was more important and followed through.
Here we are now, 2 months in and I am trying to remember why i want to do this. I wake up every morning with a sense of dread, I miss my old life (which by the way was 80 hr work weeks so I’m not unaware of hard work) - but i was in control and it seems now that it was a smooth simple life. I look at my kids and I have a sense of guilt for what I am about to put them through for the next 7 years. My wife is a saint and has always encouraged me to follow my heart. But I keep asking myself now...why am I doing this to myself and to everyone. I keep thinking that if I put this much efffort In something else for the next 7 years, I would save my myself and my family a lot of heartache, both emotional and financial. I am also extremely angry at myself because I knew all this prior to matriculating, none of this is a surprise and I keep on telling myself to stop thinking so much and be positive but the thoughts don’t go away. What makes this particularly difficult is my boss for who I still do a couple of hours of work on the weekends mentioned that my position is still open and I could go back should I want in the next few weeks. The time limit to this is also adding a sense of pressure to my decision. Sorry for the wall of text, but I guess I’m trying to figure out if anybody has been through a similar situation here. What did you do? Are these just normal thoughts that eventually disappear?
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