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It's been a while since I've posted, but I saw the topic and wanted to contribute.
I've probably visited this site intermittently over the years, especially before I entered into my doctoral program. It feels like its been months since I've been on, but I tend to avoid coming on here. I know when I was looking for doctoral programs, I looked to SDN as a resource and it was not the most pleasant of experiences to say the least. The other option is to just stay away; unfortunately, that means others who come on here with similar questions or pursuits may not get the most representative opinions depending on the topic as there tends to be a cluster of folks who tend to provide personal opinions regarding a myriad of topics while others with differing perspectives and experiences feel compelled to leave or avoid the forum. It's interesting too how we might say "let's be respectful and professional in how we speak to each other," yet some might respond with "I'm not their therapist or supervisor, etc." Yet...some of the comments from some of these users are "this guy comes on here thinking he is right about everything and someone like me who has X amount of years of experience doesn't know anything..." Which is it? Do you project a purely personal approach to online conversations and advisement or a professional one? It can seem confusing.
I would say I am glad that I stuck to my instincts overall; sure there have been some things I wish could be better, but based on who I am, what I want, what my goals are and the overall context of my life, my decisions have more or less played out the way I wanted them to. This I can attribute to the fact that not all opinions on here are going to be "right" for you and knowing that is very important to keep in mind when people are making very important career-related decisions. So, regarding the OP's comments on "tone," I absolutely think it's important to keep that in check (not saying I've been an angel in the past). I've gone to some conferences recently where...there are actual licensed professionals who have some personality styles that are an acquired taste to put it nicely.
I've probably visited this site intermittently over the years, especially before I entered into my doctoral program. It feels like its been months since I've been on, but I tend to avoid coming on here. I know when I was looking for doctoral programs, I looked to SDN as a resource and it was not the most pleasant of experiences to say the least. The other option is to just stay away; unfortunately, that means others who come on here with similar questions or pursuits may not get the most representative opinions depending on the topic as there tends to be a cluster of folks who tend to provide personal opinions regarding a myriad of topics while others with differing perspectives and experiences feel compelled to leave or avoid the forum. It's interesting too how we might say "let's be respectful and professional in how we speak to each other," yet some might respond with "I'm not their therapist or supervisor, etc." Yet...some of the comments from some of these users are "this guy comes on here thinking he is right about everything and someone like me who has X amount of years of experience doesn't know anything..." Which is it? Do you project a purely personal approach to online conversations and advisement or a professional one? It can seem confusing.
I would say I am glad that I stuck to my instincts overall; sure there have been some things I wish could be better, but based on who I am, what I want, what my goals are and the overall context of my life, my decisions have more or less played out the way I wanted them to. This I can attribute to the fact that not all opinions on here are going to be "right" for you and knowing that is very important to keep in mind when people are making very important career-related decisions. So, regarding the OP's comments on "tone," I absolutely think it's important to keep that in check (not saying I've been an angel in the past). I've gone to some conferences recently where...there are actual licensed professionals who have some personality styles that are an acquired taste to put it nicely.
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