I didn't want to make a new thread but this was the closest appropriate one - I wanted to ask for opinions about interview follow-up for first post-residency jobs. This may seem like common sense but apparently I'm lacking in that lately.
The specific question: Could it be appropriate to contact the medical director for an employer to ask for interview feedback (if and when you don't get the job)?
Backstory: I recently had an interview for a job that I really want, and I thought it went well overall. The medical director is a "friend of the program" (my residency). Although I hadn't met him personally before, we had a phone interview prior to the official one and he gave me a fair amount of helpful background to prepare for the main interview. The thing is - I know (both from him and my contacts at the employer - as I did multiple rotations during my residency there and several of my clinical references are from there) that their hiring process is long and drawn out. And, although they are hiring more "junior" positions, he actually also is leaving and is interviewing for his replacement.
Obviously, I want to stay on their radar so they know I'm still interested. But, the longer that I'm waiting, the more paranoid I'm getting about certain answers I gave. I did send out a "thank you" and a "please let me know if there are any other questions, clarifications, or additional information you need to make your decision" note to everyone I interviewed with. But, he (the medical director) was really the only physician. And since he gave me pointers beforehand, I think he'd give me some honest feedback about the interview. I don't want to annoy him or look like an insecure idiot (at least while they are still making their decisions). But, do you think it would hurt schedule a follow-up call with him for this feedback? If so, should I wait until I know their decision?