Venting about the dreaded Wait List

[psychwanabe]

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We keep saying that knowing is better than not knowing, right?? *bites nails* Well, now (assuming I get a response) I'll know!

Yes, I am quoting myself.

I guess knowing is better than not knowing, but now I know I'm rejected! It was a really nice rejection though <sniff, sniff> I would have loved working there!

I'm going to drink now.🙁 Why isn't there an icon crying its' eyes out??

 

[neuronerd1]

Thank you all for your help.

Unfortunately, the DTC emailed me back letting me know that I've been rejected - so that's it for me this year. I'll have to do this all over again next year. 🙁

 

[Lyn71785]

I guess knowing is better than not knowing, but now I know I'm rejected! It was a really nice rejection though <sniff, sniff> I would have loved working there!

I'm going to drink now.🙁 Why isn't there an icon crying its' eyes out??

Thank you all for your help.

Unfortunately, the DTC emailed me back letting me know that I've been rejected - so that's it for me this year. I'll have to do this all over again next year. 🙁

Aww guys, I am so sorry to hear that. 🙁 I've been sending out good vibes for everyone who's been posting almost religiously on the waitlist thread.

psychwanabe -- you do still have another offer right? and at least today is Friday so you can go out and drink and have all Saturday to hang over.

neuronerd -- Next year you will be able to beef up your CV and app, and I'm sure you will get more interviews at schools with better fits. I'm very into the whole karma thing, and believing everything works itself out in the end, with lot of hard work an persistence of course. So what now? Work? Binge drinking?

I know you guys must be feeling pretty down, so I will continue to send out good vibes for you. 😍--Well that's as close as I can get with these emoticons.

I'd like to end on a positive note: Just posting on this board and commiserating with you all has been so helpful. Thank you guys so much! Seeing as I'm still on the waitlist I will probably continue posting like a maniac.

 

[psychwanabe]

Lyn: thanks for the note. You're right - I was accepted at 2 PsyD programs. I declined one, but will probably wind up accepting the other. I really liked it there: it's just not exactly what I have been working for these last 4 years.

You're also right that it's Friday, and I have 2 days to put my big girl pants back on and get over it. I guess I'm still waitlisted at one PhD program (post-interview, but no word yet), but I don't have a lot of hope. (It's a long story and when this is all over I'll reveal my secret identity and tell you the whole thing.) I will probably just take the offer I have: I don't want to wait another year. Right now I'm just seriously feeling sorry for myself and admittedly wallowing in self-pity.

Thank you SO MUCH for listening and for the support. My continued good wishes go out to you and everyone else who's still waitlisting 😍

~pwb

 

[RayneeDeigh]

Lyn: thanks for the note. You're right - I was accepted at 2 PsyD programs. I declined one, but will probably wind up accepting the other. I really liked it there: it's just not exactly what I have been working for these last 4 years.

You're also right that it's Friday, and I have 2 days to put my big girl pants back on and get over it. I guess I'm still waitlisted at one PhD program (post-interview, but no word yet), but I don't have a lot of hope. (It's a long story and when this is all over I'll reveal my secret identity and tell you the whole thing.) I will probably just take the offer I have: I don't want to wait another year. Right now I'm just seriously feeling sorry for myself and admittedly wallowing in self-pity.

Thank you SO MUCH for listening and for the support. My continued good wishes go out to you and everyone else who's still waitlisting 😍

~pwb

I know that feeling really well. It took me two weeks to snap out of it and get out of bed. lol.

I hope the PhD program lets you in!

 

[WaitingKills]

I know that feeling really well. It took me two weeks to snap out of it and get out of bed. lol.

I hope the PhD program lets you in!

Hey, have you heard back from USask yet?

Just curious! 😀 I shall live vicariously through you!

 

[RayneeDeigh]

Hey, have you heard back from USask yet?

Just curious! 😀 I shall live vicariously through you!

Heh. Nope. The letter said it could be as late as the end of April.

I'm also confused about UBC 'cause other people have been rejected but I haven't. lol

 

[psychwanabe]

I know that feeling really well. It took me two weeks to snap out of it and get out of bed. lol.

I hope the PhD program lets you in!

Thanks RayneeDeigh! Also, thanks for the sock-puppet detour - it provided a nice laugh! They are pretty cute.

I am going on the assumption that I will not be admitted into the PhD program. So now I have a big decision to make. I can take the PsyD - admittedly a program that I really liked, seems to be developing a very good reputation, and at which I have about half tuition covered, or I can wait a year. I am an older student and waiting just doesn't feel right for me.

I'm a big believer in fate (with a lot of hard work thrown in), and I think I will land where I am meant to land. Having said that, I also believe that opportunities are what we make of them and I know that I can get what I want out of a PsyD, research-wise. I will just have to work harder at it as the structure is so different from a PhD program.

This particular rejection hits really hard because it was my top choice after interviews. Even though I wasn't first choice, my POI was very encouraging and I felt really positive about getting in. <sigh> Anyway, since I can't sleep I figured I'd log on, check in with you fine people, and then get some work done!

Life goes on! 😳

~pwb

 

[tkj]

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[psychwanabe]

psychwanabe, I'm really sorry to hear that things haven't worked out for you as expected. Whilst I never think one should 'settle', I definitely agree with the bold part of your quote. Trust me, I can relate! Sometimes you get thrown a rough break (seemingly), but in the end if you put in the work and approach things with the right frame of mine (you had offers! and from what you wrote, it seems like you enjoyed visiting the programs) things will work out for you. Still, you mentioned you're still in the running for one last program, so you never know what could happen there. But as far as attending a PsyD program, whether you decide to attend next year or reapply, you're in a pretty good position here to go to a program that you thought was nice or widen your options next year, so best of luck with whatever direction you go.

Thanks tkj. I agree with you completely. I'm just not quite ready to put on a happy face about everything just yet! 🙄 And you're right, the other PhD could offer, but I am relatively sure it won't. Suffice it to say a little birdie told me! 😛

 

[Anticip]

I'm sorry, neuronerd and psychwannabe. This is what I said to my friend (an academic superhuman) who didn't get into med school: I'm not going to tell you it's okay or that it's no big deal, because it is a big deal. When lifelong dreams get shot down, nothing makes them better right away. But no matter how old you are, there is always another year. We're living longer than ever, and we have all the time in the world to achieve our dreams, even if it doesn't feel like it. So feel sad for a while, because there's no way not to. But hang in there at the same time, and you have my support.

 

[RayneeDeigh]

Thanks RayneeDeigh! Also, thanks for the sock-puppet detour - it provided a nice laugh! They are pretty cute.

I am going on the assumption that I will not be admitted into the PhD program. So now I have a big decision to make. I can take the PsyD - admittedly a program that I really liked, seems to be developing a very good reputation, and at which I have about half tuition covered, or I can wait a year. I am an older student and waiting just doesn't feel right for me.

I'm a big believer in fate (with a lot of hard work thrown in), and I think I will land where I am meant to land. Having said that, I also believe that opportunities are what we make of them and I know that I can get what I want out of a PsyD, research-wise. I will just have to work harder at it as the structure is so different from a PhD program.

This particular rejection hits really hard because it was my top choice after interviews. Even though I wasn't first choice, my POI was very encouraging and I felt really positive about getting in. <sigh> Anyway, since I can't sleep I figured I'd log on, check in with you fine people, and then get some work done!

Life goes on! 😳

~pwb

Half the tuition covered at a PsyD program sounds really good, and from what I hear you can do a significant amount of research in that sort of program if you want to. I'm sure that you'll work hard and it will be a good experience for you. If waiting a year just doesn't feel right (just like waiting a year feels better than accepting a place I don't want feels better for me) then you should go with your gut. 🙂

I was really crushed when my first choice rejected me (they didn't even offer me an interview). It kind of makes you feel like an intellectual leper. But it's their loss! Now they won't get to work with you and benefit from your positive attitude.

And get some sleep. Don't be like me. 😛

 

[Lyn71785]

So now I have a big decision to make. I can take the PsyD - admittedly a program that I really liked, seems to be developing a very good reputation, and at which I have about half tuition covered, or I can wait a year. I am an older student and waiting just doesn't feel right for me.

I'm a big believer in fate (with a lot of hard work thrown in), and I think I will land where I am meant to land. Having said that, I also believe that opportunities are what we make of them and I know that I can get what I want out of a PsyD, research-wise. I will just have to work harder at it as the structure is so different from a PhD program.

I think you are looking at this with a great attitude. It's definitely a tough situation, but you can always make the best of it. You will get out of your education whatever you want, if you put in the effort, and while it might be a little more difficult to get the research experiences in a PsyD program, they are still out there.

And if it makes you feel better, I will feel the same way if I don't get into my waitlisted school: like I'm glad I still have an option and I just can't see myself waiting another year. I really can't imagine what I would do with myself for a year if I wasn't in some sort of higher education. I've been attending college classes for 8 years and I can't stop now! (I'm a closeted professional student)

 

[neuronerd1]

I really appreciate all of your kind advice and good wishes. This one just made me cry:

I'm sorry, neuronerd and psychwannabe. This is what I said to my friend (an academic superhuman) who didn't get into med school: I'm not going to tell you it's okay or that it's no big deal, because it is a big deal. When lifelong dreams get shot down, nothing makes them better right away. But no matter how old you are, there is always another year. We're living longer than ever, and we have all the time in the world to achieve our dreams, even if it doesn't feel like it. So feel sad for a while, because there's no way not to. But hang in there at the same time, and you have my support.

Of course, I am super hyper-emotional right now. I've been crying like twice a day. But, I know I'm a big girl and I'll get through this. So will all of you.

Although this completely goes against my gut instinct to move across the country and get a new job (I like changes, and was expecting a big one) - I've decided to stay in Boston working at my current job as a clinical case manager. My clients need me and I like it there. I'll hopefully complete this pub I am working on and maybe start another. I'm also planning on volunteering at a research lab I used to work at and learn how to operate the scanner.

Psychwanabe: That is a hard decision. If you really want to get into a PhD, it sounds like you have a good shot at it next year. Can you wait another year? If you're just itching for a change and to go back to school then I'm sure you can be happy at the PsyD program too. It's true the program is what you make of it.

Other ways to get through this: chocolate and massages. Good luck to everyone who is still waiting and making hard decisions. You are not alone. HUGS ALL AROUND!

 

[sukurux]

wow, i dont feel so terrible anymore. so many ppl in the same situation as me. Accepted to my second choice program and on the "top" of the waitlist for my first. Will they really make me wait till april 15th? should i be sending out financial aid applications to both of these programs? man this really sucks. so tempted to interrogate the program and see where exactly i fit in the whole scheme of things. my coping mechanism is being on this forum and wallowing in the collective self pity which seems to be manifesting so well on this particular thread. thanks guys! 😳

 

[psychwanabe]

I'm sorry, neuronerd and psychwannabe. This is what I said to my friend (an academic superhuman) who didn't get into med school: I'm not going to tell you it's okay or that it's no big deal, because it is a big deal. When lifelong dreams get shot down, nothing makes them better right away. But no matter how old you are, there is always another year. We're living longer than ever, and we have all the time in the world to achieve our dreams, even if it doesn't feel like it. So feel sad for a while, because there's no way not to. But hang in there at the same time, and you have my support.

I agree with neuronerd1 who said this was such an emotional, supportive note to read. Thanks Anticip for the validation of feelings. Getting the "life is not over" speech is also good, but right now I'm still in wallowing self-pity mode! 😳

Half the tuition covered at a PsyD program sounds really good, and from what I hear you can do a significant amount of research in that sort of program if you want to. I'm sure that you'll work hard and it will be a good experience for you. If waiting a year just doesn't feel right (just like waiting a year feels better than accepting a place I don't want feels better for me) then you should go with your gut. 🙂

I was really crushed when my first choice rejected me (they didn't even offer me an interview). It kind of makes you feel like an intellectual leper. But it's their loss! Now they won't get to work with you and benefit from your positive attitude.

And get some sleep. Don't be like me. 😛

You're right, RayneeDeigh, it isn't a bad offer, money-wise. I'm not really into posting specifics about myself, but waiting isn't really an option in my mind. Besides, I know I can be happy at that program. It's the "idea" of the PhD that I'm having trouble letting go. In many ways, a PsyD may fit my goals better anyway.

Intellectual leper is exactly right! Don't they KNOW how smart I am? These programs have no idea what they are passing up when they reject me! 😎 I don't know if it's better that I got the interview at all or not: I saw the place and met the people and loved it even more than before! Very tough to swallow losing that one.

I think you are looking at this with a great attitude. It's definitely a tough situation, but you can always make the best of it. You will get out of your education whatever you want, if you put in the effort, and while it might be a little more difficult to get the research experiences in a PsyD program, they are still out there.

And if it makes you feel better, I will feel the same way if I don't get into my waitlisted school: like I'm glad I still have an option and I just can't see myself waiting another year. I really can't imagine what I would do with myself for a year if I wasn't in some sort of higher education. I've been attending college classes for 8 years and I can't stop now! (I'm a closeted professional student)

And especially thanks again to you Lyn for starting this thread! 👍 I don't know what I would do without it the last few days.

Of course, I am super hyper-emotional right now. I've been crying like twice a day. But, I know I'm a big girl and I'll get through this. So will all of you.

Although this completely goes against my gut instinct to move across the country and get a new job (I like changes, and was expecting a big one) - I've decided to stay in Boston working at my current job as a clinical case manager. My clients need me and I like it there. I'll hopefully complete this pub I am working on and maybe start another. I'm also planning on volunteering at a research lab I used to work at and learn how to operate the scanner.

Psychwanabe: That is a hard decision. If you really want to get into a PhD, it sounds like you have a good shot at it next year. Can you wait another year? If you're just itching for a change and to go back to school then I'm sure you can be happy at the PsyD program too. It's true the program is what you make of it.

Other ways to get through this: chocolate and massages. Good luck to everyone who is still waiting and making hard decisions. You are not alone. HUGS ALL AROUND!

Neuronerd1, I'm really emotional too. Last night my hubby took me out to make me feel better, and I cried for the first hour or so. I must've looked really terrific walking into the restaraunt! 😱

I hope you feel good about your decision to stay and keep working for the next year. The experience will look great on your CV for round 2!

wow, i dont feel so terrible anymore. so many ppl in the same situation as me. Accepted to my second choice program and on the "top" of the waitlist for my first. Will they really make me wait till april 15th? should i be sending out financial aid applications to both of these programs? man this really sucks. so tempted to interrogate the program and see where exactly i fit in the whole scheme of things. my coping mechanism is being on this forum and wallowing in the collective self pity which seems to be manifesting so well on this particular thread. thanks guys! 😳

Isn't it weird how commiseration makes us all feel so much better? Ooooh - dissertation topic anyone? I wonder how you could use the data from a site like this in a study... hmmmm... 🙄

 

[psychwanabe]

I think I mentioned last night that I decided to rip the bandaid the rest of the way off and email my other POI at the PhD program where I interviewed, but have heard nothing. This is the reply:

Hi [psychwanabe] &#8211; thank you for this nice note. I have one offer out and have not heard back yet.

So I guess this is better than an rejection, but it doesn't say whether I am getting the offer if the first person declines. Also, it means I'll still be haunting this thread for a while yet. Sorry ya'll!!

 

[Aspire2Be]

I agree with neuronerd1 who said this was such an emotional, supportive note to read. Thanks Anticip for the validation of feelings. Getting the "life is not over" speech is also good, but right now I'm still in wallowing self-pity mode! 😳



You're right, RayneeDeigh, it isn't a bad offer, money-wise. I'm not really into posting specifics about myself, but waiting isn't really an option in my mind. Besides, I know I can be happy at that program. It's the "idea" of the PhD that I'm having trouble letting go. In many ways, a PsyD may fit my goals better anyway.

Intellectual leper is exactly right! Don't they KNOW how smart I am? These programs have no idea what they are passing up when they reject me! 😎 I don't know if it's better that I got the interview at all or not: I saw the place and met the people and loved it even more than before! Very tough to swallow losing that one.



And especially thanks again to you Lyn for starting this thread! 👍 I don't know what I would do without it the last few days.



Neuronerd1, I'm really emotional too. Last night my hubby took me out to make me feel better, and I cried for the first hour or so. I must've looked really terrific walking into the restaraunt! 😱

I hope you feel good about your decision to stay and keep working for the next year. The experience will look great on your CV for round 2!



Isn't it weird how commiseration makes us all feel so much better? Ooooh - dissertation topic anyone? I wonder how you could use the data from a site like this in a study... hmmmm... 🙄

Sounds like a scientific study to prove that misery does indeed love company... 🙂

 

[Lyn71785]

I think I mentioned last night that I decided to rip the bandaid the rest of the way off and email my other POI at the PhD program where I interviewed, but have heard nothing. This is the reply:

Hi [psychwanabe] – thank you for this nice note. I have one offer out and have not heard back yet.

So I guess this is better than an rejection, but it doesn't say whether I am getting the offer if the first person declines. Also, it means I'll still be haunting this thread for a while yet. Sorry ya'll!!

Well as one of the all-star posters on this thread I must say we'd probably get a little lonely without ya!

About your reply from your POI, it's not a complete downer. At least you got a speedy response and there's still hope. Have you been stalking the entire forum to see if anyone's mentioned the school you're waiting to hear from? Cuz I did that and did not get good news at all. It seems someone who HAS an offer at my #1 has accepted an offer somewhere else... but the school says no one has rejected an offer yet!!!

AAAAAAARRRGH!

 

[psychwanabe]

Well as one of the all-star posters on this thread I must say we'd probably get a little lonely without ya!

About your reply from your POI, it's not a complete downer. At least you got a speedy response and there's still hope. Have you been stalking the entire forum to see if anyone's mentioned the school you're waiting to hear from? Cuz I did that and did not get good news at all. It seems someone who HAS an offer at my #1 has accepted an offer somewhere else... but the school says no one has rejected an offer yet!!!

AAAAAAARRRGH!

You're right, it's not a complete downer. I am just not getting my hopes up.

And of COURSE I've been haunting the threads: are you kidding? 😉 I check SDN more than I do my homework, housework, more than I sleep, etc. However, I haven't found anything about that school. I think we should make it a rule that anyone who applies to graduate school should have to join SDN and actively post their offers/decisions. All in favor?

PS: I love your new avatar. It looks like some of the psych t-shirts I found!

 

[Lyn71785]

Well, the title says it all... But I still haven't heard. And still getting at least 3 people a day asking me where I'm going! I skipped class today because I knew my prof would ask me if I knew where I was going yet.

 

[psychwanabe]

Well, the title says it all... But I still haven't heard. And still getting at least 3 people a day asking me where I'm going! I skipped class today because I knew my prof would ask me if I knew where I was going yet.

Hey Lyn! 🙂 Sorry you don't have an answer yet! 🙁 It's kind of like when I was pregant and overdue. I got sick of hearing "are you still here?" when I showed up at different places, so I just stopped going!

Here's what's weird for me today: I got that response back from my POI at the other waitlisted school, right? So I emailed her to thank her for her response, and I said "based on your email, I am assuming I'm on your waitlist...if that's incorrect, please let me know." She wrote me back and said "I'm very interested in your application, but I am not permitted to have two offers out simultaneously and theoretically, the other person has until 4/15 to reply." And then she thanked me for checking.

What the @#$%& does that mean? I guess she's saying yes, I'm waitlisted, but why the weird comment about two acceptances?? I didn't ask her if I was accepted, I asked if I was waitlisted!

And more importantly, why are Psych professors so incapable of answering the damn question???!!! 😡

 

[Therapist4Chnge]

It sounds like you are #2, but she probably can't say that 'officially', in the event that the other person accepts. I'm so happy all of that stuff is in the past!

-t

 

[paramour]

Hey Lyn! 🙂 Sorry you don't have an answer yet! 🙁 It's kind of like when I was pregant and overdue. I got sick of hearing "are you still here?" when I showed up at different places, so I just stopped going!

I was 1 1/2 mths past due and got that all the time. It was extremely irritating.

Here's what's weird for me today: I got that response back from my POI at the other waitlisted school, right? So I emailed her to thank her for her response, and I said "based on your email, I am assuming I'm on your waitlist...if that's incorrect, please let me know." She wrote me back and said "I'm very interested in your application, but I am not permitted to have two offers out simultaneously and theoretically, the other person has until 4/15 to reply." And then she thanked me for checking.

What the @#$%& does that mean? I guess she's saying yes, I'm waitlisted, but why the weird comment about two acceptances?? I didn't ask her if I was accepted, I asked if I was waitlisted!

And more importantly, why are Psych professors so incapable of answering the damn question???!!! 😡

It sounds like you are #2, but she probably can't say that 'officially', in the event that the other person accepts. I'm so happy all of that stuff is in the past!

-t

That response does suck, but I agree with T4Chg, sounds like you may be #2. It sucks that they cannot give you something more definitive than this. I received a similar response when I inquired about my status after receiving notification of my wait listing. Something along the lines of "while it is hard to predict whether you will receive an offer or not, I think there is certainly the possibility that you will definitely receive one". This combined with a few other statements had me going on ups & downs emotionally. The mixed messages really frustrated me until I heard from them definitively at some later point. G'luck!

 

[RayneeDeigh]

I was 1 1/2 mths past due and got that all the time. It was extremely irritating.

Okay whoa whoa whoa. Back it up. You were 10.5 months pregnant? 😱

 

[paramour]

Okay whoa whoa whoa. Back it up. You were 10.5 months pregnant? 😱

Yep, baby wasn't going anywhere. The doc wouldn't listen to me because he was a frakkin' arrogant, ignorant bastard. They finally induced me after a second ultrasound showed the placenta had already matured & was starting to decay. But, they didn't tell me that until after I started questioning whether I wanted the induction after all. A nurse finally came out and told me what was up . . . which is how I found out anything that was wrong during my entire pregnancy term. Doc was a complete & utter ****. 😉

 

[RayneeDeigh]

Yep, baby wasn't going anywhere. The doc wouldn't listen to me because he was a frakkin' arrogant, ignorant bastard. They finally induced me after a second ultrasound showed the placenta had already matured & was starting to decay. But, they didn't tell me that until after I started questioning whether I wanted the induction after all. A nurse finally came out and told me what was up . . . which is how I found out anything that was wrong during my entire pregnancy term. Doc was a complete & utter ****. 😉

Wow, that's crazy. What a lazy fetus.

 

[psychwanabe]

I was 1 1/2 mths past due and got that all the time. It was extremely irritating.

Well, you are the first person I knew who was pregnant longer than I was. I was 23 days overdue! 😱 I thought THAT was bad enough! You win! 🙄

That response does suck, but I agree with T4Chg, sounds like you may be #2. It sucks that they cannot give you something more definitive than this. I received a similar response when I inquired about my status after receiving notification of my wait listing. Something along the lines of "while it is hard to predict whether you will receive an offer or not, I think there is certainly the possibility that you will definitely receive one". This combined with a few other statements had me going on ups & downs emotionally. The mixed messages really frustrated me until I heard from them definitively at some later point. G'luck!

I am sure you are both right. I just don't get why a straight answer can't be given. "We offered it to someone else, if they say no, we will offer it to you."

Is that so hard? I just want to know where I stand!!

 

[Therapist4Chnge]

I am sure you are both right. I just don't get why a straight answer can't be given. "We offered it to someone else, if they say no, we will offer it to you."

Is that so hard? I just want to know where I stand!!

It could be a liability thing.....they can't technically tell you this in the off chance that the other person declines and then they DON'T offer it to you. You could say that they PROMISED it to you (an if A then B type thing), and they'd be on the hook if you lose out on the spot.

-t

 

[RayneeDeigh]

Speaking of grad schools not answering questions...

I got an email acceptance from PGSP over a month ago and they said I'd get my paper one in the mail. I waited and waited, nothing came. Since I was still considering the school, I called to see what was up. The guy said that they'd tried to mail it to me twice but "couldn't figure out" how to get it to Canada. We double-checked the address and the postal code was wrong so we fixed it and I figured I'd get my letter (I was also supposed to get a letter to tell me if I got a fellowship or not). Neither of those things came. I called again, no answer. I sent two emails, both went unanswered. Now that I've definitely decided not to go (because I can't afford it) it's turned into a funny joke. I don't know how secure I"d feel going to a grad school that can't a) return its emails b) answer its phone and c) mail a letter to Canada.

 

[Therapist4Chnge]

It must have been lost by Moose Mail. 🙁

-t

 

[RayneeDeigh]

It must have been lost by Moose Mail. 🙁

-t

Oh if I had a dime for every time someone mentioned moose around me.

I've never actually seen a moose in the wild. I feel ripped off as a Canadian.

 

[Therapist4Chnge]

Oh if I had a dime for every time someone mentioned moose around me.

I've never actually seen a moose in the wild. I feel ripped off as a Canadian.

So moose jokes are old, eh?



I use to see them every year during my trips up to Maine. They are beautiful animals....as long as they aren't staring down your car.

-t

 

[RayneeDeigh]

So moose jokes are old, eh?



I use to see them every year during my trips up to Maine. They are beautiful animals....as long as they aren't staring down your car.

-t

I know that in Newfoundland they had a real problem for a while 'cause people kept dying when they hit moose with their cars. lol

We had a lynx loose in the city once. That's about the only fun wildlife story I have. I don't even live in an igloo. 🙁

 

[paramour]

Well, you are the first person I knew who was pregnant longer than I was. I was 23 days overdue! 😱 I thought THAT was bad enough! You win! 🙄




I am sure you are both right. I just don't get why a straight answer can't be given. "We offered it to someone else, if they say no, we will offer it to you."

Is that so hard? I just want to know where I stand!!

Woo hoo! I win at something. Finally. Of course, I'm secretly an elephant, which makes carrying lazy fetuses for lengthier periods much easier. 😀

I think straight answers are against policy somewhere. So, they give you the most convuluted, round-about answer possible so you can read 10 different things into at once and they have their arses covered. Who cares if it causes emotional issues in the poor applicants who have to decipher it.

 

[blindblonde]

Tomorrow will be 5 weeks on the wait list at NIU, and 2 weeks since I heard I was first laternate. This is seriously going to kill me. I already have a cold induced by stress.

ARGH!!

Sorry...done ranting for now.

 

[RayneeDeigh]

We all need some meditation! Hum with me now!

Hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Actually, it sounds silly... but my mom had a feeling that I would need some rest and relaxation after all of this application/rejection/waitinglist bullcrap, so she booked the two of us a trip to Sedona, AZ for my grad present. In six weeks I'll be sitting by the pool at a resort getting a past-life reading with a psychic. 😀

If I had a million dollars I'd pay for you all to come with me. But instead, I'll just print out all your icons, put them on popsicle sticks, and it'll be like you're there!

 

[Therapist4Chnge]

If I had a million dollars I'd pay for you all to come with me. But instead, I'll just print out all your icons, put them on popsicle sticks, and it'll be like you're there!

Can I have Popsicle #3 or #8...those are two of my lucky numbers!!

-t

 

[paramour]

We all need some meditation! Hum with me now!

Hummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

Actually, it sounds silly... but my mom had a feeling that I would need some rest and relaxation after all of this application/rejection/waitinglist bullcrap, so she booked the two of us a trip to Sedona, AZ for my grad present. In six weeks I'll be sitting by the pool at a resort getting a past-life reading with a psychic. 😀

If I had a million dollars I'd pay for you all to come with me. But instead, I'll just print out all your icons, put them on popsicle sticks, and it'll be like you're there!

NOOOO! You must make sock puppets for each of us. 😀

And, nice mother. Wanna trade? Mine couldn't care less--of course, she has no idea that I applied to doctoral programs either--I quit updating her about the time she told me that there was no point in going to college because they certainly weren't going to help me with it financially "'cuz we have no money" and "what's the point when you should be at home taking care of your husband & kids" . . . nevermind that I was STILL IN HIGH SCHOOL and had no family to "care for" at that point. Meh. Silly folks.

 

[RayneeDeigh]

Can I have Popsicle #3 or #8...those are two of my lucky numbers!!

-t

Sure no problem

 

[psychwanabe]

Tomorrow will be 5 weeks on the wait list at NIU, and 2 weeks since I heard I was first laternate. This is seriously going to kill me. I already have a cold induced by stress.

ARGH!!

Sorry...done ranting for now.

Sorry, blindblonde. That sucks! Take some vitamin C and go take a nap. Maybe you can at least get rid of your cold. 😳

I keep thinking that we should all be hearing any minute now. All the offers are out: we are just waiting on people to decide. Of course those people are waiting on people to decide who are waiting on people to decide who are waiting...

Holy crap! There's just one person holding all the offers, isn't there!?!?! 😱

 

[CheetahGirl]

I keep thinking that we should all be hearing any minute now.

Hey Colleagues from the Institute of Waitlist:

Let's start a thread called "Waitlisted Offers" or something to this effect when you hear something. It will appeal to the OCD in all of us, instead of navigating thru all the threads.

This external locus of control orientation is leading to major cognitive dissonance, n’est pas? 😕

 

[Lyn71785]

I keep thinking that we should all be hearing any minute now. All the offers are out: we are just waiting on people to decide. Of course those people are waiting on people to decide who are waiting on people to decide who are waiting...

Holy crap! There's just one person holding all the offers, isn't there!?!?! 😱

I keep thinking the same thing. Feeling like I should hear ANY MINUTE is what's driving me crazy, since I've been thinking that for weeks now. So it's been 29 days now, feeling like I should hear something ANY MINUTE. That's 41,760 minutes that I've been expecting a phonecall/email.

Wanna know the first thing my friend told me when I found out I was waitlisted? She said, "What if the person holding the offer at school A is waitlisted at school B, where you are holding an offer?" I wanted to strangle her!

Also, am receiving scary emails from school B where I am holding an offer. Along the lines of... "Everyone else has accepted-- you are the last holdout." This type of statement wreaks havoc on my already dangling-by-a-thread sanity.

 

[RayneeDeigh]

I thought schools weren't supposed to pressure you until April 15th?

 

[psychwanabe]

Wanna know the first thing my friend told me when I found out I was waitlisted? She said, "What if the person holding the offer at school A is waitlisted at school B, where you are holding an offer?" I wanted to strangle her!

Oh my gosh, that's the funniest and sickest thing I've ever read!! What if that's true? It's entirely possible: the school they're holding is your first choice, and their first choice is the school YOU'RE holdling. So what happens, you both accept what you have on the 15th because you never got off the waitlist, and neither of you gets the school you want? 😱

Also, am receiving scary emails from school B where I am holding an offer. Along the lines of... "Everyone else has accepted-- you are the last holdout." This type of statement wreaks havoc on my already dangling-by-a-thread sanity.

Don't let them get to you! You have every right to wait. It certainly isn't your fault that you don't have all the choices in front of you yet. I am fortunate that my school isn't really nagging me. I emailed the graduate secretary yesterday with a question, and told her my status. Her reply was basically, "we know how much stress the applicants are under right now, and we understand that it takes time to make these important decisions."

Hang in there! 👍 🙂 👍

 

[Cosmo 23]

Hi all, I just removed myself off of three (phd clinical) waitlists and declined two admissions offers (1 phd clinical, 1 phd counseling), so hopefully that clears the path for some more of you.

Good luck in the home stretch of this grueling process!

 

[Dizzie]

Where have you decided to attend?? Any hint of the areas where these programs were where you said no🙂

 

[tkj]

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[psychwanabe]

Well, I am officially off everyone's waitlists because both programs got acceptances from other applicants. 🙁

Now it's time to decide on the psyd offer I'm holding (DEBT) or waiting a year.

Oh, and drink and cry in my beer.

 

[tkj]

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