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Thought it might be appropriate to start this now? Not that there's going to be any sort of movement..but just a place to be sad about being wait-listed. I'll start...definitely put a damper on my day this morning. Waitlisted at Miami.
 
I'm alternating between being hopeful and really really sad. I read previous school threads and am just getting mixed answers everywhere.

EDIT: Now, just sad. I feel like crawling into a hole. But I'm going to give myself this whole day to sulk and be sad. Then tomorrow, off to resume life and focus on the next few batches of interviews while writing some update letters!
 
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after_the_flood said:
Woke up to a waitlist and tried to will myself into believing that I was in a dream and not in real life. Didn't work.
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LOL (btw I don't mean to laugh at you) That reminds me. The day I was waitlisted by UCI, I woke up at 4:30 AM and couldn't go back to sleep. Why? Because I dreamt that I was actually accepted and NOT waitlisted, but in the middle of the dream, I noticed the portal seemed off, which seemed to wake me up. Woke up and realized I was in fact waitlisted LOL. The disappointment feeling stung so badly, I was afraid to fall asleep again in fear that I'd dream about the same thing again.
 
musicalfeet said:
LOL (btw I don't mean to laugh at you) That reminds me. The day I was waitlisted by UCI, I woke up at 4:30 AM and couldn't go back to sleep. Why? Because I dreamt that I was actually accepted and NOT waitlisted, but in the middle of the dream, I noticed the portal seemed off, which seemed to wake me up. Woke up and realized I was in fact waitlisted LOL. The disappointment feeling stung so badly, I was afraid to fall asleep again in fear that I'd dream about the same thing again.
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Haha! It's chill no worries. Perhaps it would be prudent to make a rule about not checking the phone until after showering/eating. It's such a rude shock to be awoken to...

Also I don't know if you all have experienced this, but telling your close friends about how excited you are about this school, and that they'll get back to you on X date and then getting waitlisted/deferred... Such an awful feeling. I've stopped talking about it with my close friends for that reason, and so I'm happy to have you all to complain to. Wish I'd known how awful of a process this is so I could have steeled myself coming into it. For the sake of my sanity I'm really lowering my expectations for the rest of the cycle
 
Got wait listed my first cycle and never got in. Got wait listed again second cycle before finally getting off it and into my top choice in May. I'm now a 2nd year student doing better than a lot of people who got accepted right off the bat. Don't get discouraged, just keep working and you will get in, whether it's this cycle or another one. I used to think my app sucked (it didn't) or that there was something about me that made it clear to adcoms I wouldn't succeed in medical school (also apparently not true). The truth is, this whole process is just such a crapshoot that you never know what's going to happen. Good luck!
 
musicalfeet said:
LOL (btw I don't mean to laugh at you) That reminds me. The day I was waitlisted by UCI, I woke up at 4:30 AM and couldn't go back to sleep. Why? Because I dreamt that I was actually accepted and NOT waitlisted, but in the middle of the dream, I noticed the portal seemed off, which seemed to wake me up. Woke up and realized I was in fact waitlisted LOL. The disappointment feeling stung so badly, I was afraid to fall asleep again in fear that I'd dream about the same thing again.
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These dreams are pretty common, I think. I had a couple when I was applying about acceptance/waitlist/rejections from schools and then woke up to something else. I also had dreams the night before I got my MCAT score back where I got back different scores with every dream 😛
 
jqueb29 said:
Got wait listed my first cycle and never got in. Got wait listed again second cycle before finally getting off it and into my top choice in May. I'm now a 2nd year student doing better than a lot of people who got accepted right off the bat. Don't get discouraged, just keep working and you will get in, whether it's this cycle or another one. I used to think my app sucked (it didn't) or that there was something about me that made it clear to adcoms I wouldn't succeed in medical school (also apparently not true). The truth is, this whole process is just such a crapshoot that you never know what's going to happen. Good luck!
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That legitimately made me feel better. Appreciate it.
 
musicalfeet said:
I'm alternating between being hopeful and really really sad. I read previous school threads and am just getting mixed answers everywhere.

EDIT: Now, just sad. I feel like crawling into a hole. But I'm going to give myself this whole day to sulk and be sad. Then tomorrow, off to resume life and focus on the next few batches of interviews while writing some update letters!
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I feel so much rage and self- disgust at the moment. Haven't quite got to the grief stage yet, but I'll get there soon enough. Having an II at my very top choice should make
me feel better, but after all these waitlists, I'm wondering whether I'm should even bother with this expensive trip OOS, to do an interview which apparently
only serves to convince adcoms of my utter mediocrity and overall blandness.
Wrong mentality, I know, but this is really shaking my confidence.
 
catmario said:
I feel so much rage and self- disgust at the moment. Haven't quite got to the grief stage yet, but I'll get there soon enough. Having an II at my very top choice should make
me feel better, but after all these waitlists, I'm wondering whether I'm should even bother with this expensive trip OOS, to do an interview which apparently
only serves to convince adcoms of my utter mediocrity and overall blandness.
Wrong mentality, I know, but this is really shaking my confidence.
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My only advice is to not get attached to any certain school. I'm waitlisted at both my top choices, for one of them it doesn't seem likely I'll get off the waitlist. While I wish things didn't turn out the way they were, it has made me do more research into my other schools that I have yet to hear from. It's like talking to a crush-- you tend to choke if you realize you're talking to a crush, rather than just another person of the opposite sex. I think I was way more nervous for my "dream school", which may have contributed to my WL result =/. Not that I would know, because they won't give feedback till next Aug.
 
musicalfeet said:
My only advice is to not get attached to any certain school. I'm waitlisted at both my top choices, for one of them it doesn't seem likely I'll get off the waitlist. While I wish things didn't turn out the way they were, it has made me do more research into my other schools that I have yet to hear from. It's like talking to a crush-- you tend to choke if you realize you're talking to a crush, rather than just another person of the opposite sex. I think I was way more nervous for my "dream school", which may have contributed to my WL result =/. Not that I would know, because they won't give feedback till next Aug.
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Totally get that. I'm trying to love my "top choice" a lot less and leave room for the schools that i'll be intervieiwing at next :laugh:. Unrequited love sucks.
 
childofmercy said:
Totally get that. I'm trying to love my "top choice" a lot less and leave room for the schools that i'll be intervieiwing at next :laugh:. Unrequited love sucks.
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I'd say "think of it logically". In metaphorical terms, you might be super attracted to that extremely good-looking guy/girl, but you're not thinking rationally. You're being driven by "hormones". If you manage to shut that part of your brain off, you'll see that there are great, good-looking, wonderful people everywhere that might be a great match for you.

The more I look at the schools that didn't stick out to me immediately, the more I like it. That being said, there were also times I saw that certain schools just weren't a good fit.
 
after_the_flood said:
Haha! It's chill no worries. Perhaps it would be prudent to make a rule about not checking the phone until after showering/eating. It's such a rude shock to be awoken to...

Also I don't know if you all have experienced this, but telling your close friends about how excited you are about this school, and that they'll get back to you on X date and then getting waitlisted/deferred... Such an awful feeling. I've stopped talking about it with my close friends for that reason, and so I'm happy to have you all to complain to. Wish I'd known how awful of a process this is so I could have steeled myself coming into it. For the sake of my sanity I'm really lowering my expectations for the rest of the cycle
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This exact same thing happened to me. I interviewed at a school in September that I really really liked, and I made the mistake of telling my close friends and family friends about how much I liked it and that I'd hear back on October 15. This school I believe accepts > 50% post-interview and I thought my interviews went well so while I wasn't by any means EXPECTING an acceptance, I thought I had a very good shot. I ended up getting deferred and having to tell all of them was quite disheartening. It was my fault from the beginning for being super excited about it. From now on I'm not only lowering my expectations but I'm only telling 1-2 close friends about which II's I get and I'm not telling anyone outside of my mom when I hear back. I now just tell people "I'll hear back from schools in the spring" and it feels liberating haha.
 
Placed on post-interview holds at two schools.
 
musicalfeet said:
My only advice is to not get attached to any certain school. I'm waitlisted at both my top choices, for one of them it doesn't seem likely I'll get off the waitlist. While I wish things didn't turn out the way they were, it has made me do more research into my other schools that I have yet to hear from. It's like talking to a crush-- you tend to choke if you realize you're talking to a crush, rather than just another person of the opposite sex. I think I was way more nervous for my "dream school", which may have contributed to my WL result =/. Not that I would know, because they won't give feedback till next Aug.
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I wish I had your advice 2 months ago. I got rejected at my first top choice and deferred at my second + third top choices. Feel like I dug my own grave.
 
Hey fellow wait-listers, I was just wait-listed at two schools I interviewed at so far 🙁
I interviewed at 6 schools, have 2 more to go so I am trying to stay positive.
Wait-listing just really stinks! It's like a rejection but not fully and you are just dangling there with this tiny bit of hope that you maybe, just maybe will have a chance to be accepted.
I feel for all of you and I hope that you all hear some good news in the near future <3
 
Placed on post interview hold at my one school that I interviewed at. Fingers crossed!
 
after_the_flood said:
Haha! It's chill no worries. Perhaps it would be prudent to make a rule about not checking the phone until after showering/eating. It's such a rude shock to be awoken to...

Also I don't know if you all have experienced this, but telling your close friends about how excited you are about this school, and that they'll get back to you on X date and then getting waitlisted/deferred... Such an awful feeling. I've stopped talking about it with my close friends for that reason, and so I'm happy to have you all to complain to. Wish I'd known how awful of a process this is so I could have steeled myself coming into it. For the sake of my sanity I'm really lowering my expectations for the rest of the cycle
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I did the exact same thing about telling friends/family and then subsequently lowering expectations....
 
AH I needed this thread as well! Wait-listed at my top choice school, was extremely devastated. It's also hard because I don't know think family/friends know the agony of actually being wait-listed. I know it's technically not over yet, but I still feel like it's pretty much over 🙁
 
fondofhats said:
AH I needed this thread as well! Wait-listed at my top choice school, was extremely devastated. It's also hard because I don't know think family/friends know the agony of actually being wait-listed. I know it's technically not over yet, but I still feel like it's pretty much over 🙁
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Same, the first few times (because they were my top 1 and 2 choice actually), I actually curled up and sobbed a little.... *embarassment* don't judge me.
 
I'm waitlisted at one of my two MD interviews. The other of which I'm still waiting to hear back from. They said we wouldn't hear until December, but then people started getting news a few weeks ago so I'm kind of tripping balls.

I'm in a few different threads like this. I've found my favorite sdn peeps in these, and this thread is no exception. Let's do what we can to keep each other sane and positive. This process is terrible for many reasons, but it doesn't mean we need to be completely stressed for almost an entire year.
 
Waitlisted at my top choice (where the WL is pretty much a soft reject unless you're incredibly lucky) and I'm pretty bummed about it. Thankfully I have the security of knowing I'll be matriculating at a good (albeit, far away and expensive) school in the summer, so I am trying to focus on the positive.
 
Buck Winters said:
I'm waitlisted at one of my two MD interviews. The other of which I'm still waiting to hear back from. They said we wouldn't hear until December, but then people started getting news a few weeks ago so I'm kind of tripping balls.

I'm in a few different threads like this. I've found my favorite sdn peeps in these, and this thread is no exception. Let's do what we can to keep each other sane and positive. This process is terrible for many reasons, but it doesn't mean we need to be completely stressed for almost an entire year.
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:claps::claps:
Totally agree with you on that! This process is grueling and emotional, but we deserve our sanity! I hope everyone finds a good way to distract themselves throughout the waiting period!
 
I am so glad I found this thread. I was waitlisted/deferred at 2 schools that I loved and I was heartbroken. Luckily one of the schools has a lot of movement on the wait list come spring. I am waiting to hear back from a school I interviewed at this month but I am expecting to get wait listed there as well since they accept like 3-5 interviewees a month until spring. So I'm just going to seat tight and pray for the best.
 
i need this thread so much. Last year I interviewed and never got off the waitlist. This year I interviewed and am already waitlisted. I am terribly sad because this is my last go, I strengthened my app as much as I could this past year.
 
I have had two interviews. I got waitlisted at my first one which really bummed me out and I should know anytime about the other school. I am praying I get in so I can have time to prepare and it would relieve so much stress. Plus, it is not my top choice but it is high on my list so essentially my interview season would be over unless I get an II at a few specific schools
 
123456123456 said:
I have had two interviews. I got waitlisted at my first one which really bummed me out and I should know anytime about the other school. I am praying I get in so I can have time to prepare and it would relieve so much stress. Plus, it is not my top choice but it is high on my list so essentially my interview season would be over unless I get an II at a few specific schools
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It's ok! I'm not very religious, but I am starting to believe that God might have a plan set out for all of us, we just need to play it out. Like my mom says, keep your head up and keep praying, it's just a matter of time. A river cuts through a rock not because of its power, but because of its persistence.
 
I'm on the waitlist for the waitlist at my top choice. I won't find out till April if I made the actual waitlist 🙁
I was thinking of sending a letter of intent in like January/February when they start to think about forming the waitlist. Do you guys think it's a good idea to wait till then, or should I send one now (I interviewed early October)? I know letters of intent don't do much but this school specifically said that if they don't hear from you after being put on hold, they'll assume you're no longer interested. I wish I had updates to send, but I probably won't. My GPA is already high so unless I get a 4.0 this semester (not sure if that's possible) it would seem stupid to update them with my grades. I am doing a poster presentation this week and did a senior capstone paper, both about the same research, but the presentation is not even at a conference, it's just my university's poster presentation session. I wonder if it'd be worth it to include that in an update?
 
Adding myself to the list and hoping for some good luck. I've interviewed at 8 schools. Waitlisted at 5, still waiting to hear from the other 3. Four of the waitlist schools are Texas schools and I am OOS there, so I am assuming that that is *part* of the problem, but who knows. There aren't that many things I can do to improve my application, but I'm starting to think that I'll have to try again in another application cycle. At least the PS and secondaries are already written!
 
Hearing back from one of my schools on Dec 15...they have a pretty high post-interview acceptance rate, but all that means for me is that I'm going to be devastated if I'm waitlisted.........

I can feel the neuroticism pouring back in.
 
musicalfeet said:
Hearing back from one of my schools on Dec 15...they have a pretty high post-interview acceptance rate, but all that means for me is that I'm going to be devastated if I'm waitlisted.........

I can feel the neuroticism pouring back in.
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Yes... let the neuroticism flow through you.

Kidding, calm down buddy you're fine.
 
2015istheYear said:
Well.... I am here now. Got waitlisted at one of my top schools. Trying to remind myself this is a *relatively* good thing.
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Depends on the school! Waitlist ~= rejection at my favorite school so far.

So I'm pretty excited about that -.-
 
Lannister said:
I'm on the waitlist for the waitlist at my top choice. I won't find out till April if I made the actual waitlist 🙁
I was thinking of sending a letter of intent in like January/February when they start to think about forming the waitlist. Do you guys think it's a good idea to wait till then, or should I send one now (I interviewed early October)? I know letters of intent don't do much but this school specifically said that if they don't hear from you after being put on hold, they'll assume you're no longer interested. I wish I had updates to send, but I probably won't. My GPA is already high so unless I get a 4.0 this semester (not sure if that's possible) it would seem stupid to update them with my grades. I am doing a poster presentation this week and did a senior capstone paper, both about the same research, but the presentation is not even at a conference, it's just my university's poster presentation session. I wonder if it'd be worth it to include that in an update?
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Pretty sure your top is the school I'll likely wind up at (if I can go by your history in their forum). The admissions staff there are really great, if you're thinking about sending a letter of intent I'd go ahead and just do so once you finish with all the updates you want to include. No way it will hurt you really.
 
NotWayneBrady said:
Pretty sure your top is the school I'll likely wind up at (if I can go by your history in their forum). The admissions staff there are really great, if you're thinking about sending a letter of intent I'd go ahead and just do so once you finish with all the updates you want to include. No way it will hurt you really.
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Haha I think everyone on here knows my top choice. That's so awesome you got accepted, I'd do anything for an acceptance there. But I guess it makes the most sense to send an update over winter break, then!
 
Lannister said:
Haha I think everyone on here knows my top choice. That's so awesome you got accepted, I'd do anything for an acceptance there. But I guess it makes the most sense to send an update over winter break, then!
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Probably for the best that way, it at least lets them know you're still interested.

(Sorry for the derail, stay strong waitlisters!) Is Cleveland as bad as people make it out to be? I liked it during my visit, but I hear negative things about it pretty much all the time. I like to think people just look for reasons to complain, but I've even seen you describe it both positively/negatively in different posts.
 
Lannister said:
I'm on the waitlist for the waitlist at my top choice. I won't find out till April if I made the actual waitlist 🙁
I was thinking of sending a letter of intent in like January/February when they start to think about forming the waitlist. Do you guys think it's a good idea to wait till then, or should I send one now (I interviewed early October)? I know letters of intent don't do much but this school specifically said that if they don't hear from you after being put on hold, they'll assume you're no longer interested. I wish I had updates to send, but I probably won't. My GPA is already high so unless I get a 4.0 this semester (not sure if that's possible) it would seem stupid to update them with my grades. I am doing a poster presentation this week and did a senior capstone paper, both about the same research, but the presentation is not even at a conference, it's just my university's poster presentation session. I wonder if it'd be worth it to include that in an update?
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I would just send a letter of intent now if you know that Cwu is your top choice
 
NotWayneBrady said:
Depends on the school! Waitlist ~= rejection at my favorite school so far.

So I'm pretty excited about that -.-
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Well we just never know, let's keep the hope and faith up because it IS super early in the cycle.
 
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NotWayneBrady said:
Probably for the best that way, it at least lets them know you're still interested.

(Sorry for the derail, stay strong waitlisters!) Is Cleveland as bad as people make it out to be? I liked it during my visit, but I hear negative things about it pretty much all the time. I like to think people just look for reasons to complain, but I've even seen you describe it both positively/negatively in different posts.
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I have a love hate relationship with Cleveland lol. And a lot of people who live in Cleveland love to talk about how much it sucks ("mistake on the lake" haha) but it's like fondly poking fun. It's not NY or Chicago, but it's getting a lot better, and it's exciting to be from a developing city. There are always new restaurants and things opening.

Also, don't listen to anyone from Case undergrad. It's very different from Case med and there are a lot of people who absolutely despise it and, by extension, despise Cleveland.
 
Lannister said:
I have a love hate relationship with Cleveland lol. And a lot of people who live in Cleveland love to talk about how much it sucks ("mistake on the lake" haha) but it's like fondly poking fun. It's not NY or Chicago, but it's getting a lot better, and it's exciting to be from a developing city. There are always new restaurants and things opening.

Also, don't listen to anyone from Case undergrad. It's very different from Case med and there are a lot of people who absolutely despise it and, by extension, despise Cleveland.
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Guess I'll have to wait and see. I grew up in the middle of LA so it's going to be an interesting transition.
 
NotWayneBrady said:
Guess I'll have to wait and see. I grew up in the middle of LA so it's going to be an interesting transition.
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Oh yeah for sure. I grew up in Chicago so I really hated it at first. But it grows on you 😛 there was a point a few months ago (before Case put me on hold, of course) when I realized that I could envision a future for myself here.
 
Wait listed at another school. Man, I'm bummed!
 
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