Wedding after 2nd year/ boards

[WnderWmn10]

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Hey Guys!

I just got engaged, and am trying to decide when to have the wedding. I was thinking of July or early August 2008, after I am done with my second year and boards. Just looking for advice from people who have done this before. At this point I know nothing about planning weddings, but I do know second year is much harder than first year. However, third year is pretty busy as well. I'm not sure what would be the best time, and I'd imagine I'm doing the majority of the planning.

Thanks SO much for the help!
Hilary

 

[OrnotMajestic]

Hey Guys!

I just got engaged, and am trying to decide when to have the wedding. I was thinking of July or early August 2008, after I am done with my second year and boards. Just looking for advice from people who have done this before. At this point I know nothing about planning weddings, but I do know second year is much harder than first year. However, third year is pretty busy as well. I'm not sure what would be the best time, and I'd imagine I'm doing the majority of the planning.

Thanks SO much for the help!
Hilary

Well, your school must be different, because we START third year the beginning of July after second year. Typically, most schools don't give you much time between boards and rotations. There is always the option of taking the first rotation off (many schools allow you to do this) and then making it up 4th year (you typically lose one of your elective rotations), so you still graduate with your class.

Good luck, and congrats!

 

[WhoisJohnGalt]

Hey Guys!

I just got engaged, and am trying to decide when to have the wedding. I was thinking of July or early August 2008, after I am done with my second year and boards. Just looking for advice from people who have done this before. At this point I know nothing about planning weddings, but I do know second year is much harder than first year. However, third year is pretty busy as well. I'm not sure what would be the best time, and I'd imagine I'm doing the majority of the planning.

Thanks SO much for the help!
Hilary

Congratulations! 🙂 Do you know when your school starts third year? At my school, 3rd year rotations start in early July, so that wouldn't be a great time to do it here. If your school is similar, it may be a good idea to try to take Step 1 in the early part of June, and get married toward the later part of June (making sure you save a week before orientation for your honeymoon, of course!). If it looks like your schedule will be really crunched around that time (as I think many of us are finding), have you thought about a December wedding during 2nd year? Again, I can only speak for my school, but here we have a lot of free time during 2nd year, so it would be easier to take care of the last minute details during 1st semester rather than when you're dealing with boards. I got married the summer after 1st year (which is probably one of the best times to do it, since you have so much time off), but it sounds like that's a bit soon for you to get everything together 😀 Good luck! 🙂

 

[WnderWmn10]

I don't know why I thought we started later in August. Our rotations start August. Thanks for the advice so far!

 

[lilnoelle]

I don't know why I thought we started later in August. Our rotations start August. Thanks for the advice so far!

How big of a wedding are you gonna have? I think it would be difficult to do most of the planning when you are preparing for the boards.

 

[jeniffer lopez]

I just got married and I did all the prep myself (including hand-made decorations and such) and I would say the most time-consuming activity is choosing your vendors. Once you have a reception place, a photographer/video, a makeup artist, a musician/group, a florist, and a dress picked, the rest takes care of itself ;P I took a week off to sign all my people, and after that I was only able to plan/think about the wedding on the weekends for about six months. I had a tight budget, so if you have more money things will be easier for you. I HIGHLY recommend you to get one of those planners you can buy in Barnes and Nobles (I had a pink one, really good!) since they break it down for you and tell you what you have to do each month.
Hope it helps!
Just remember, when it feels crazy, that marriage is GREAT!!!!😍

 

[stargirl50]

Congratulations! I think the most helpful thing you can do is talk to people at your school (student affairs or upperclassmen) to see when "popular" times to get married are. At my school you can pretty much do it after 2nd year/boards or after 3rd year. There are also people who will just get married one weekend 3rd year and take a honeymoon over Christmas or something. I'm going to be engaged for almost a year and a half (blahhhhh) but we decided to get married after 3rd year. Have fun with the planning! 🙂

 

[nightowl]

well, my husband and I just got married on June 2nd, four days after he took Step I and two weeks after I finished my M1 year. I'll tell you, I think it's easier on the guy than the girl, just bc you're probably going to be doing most of the planning. But it is doable- we're proof =). He took the step on May 29th, rehearsal dinner June 1, wedding June 2, Honeymoon June 3-10, and he started rotations June 11. One thing- you might have to bite the bullet and not have as long to study for the Step. Some people were pushing their date back in June, and for him this wasn't an option. I'll also say it's hard to be less than a month away from getting married and all you can do is study, study, study. You'll get depressed about it. You won't have time to be excited about the wedding. And I would definitely say have it all in order before cram time. But as for timing in med school- it doesn't get better in my opinion, if you're not looking to put it off for years- which we weren't. As for me- I planned most of the stuff in one weekend. I did get lucky and I wasn't picky. And my mom was a huge help, but the wedding was three hours away from school. But I got my wedding dress, veil, booked the church, the reception site, and the caterer in one weekend in January- one week after we got engaged. We set the date quick which made it easier. But if you have a full year, you've got lots of time- just GET IT DONE EARLY. It will make your life so much easier. Florist was a family friend. Really, it's not nearly as hard to plan a wedding as people make it out to be, if you're not really picky about every, single detail. Let me know if you want any more advice and good luck!!! Congrats!

 

[mudphudwannabe]

Congratulations! 😍 I just got married last year (between 1st and 2nd year). It's a fun time, but also pretty stressful..especially if you're like me and try to make everyone happy.

You definitely don't want to be worrying about wedding planning while you're studying for boards. Even if you're having a low key wedding (like we did), planning can still eat up a lot of time at unexpected moments. But really, planning only takes up as much time as you let it. The main thing to get out of the way in the beginning are locations for the ceremony and reception and food. Everything else you can kind of do a little bit at a time and figure out closer to the date. If you and your fiance agree on everything and can just go with the flow, it will make your life a lot easier. Even if you do a lot of planning ahead, make sure you have some time the week before because last minute things will undoubtedly pop up.

See if you can set the date before you start studying for boards. For example, maybe set the date for 2 weeks after finals, 2 weeks for honeymoon/recovery, then give yourself 4 weeks to study for boards. Depending on your academic calendar, that might work. If you don't have your heart set on a summer wedding, a winter or spring break wedding would be great too, and would avoid the whole boards issue. There were a few people at my school who did that during 2nd year, and it seemed to work out well for them. Good luck, and remember to have fun. 😀

 

[notdeadyet]

Congratulations!

Leverage your partner as much as possible. My wife had great intentions for doing lots of wedding planning, but organizing isn't her strong suit and I ended up planning the whole thing other than bride & bridesmaid dresses and flowers (things my wife enjoys).

There is no reason your hubby-to-be can't run with a lion's share of the wedding. It's very easy to set the whole thing up as a basic project with timelines, deadlines and dependencies. It's not rocket science, but requires lots of patience and attention to detail.

It's possible to have your partner do the grunt work with touch points in for your approval (read: sign off on anything requiring taste). Any guy who avoids the wedding planning because it's a "girl's job" needs a reality check. It's like software design, civil construction, curriculum planning, or any other project. Have him step up.