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[Red sea]

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Some problem has really been getting into the way of my academics, and it's gotten to the point where it's really bad. It's a mental, emotional issue where I can start out the semester doing really well, but the moment "it" kicks-in, it takes a big hit on me where I get really depressed, stressed, lose all desire for social contact and I make important decisions based on the way I feel momentarily which brings serious consequences. I'm in a situation right now where 3 things could happen: 1) drop-out of school. 2) lose my fin-aid and have to drop out anyway 3) not stand a chance at pre-pod. I started out the year doing really well then I got hit by "it" and it messed me up and now I possibly failing all my classes even though I'm only doing 12 credits. I come from a family where emotional, mental problems are labeled "BS". (African).

1) How do I explain this to my parents?
2) Suppose I do drop-out, would I be able to just take pre-reqs at a CC and go to pod school?
3) I'm currently avging a D in Chem I and this is my third time taking it. Should I just walk away from any med related profession?
4) I have given serious thought to taking a year-off but I don't know how to tell my parents, I don't think I have that kind of time. I'm really behind in school as it is right now.
5) My last plan was to transfer out of this school. Maybe it's the environment that triggers my "problem".

I just don't know. I need help (advice wise).

 

[347932]

Sounds like you need help with some psychosocial issues. I would talk to your primary care doc about this and see if he or she can recommend some else to help you.

It is difficult to transcend your cultural bias. You are at the point in your life that you can make those changes and step away from your family's cultural stereotypes.

Take control of your situation. It is ultimately up to YOU. Don't let someone else dictate your path. Good luck.

 

[Red sea]

I've gone in to seek professional help. I was recommended some medication but after taking it I wasn't feeling right so I got off it. I'm just worried about the academic aspect the most. Suppose I lose my aid, drop-out, how much does a CC cost? I'm I never allowed to receive aid again? What about podiatry and my chances after such a bad beginning with basic pre-reqs? That's my concern

 

[Ntran1986]

I will reiterate by saying this dilema is yours to control. If medicinal alleviation is not an option, you must find another way to manage these emotions. Maybe a therapist could have some insight. In my situation, i find that hyper-orginization can keep me going on the rainy days. By whatever means necessary, it is important that you strive to work past this issue in order to become the doctor you want to be.

Touching upon whether or not a poor academic past will hinder your chances. If you can manage to show an upward trend, it will increase your chances of admissions. Make sure you do well on the MCAT, and get your ECs in order. Goodluck!

 

[javajava]

Some problem has really been getting into the way of my academics, and it's gotten to the point where it's really bad. It's a mental, emotional issue where I can start out the semester doing really well, but the moment "it" kicks-in, it takes a big hit on me where I get really depressed, stressed, lose all desire for social contact and I make important decisions based on the way I feel momentarily which brings serious consequences. I'm in a situation right now where 3 things could happen: 1) drop-out of school. 2) lose my fin-aid and have to drop out anyway 3) not stand a chance at pre-pod. I started out the year doing really well then I got hit by "it" and it messed me up and now I possibly failing all my classes even though I'm only doing 12 credits. I come from a family where emotional, mental problems are labeled "BS". (African).

1) How do I explain this to my parents?
2) Suppose I do drop-out, would I be able to just take pre-reqs at a CC and go to pod school?
3) I'm currently avging a D in Chem I and this is my third time taking it. Should I just walk away from any med related profession?
4) I have given serious thought to taking a year-off but I don't know how to tell my parents, I don't think I have that kind of time. I'm really behind in school as it is right now.
5) My last plan was to transfer out of this school. Maybe it's the environment that triggers my "problem".

I just don't know. I need help (advice wise).

Are you getting Burn Out

Is that what you mean

Try some meditations or muscle relaxation technqiues if you are

Burn out sucks but they are managable 🙂

 

[347932]

I've gone in to seek professional help. I was recommended some medication but after taking it I wasn't feeling right so I got off it. I'm just worried about the academic aspect the most. Suppose I lose my aid, drop-out, how much does a CC cost? I'm I never allowed to receive aid again? What about podiatry and my chances after such a bad beginning with basic pre-reqs? That's my concern

There are many coping mechanisms that have nothing to do with pharmaceuticals. Also, there are many different types of meds, but getting an accurate estimation of the problem is first and foremost.

Your concerns are legitimate but no one can answer those questions for you. You can do all the research to come up with an informed decision that is best for you.

 

[Red sea]

I don't think I can handle / take it anymore. The semester has about 4 weeks until it concludes. I'll finish it out and then go back home. Thanks guys.

 

[javajava]

I don't think I can handle / take it anymore. The semester has about 4 weeks until it concludes. I'll finish it out and then go back home. Thanks guys.

Ok But just make sure this is a decision you will be fine with of a decade from now whereever you may be

Are you still going to apply to podiatry

 

[bobdolerson]

Hey now. Quit your whining, and stop the pity party. This may sound ridiculously harsh, and maybe it is, but don't give up and get yourself out of the spiraling trains of thought you've established.

This is life, dear friend. There are hard moments, and easy moments. Rarely do you run across someone who shares the precise difficulties or ease in all the same areas, and some things are much harder for some people than others. I don't know all of your difficulties, but it appears college is one of them.

Don't give up in this endeavor, because this represents more than just a degree. What you're in essence telling yourself is that you're unable to stand up to life itself, and I hope you decide to stick out the battle for your own sake. I've struggled a lot with addiction over the years, of several different flavors. I don't say this to say I know your particular struggles, but to give you advice and maybe hope from someone who's looked into the abyss and the jaws of the beast and was finally able to conquer, and the overwhelming sense of accomplishment and self-worth it gave me.

There will be moments in your life where you can't possibly think you'll make it through, but what's the worst that could happen? It's always better to look back after giving it your all and failing than it is to give up, and it's a lot more helpful to your sense of well-being.

Please reconsider what you're about to do, because it won't be the only time you're faced with problems like this, and quitting now will only make it easier to settle for less later. Stick it out and fight back. This is your life to control, not an already-written script that ends in your failure. If you want to talk to someone about your issues or just about anything, drop me a private message; I've been in similar circumstances and I understand how overwhelming the desire can be to give up and leave.

Good luck, my friend, I hope you'll reconsider for your own sake.

 

[GSL83]

2) Suppose I do drop-out, would I be able to just take pre-reqs at a CC and go to pod school?

3) I'm currently avging a D in Chem I and this is my third time taking it. Should I just walk away from any med related profession?

I agree with Bob on the emotional part of your situation... but here is my two cents.

2) In relation to taking the pre-reqs at a CC, I assume you mean a community college? I have already finished my degree and am currently taking physics at a CC because it is 1/4 mile from my house and a fraction of the price in tuition. Some people will say be wary of a CC, but there are some good ones out there. Most Pod schools I talked to said it would depend on your situation and reason for taking classes at a CC. However, in my classes, there are tons of pre-pharm, pre-dents, and pre-meds. My physics partner already got into med school and I already got into Pod school. So it is possible to get in with classes from a CC, just make sure you get the grades to back up your "reason".

3) This might be a little late since the semester is probably close to over. But you can actually talk to your professor and get an "incomplete" with the class (if you have medical issues). It is actually an extension of the class, most schools give you up to a year to complete the course work. On your transcripts it will show an "I" until you get a grade when the course is finished. This is only if you are unable to complete the work by the end of the semester. I took advantage of this option a few years back when I got rocked with the swine flu, and it was a life saver.

 

[flyhi]

I agree with the last two posters. Think looooong and hard before you throw in the towel. You will be amazed at how your UG performance will continue to follow you around for years to come if you end up pursuing any type of graduate work. I think a lot of us have had our struggles with certain parts of our education, but showing you can rise up out of the ashes and still be successful will go a long way - not only with adcoms, but with yourself. This IS life and college is just a stepping stone. It shows that you can stick with a commitment even when times get bad, which they always do.

The decisions you are facing right now should not be taken lightly and I would urge you to seek out any and all type of help available to you. That's what it is there for.

Good Luck and if you want it enough, regardless of what happens this semester, pick yourself up by your bootstraps and just do better next semester. There are plenty of people who have tanked a semester and come back to do great things.

Best of luck to you and keep your head up!

 

[Red sea]

If I finish undergrad and my GPA, MCAT's don't meet the necessary requirements, there's always the option of a post-bacc. Now the problem with this route is that, doing a post-bacc will require me taking out additional loans on top of the loans I'm taking for undergrad already. After doing post-bacc and taking out some more loans, I will need additional loans for med school. There lies another problem. I CAN'T afford all of these loans. I can't afford to pay them all back. There are interests on them. I'm going to be financially crippled for life!

I've really been thinking and I'm considering dropping out of college to go pursue one of those trade school medical professions like dental hygenist, pharmacy technician, etc.,. The money may not be much but I can work for a year+. I don't necessarily need a college degree to apply for pod/med school do I? I can go take the pre-reqs without matriculating at a school and then apply that way?

 

[Red sea]

Ok But just make sure this is a decision you will be fine with of a decade from now whereever you may be

Are you still going to apply to podiatry

I don't think it's realistic for me (financially)

 

[Red sea]

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3) This might be a little late since the semester is probably close to over. But you can actually talk to your professor and get an "incomplete" with the class (if you have medical issues). It is actually an extension of the class, most schools give you up to a year to complete the course work. On your transcripts it will show an "I" until you get a grade when the course is finished. This is only if you are unable to complete the work by the end of the semester. I took advantage of this option a few years back when I got rocked with the swine flu, and it was a life saver.

I just sent an e-mail to my chem professor asking for a pass/fail IF I can bring in a note/letter from a health professional about my medical situation. (I'm waiting for his reply)

Earlier when the problem started, I sent a message to a financial aid advisor and an academic advisor asking about withdrawing from school for the semester to go home and take care of my problem and not hurt my academic record. The replies basically were this: I can leave but, I would have to pay back my financial aid (some of it.) I can't afford to do so. I was told by the academic advisor that I should put my health before my books. So I would be able to leave and have W's on my transcript but I just can't afford to pay back the aid for not finishing out the school semester.

👎

 

[GSL83]

I don't necessarily need a college degree to apply for pod/med school do I? I can go take the pre-reqs without matriculating at a school and then apply that way?

With all the pod schools I applied to, they required at least 90 credit hours to be complete in order to be accepted but don't bank on that alone. Talk to your parents, trust me...they will help you through whatever you are going through... it beats comment boards like this (sorry to be blunt and mean). How far along are you in school anyway?

 

[Red sea]

Well, I've been talking to my parents about my "problem". We haven't concluded the conversation, but at the moment, it seems I will most likely transfer to a school closer to home. That's where I am bumping into problems. Every school's website, community colleges included, are saying they want a GPA of 2.0+ for transfer students. I'm not sure if I will meet that criteria at the end of the semester. My parents are saying their biggest fear is that I wont be accepted to any school again. Please tell me there's still hope.

How do people manage to go back into a school after dropping out? With my really low GPA, possibly below 2.0, what schools can I get into? Every school's site is saying transfer students need a 2.0 or better.

Any help? I've done Google searches for CC's in my area.

Secondly, at my current institution, I am just about done with my general education courses with the exception of one social science. All I need is one social science course, and I can start creating schedules strictly made of courses related to my major. In the event that I do go to a CC, what courses should I take there for just one semester before transferring to a four-year college? I want to save my pre-reqs for a four year institution.

Hope to get some help.

 

[Red sea]

With all the pod schools I applied to, they required at least 90 credit hours to be complete in order to be accepted but don't bank on that alone. Talk to your parents, trust me...they will help you through whatever you are going through... it beats comment boards like this (sorry to be blunt and mean). How far along are you in school anyway?

90 hours of science courses?

 

[347932]

It sounds to me like you need a fresh start.

Have you considered leaving school for awhile, paying off your debt and then starting anew?

You absolutely need to take care of "it", before even considering any future academic endeavors. If you don't, and can't even pull of a 2.0 in college, you have NO chance pf making it in professional school, let alone actually getting in to begin with.

Take care of the skeletons first, then start with a clean slate. Good luck.

 

[347932]

90 hours of science courses?

No. 90 Credit hours, but you MUST have the prerequisites done during that time. You really should call the Pod schools to see what's up and what you need.

 

[Red sea]

It sounds to me like you need a fresh start.

Have you considered leaving school for awhile, paying off your debt and then starting anew?

You absolutely need to take care of "it", before even considering any future academic endeavors. If you don't, and can't even pull of a 2.0 in college, you have NO chance pf making it in professional school, let alone actually getting in to begin with.

Take care of the skeletons first, then start with a clean slate. Good luck.

I'm taking care of it now. I'm talking to my parents about "it" (much better than the psych). I have a month and a half for Christmas break. I really like the transferring schools idea, and I believe that it will be positive. I just want to know how to get into a community college when they're stating that 2.0 is the minimum for transfer students. I don't have time for the waiting 6+ years and going back to school.

 

[Red sea]

No. 90 Credit hours, but you MUST have the prerequisites done during that time. You really should call the Pod schools to see what's up and what you need.

At my current school, 90 creds are what you need for just your major alone. Being a Bio major, the 90 encompasses the pre-reqs.

 

[flyhi]

I'm taking care of it now. I'm talking to my parents about "it" (much better than the psych). I have a month and a half for Christmas break. I really like the transferring schools idea, and I believe that it will be positive. I just want to know how to get into a community college when they're stating that 2.0 is the minimum for transfer students. I don't have time for the waiting 6+ years and going back to school.

It sounds like you need to make some phone calls to admissions and explain your situation. Not all admissions numbers are set in stone, and maybe they will make an exception for you based on your circumstances. Are you already on academic probation at your current school? If you are, I imagine you may be in jeopardy of getting kicked out anyways and may not have the option to stay there.

Like has been already said though, make sure whatever you decide, to make sure you are ready and capable to do well in school. If 'it' is still going to be an issue, there is no sense in continuing to set yourself up for failure.

Also, don't know if this is even possible, but can you just start over as a student? As in, don't ask to transfer any of your credits...just start over as a freshman? CC is only going to serve you through your 200 level classes anyways, so it sounds like you would not be there long and transferring back to a 4yr institution with your record may prove to be very difficult.

If you are able to 'start over' and apply to prof school, you will still have to disclose all of your credits taken and transcripts, but it could be one way to really wipe the slate clean for now, and then show a remarkable turnaound in your academic performance.

 

[Red sea]

I am on probation and I need a 2.0, so yes, I am in danger of a possible dismissal; My midterm GPA was a 2.16, but that was before my problem started kicking in. I am going to try and come up with about $1,000 to take winter classes and get my GPA to a 2.0 in the event that it does drops below that and I get dismissed. I'll lose my aid if I drop below a 2.0 but do you think after getting a 2.0 from winter classes my aid will be returned?

 

[Ntran1986]

The questions you have about school policies and financial aid would be best answered by school faculty. Information gathered on a forum has the potential to be less accurate than hearing it from the employees of the institutions. It will probably be faster and more accurate to pick up the phone (sorry if that sounded harsh).

In regards to your situation, you stated your gpa was a 2.1 before the problem started. If you a struggling to pull off a 2.0 gpa, I would strongly suggest you to take a step back and reflect on the reason for this lack of performance. Whether it be "the problem", lack of academic maturity, or motivation, it needs to be addressed immediately before entering into more classes. You are starting with a low gpa now, and it will be difficult to pull it up. You want to make sure you are entering your future classes with the proper skill set to show an upward trend. The more classes you fail at, the more classes it will take in the future to redeem yourself. So in the long run, it might cost you even more money in tuition to boost your gpa to an acceptable level.

The key is figure out what is truly messing with your performance, and take care of it. As stated earlier, getting in will be difficult, but getting through any professional school might be even more difficult (judging by your past performance). I apologize if this is a bit harsh or forward, but I believe it is beneficial for you to know the uphill battle that you are facing. I wish you the best 🙂

 

[347932]

I don't have time for the waiting 6+ years and going back to school.

Life is a choice. Sure you have the time, you are just choosing not to use it in that way. If you don't have a family to feed, you have all the time in the world.

 

[bobdolerson]

I am on probation and I need a 2.0, so yes, I am in danger of a possible dismissal; My midterm GPA was a 2.16, but that was before my problem started kicking in. I am going to try and come up with about $1,000 to take winter classes and get my GPA to a 2.0 in the event that it does drops below that and I get dismissed. I'll lose my aid if I drop below a 2.0 but do you think after getting a 2.0 from winter classes my aid will be returned?

Like the others said, your best possible choice is to call the individual financial aid office of any school in question. They will generally have far better understanding than some experience from forum-based related experience.

From the sound of it at the moment the only consideration would be whether or not to leave this university, no? I hate to say it but a 2.1x will be a tough sell in applying to podiatry programs, especially if you've a few pre-reqs mixed in there. Though it's hard to say what I'd do in your shoes without being in them, I feel I can at the very least offer what I'd hope I would do if I were there.

Ideally I'd do what I could to fix the gpa this semester. If it's a lost cause at this point, then do what you can to minimize the damage and hopefully return for more classes. After that, I'd steer clear of school until I got this problem taken care of. The solutions to problems that are detrimental to your classes aren't more classes; That's just adding fuel to the fire. This sounds like a problem going deeper than just shool, or being directly and entirely caused by it. You need to face those problems first, or you'll make anything requiring a degree harder and harder to get with a lower and lower GPA.

Good luck with whatever you choose.

 

[Red sea]

The questions you have about school policies and financial aid would be best answered by school faculty. Information gathered on a forum has the potential to be less accurate than hearing it from the employees of the institutions. It will probably be faster and more accurate to pick up the phone (sorry if that sounded harsh).

In regards to your situation, you stated your gpa was a 2.1 before the problem started. If you a struggling to pull off a 2.0 gpa, I would strongly suggest you to take a step back and reflect on the reason for this lack of performance. Whether it be "the problem", lack of academic maturity, or motivation, it needs to be addressed immediately before entering into more classes. You are starting with a low gpa now, and it will be difficult to pull it up. You want to make sure you are entering your future classes with the proper skill set to show an upward trend. The more classes you fail at, the more classes it will take in the future to redeem yourself. So in the long run, it might cost you even more money in tuition to boost your gpa to an acceptable level.

The key is figure out what is truly messing with your performance, and take care of it. As stated earlier, getting in will be difficult, but getting through any professional school might be even more difficult (judging by your past performance). I apologize if this is a bit harsh or forward, but I believe it is beneficial for you to know the uphill battle that you are facing. I wish you the best 🙂

[1] It was during the Thanksgiving break that I was desperately been seeking answers to these questions; I sent out several e-mails but there was no reply considering we were on break and all. I was hoping someone had a familiar experience since fin aid issues tend to generally be in the same boat. It looks like I'll have to wait 'til Monday though. 😳

[2] To fix my GPA I need more credit hours, right (granted I take care of my issue)? I'm considering declaring a second major which would require me to take more classes. It's either that or go for a post-bacc; I prefer the former. I know where the mistakes and the problem lies now, so I am going about fixing it and hopefully pulling 3.0+ wouldn't be a problem.

Thanks for the advice, tran. I've gotten to the root of the problem and I'm in the process of fixing it as I type this. 👍

 

[Red sea]

Life is a choice. Sure you have the time, you are just choosing not to use it in that way. If you don't have a family to feed, you have all the time in the world.0

😕 You don't know what you're talking about.

 

[Red sea]

Like the others said, your best possible choice is to call the individual financial aid office of any school in question. They will generally have far better understanding than some experience from forum-based related experience.

From the sound of it at the moment the only consideration would be whether or not to leave this university, no? I hate to say it but a 2.1x will be a tough sell in applying to podiatry programs, especially if you've a few pre-reqs mixed in there. Though it's hard to say what I'd do in your shoes without being in them, I feel I can at the very least offer what I'd hope I would do if I were there.

Ideally I'd do what I could to fix the gpa this semester. If it's a lost cause at this point, then do what you can to minimize the damage and hopefully return for more classes. After that, I'd steer clear of school until I got this problem taken care of. The solutions to problems that are detrimental to your classes aren't more classes; That's just adding fuel to the fire. This sounds like a problem going deeper than just shool, or being directly and entirely caused by it. You need to face those problems first, or you'll make anything requiring a degree harder and harder to get with a lower and lower GPA.

Good luck with whatever you choose.

I've gotten to the root of the problem now. I've contacted the fin aid office and several professors with these questions/concerns. I'm just waiting for replies now. I will have completed/attempted about 2 pre-reqs (3 classes) at the end of this semester:

Bio I, II (will have to re-take Bio I (D) and if I pull a C>-or-= in Bio II, I wont re-take it)
Chem I (3x: W, F, [don't know yet]

These are the only ones I've done. I still have orgo and physics to go which can help me out.

 

[347932]

😕 You don't know what you're talking about.

So educate me, please.

 

[Red sea]

So educate me, please.

I'm on a study breaker now, so I will engage you. 😛

"Sure you have the time, you are just choosing not to use it in that way. "
I'm below 20 years old. Staying out of school for 6+ years isn't a very "smart" move. All that time being at home or working some 9-5 job could even be poured into a trade school or channeled into to becoming a dental hygienist, pharmacy technician, etc.,

"If you don't have a family to feed, you have all the time in the world."
I don't have a rich daddy & mommy. My folks can only take care of me up to a certain point. By 26, if I'm not in residency, taking care of myself (financially), life is really going to be tough for me. I can only live with mom and dad for x amount of years. Once they retire, I'm on my own. I have a serious girlfriend and by 26, I'm hoping at the very least to be engaged. What were you saying about a family to feed?

I don't have all the time in the world. The clock is ticking for me right now. 👎

 

[flyhi]

I'm on a study breaker now, so I will engage you. 😛

"Sure you have the time, you are just choosing not to use it in that way. "
I'm below 20 years old. Staying out of school for 6+ years isn't a very "smart" move. All that time being at home or working some 9-5 job could even be poured into a trade school or channeled into to becoming a dental hygienist, pharmacy technician, etc.,

"If you don't have a family to feed, you have all the time in the world."
I don't have a rich daddy & mommy. My folks can only take care of me up to a certain point. By 26, if I'm not in residency, taking care of myself (financially), life is really going to be tough for me. I can only live with mom and dad for x amount of years. Once they retire, I'm on my own. I have a serious girlfriend and by 26, I'm hoping at the very least to be engaged. What were you saying about a family to feed?

I don't have all the time in the world. The clock is ticking for me right now. 👎

I promise that I'm not trying to be condescending when I say that it sounds like you need to mature a bit. If you honestly feel that you would be happy and content being a pharmacy tech, or similar, I would say go for it. Do the training, excel at what you do and start working. It is a much, much shorter and easier path. There is no need to spend extra money and time pursuing podiatry if being a tech will make you happy.

You are not married and do not at this time have a family to feed...I think that was the point. Whether you hurry that along before your career is underway, is up to you. I think decisions like that are where the maturity will help you.

I think you will look back on this in less than 5 years and realize how immature some of your thought processes were (again, not trying to hurt feelings) and that taking some much needed time off to really assess your situation and get a real gameplan, was not such a bad idea.

I wish you the best and hope it all works out. I do hope you also keep us posted on your progress and turn out to be a success story.

 

[347932]

I'm on a study breaker now, so I will engage you. 😛

"Sure you have the time, you are just choosing not to use it in that way. "
I'm below 20 years old. Staying out of school for 6+ years isn't a very "smart" move. All that time being at home or working some 9-5 job could even be poured into a trade school or channeled into to becoming a dental hygienist, pharmacy technician, etc.,

"If you don't have a family to feed, you have all the time in the world."
I don't have a rich daddy & mommy. My folks can only take care of me up to a certain point. By 26, if I'm not in residency, taking care of myself (financially), life is really going to be tough for me. I can only live with mom and dad for x amount of years. Once they retire, I'm on my own. I have a serious girlfriend and by 26, I'm hoping at the very least to be engaged. What were you saying about a family to feed?

I don't have all the time in the world. The clock is ticking for me right now. 👎

Once again, you have proven that my statements stand just.

Why would it take you 6 years to pay back your student debt to make a fresh start? Once again You DO have the time, but it seems like you are choosing to something else with it.

Also, if you are working, why do your Mommie and Daddy have to support you? You think podiatry is your ticket to success and supporting your family?? Great!! But be ready to bust your butt and have the share of successes and failures.

You are under 20 and think your time is ticking away??? Seriously?

I'm going to be more blunt and honest then the previous poster.

Grow up!!! Life is hard and you need to be ready to face it. No one can predict your successes or failures but it is up to YOU to make it happen.

If you were my kid (I have three) and were telling me this, I would tell you that I am there to support you but at close to 20 years old your life rests on YOUR shoulders. You also would be paying rent if you weren't in school, and I would be demanding that you get help for whatever "it" is. Take control young man.

 

[Ntran1986]

Once again, you have proven that my statements stand just.

Why would it take you 6 years to pay back your student debt to make a fresh start? Once again You DO have the time, but it seems like you are choosing to something else with it.

Also, if you are working, why do your Mommie and Daddy have to support you? You think podiatry is your ticket to success and supporting your family?? Great!! But be ready to bust your butt and have the share of successes and failures.

You are under 20 and think your time is ticking away??? Seriously?

I'm going to be more blunt and honest then the previous poster.

Grow up!!! Life is hard and you need to be ready to face it. No one can predict your successes or failures but it is up to YOU to make it happen.

If you were my kid (I have three) and were telling me this, I would tell you that I am there to support you but at close to 20 years old your life rests on YOUR shoulders. You also would be paying rent if you weren't in school, and I would be demanding that you get help for whatever "it" is. Take control young man.

👍 I have to agree with kidsfeet. I know and remember being younger, feeling as though time really is ticking away. Now in my mid 20s and just entering podiatry school, I feel like I have all the time in the world to work on my career. I believe that this insight on life can only be attributed to maturity. So redsea, please try and listen to your elders since there is definitely something to learn from them. Just take a deep breath and remember that the clock is not ticking as fast as you might think.

Cheers

 

[PADPM]

I've sat back and did not want to join in since the OP seemed a little fragile since he was talking about some mental health issues, and that is certainly not my expertise.

However, I have to agree 100% with Kidsfeet.

If you are not EVEN 20 years old and you believe time is running out, you are clueless. I have underwear older than you. What makes more sense, taking a few extra years to do it correctly and assure yourself a strong future, or attempt to hurry through things just to ATTEMPT to make it happen.

Well, apparently your choice hasn't worked out well. You want to get married in a few years.....go right ahead. If you're not financially secure at that point, and you're not mature enough, then you wait to start a family.

If you believe alternatives include becoming a pharmacy tech, etc., then you REALLY are going down the wrong path and should take time to really reconsider your future.

I know many successful DPMs, MDs, etc., who were much older when they graduated and started practice, and they are some of the best doctors I know. You are looking for instant gratification, and it 'ain't gonna happen. If you really want to pursue the DPM degree, take the advice already offered, even if it adds a few years to your plans. If that's not what you want to do, I'm afraid you may want to re-think your career choice.

Additionally, after you have "it" resolved, you have to be honest with yourself to figure out if you can really handle the academic requirements/workload that will be mandatory to graduate with the proper pre requisites, not to mention to get you through professional school AND passing standardized national tests. It's a long, hard road and there simply is NO easy way, and it has to be achieved 100% by you. No one can do it for you.

Now I'd recommend re-reading some of the excellent advice already given, and acting on some of that advice.

 

[trackeasy167]

Red sea,

I am just a busy body fiddling around on my boyfriends (he's the podiatric student) computer and I came across your post. I am a professional counselor and could not pass up the opportunity to respond.

There are so many red flags with your situation, and I truly believe you need to seek professional help. Yes, you visited with a psych and received meds, but I don't think that is the issue. I really think you should visit with a counselor. You see, a counselor believes that people have the innate ability to solve their own problems. By asking tough questions, reflecting feelings and challenging thoughts, a counselor may be able to get down to the deep root of the problem..and that is just what you need.

While I don't know you, I'm hearing you say the following statements.
-What will my parents think?
-What will other people think?
-I have to accomplish a goal by a certain time frame.
-I need to have a family.

My question to you is: Have you ever had a conversation with yourself about what it is you would truly like to do? Did you say you wanted to be a podiatrist and feel like you have to do it because you said it?..and then someone told you could make a lot of money and then you would have the perfect family? I think you are totally living in a fantasy world and really need to figure out what "YOU" want to do? You failing grades and inability to focus on the subject matter may be related to the deep-rooted issues about what it is you really want to do.

Take some time to figure it out. Trust me, from someone who got 3 degrees in her 20s, got married immediately and is now divorced, if someone had asked me what "I" wanted to do, I don't think it would have been in that order. Nor do I believe some of those things would have taken place. Now, I'm in my 30s and living life and I can honestly say, I'm just getting around to wanting a family and accomplishment my goals. You may say I'm blooming late, but I' say I am in the place that I need to be at the appropriate time.

I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors, but I really think you need to have a HONEST conversation with yourself.

 

[Red sea]

Red sea,

I am just a busy body fiddling around on my boyfriends (he's the podiatric student) computer and I came across your post. I am a professional counselor and could not pass up the opportunity to respond.

There are so many red flags with your situation, and I truly believe you need to seek professional help. Yes, you visited with a psych and received meds, but I don't think that is the issue. I really think you should visit with a counselor. You see, a counselor believes that people have the innate ability to solve their own problems. By asking tough questions, reflecting feelings and challenging thoughts, a counselor may be able to get down to the deep root of the problem..and that is just what you need.

While I don't know you, I'm hearing you say the following statements.
-What will my parents think?
-What will other people think?
-I have to accomplish a goal by a certain time frame.
-I need to have a family.

My question to you is: Have you ever had a conversation with yourself about what it is you would truly like to do? Did you say you wanted to be a podiatrist and feel like you have to do it because you said it?..and then someone told you could make a lot of money and then you would have the perfect family? I think you are totally living in a fantasy world and really need to figure out what "YOU" want to do? You failing grades and inability to focus on the subject matter may be related to the deep-rooted issues about what it is you really want to do.

Take some time to figure it out. Trust me, from someone who got 3 degrees in her 20s, got married immediately and is now divorced, if someone had asked me what "I" wanted to do, I don't think it would have been in that order. Nor do I believe some of those things would have taken place. Now, I'm in my 30s and living life and I can honestly say, I'm just getting around to wanting a family and accomplishment my goals. You may say I'm blooming late, but I' say I am in the place that I need to be at the appropriate time.

I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors, but I really think you need to have a HONEST conversation with yourself.

Thanks for the very insightful post. those are some very pressing questions you've thrown there. The problem is finding answers to those questions.