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Lol, why bash him it's trueGirls pick up the dream of a long distance relationship because of movies like The Notebook? I can see why you're unattached.
How is being in a long distance relationship any different from having a penpal, as for the people that say "I have a long distance relationship but we see each other every few days" that's not a long distance relationship, the OP is talking about across state lines not seeing each other for months.
I've done the long distance thing, it's physically and emotionally draining, instead of being able to be with the person while you do other things such as study or eat, you have to put off those things and dedicate time to talking on the phone or texting. People are emotional and need to see things or experience things for them to be reality, even if that means seeing your spouse for a few minutes as they're coming and you're going, or them just being in the same household while studying. This isn't possible with LD, you'll find yourself saying I'll call you later I have to study, work, etc. and them feeling neglected.
And as for the comment about "no one should move without a ring on their finger" I completely agree, so I'll add to that and say if theres no plans of marriage why bother, and if there is and you do know that this is who you plan to marry, why wouldn't you move. When talking about marriage, if you have to think about it or second guess whether it's the right person, it's probably not
I don't blame the SO for not moving, but it's a red flag on their part in terms of where the relationship is going
Your significant other might be gone in six months and another will come along, being in med school is a privilege that most of us would kill for