We're all smart, and had workers for the most part, but beyond this, what's the makeup of those who are "a joy to teach?" How do these people deal with those awkward moments when the attending/chief/whatever is trying to explain how to do something, but it's just totally not making sense to the learner? (I'm mostly talking about surgery, but this applies to anything.)
There's no universal answer. You need to know your boss and adapt. Some want humor, some want a barrage of questions, and some want closed loop communications to show your interested and understand. Some just want silent nodding, some want you to stay out of the way, some grade you entirely on scut and bribes (food for the team). Some want you to act naturally, other want you to 'show an interest' like dog waiting for a treat. Some want to see good time management and independence, others think that you're not interested if you're not trailing them like a lap dog. Some want you to bring articles, others want to see you teach, others want you to suggest research and case reports, and still others think any of those three things is presumptuous and smacks of grade grubbing.
In residency, and then for the rest of your career, you will study your bosses the same way you will study your trade. Unfortunately in MS3 you rotate through too many bosses too fast and with too little feedback, and likely will figure out their preferences just in time to get a bad eval. Focus on the universal preferences (know/read on your patients, be on time, dress professionally with no nose rings or skimpy clothes, birddog your labs, and smile), and when you get a bad eval anyway try not to worry too much.
And this is where I would consider sending their pager number to the school's clinical coordinator and the service attending to see if they could be paged to a conference room for an unforgettable chat that would forever embed in their memory that they have responsibilities as future physicians and skating isn't one of them. I am a military brat and can do a fairly good imitation of a pissed off SNCO and use compound-complex profanity in various non-repeating sequences and I can tell you I would have a difficult time restraining myself in that situation.....
Or you could tell them where you want them to be and what you want them to do in a polite an professional way, and only involve there program if they are deliberately failing to follow your orders. Students are not mind readers, and if there is nothing to do 'call me when you need me' is not a bizarre thing to say, especially for someone who has a parallel responsibility to study for a shelf exam. Its not like they're not asking/available. What you're suggesting above combines almost every possible kind of bad leadership: unclear expectations, passive aggressive indirect response though an intermediary, and a sprinkling of grossly unprofessional profanity just to make it special (that part would get you justifiably counseled, BTW, with remediation/probation if it became a habit)
On an unrelated note, if you're going to behave badly, please do not credit the military with your performance. SNCOs are in general some of the most controlled, artificially polite people I have ever met (in most situations). Crazy outbursts after slight provocations are for movies and recruit training.