What to do if ur Resident is a JERK!

[Proverbs31]

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So...I can get along with almost ANYONE.....I swear! But im really having a hard time this month (thank god we're almost over) with a resident. I have tried thinking positive, being more kind, no matter what I do, I swear this dude yells at me for his own insufficiency, yells at me for being "happy and smiling" and yells at me when I stay late to actually do whats called learning...in another part of the hospital. (We are allowed to stay and work if we want to in the hospital) Personally I think hes a sorry doctor and he doesnt really like what hes doing. I hope to god Im wrong but thats exactly how I feel. He's not in charge of my grade but he can definitely take credit for work I do or try to get the attending alone and chat. Needless to say this guy is a complete jerk to me. Im serious.....Sometimes he even yells at me if I ask my Attending a good question....Its like he feels inferior and the only thing its done is make me an unhappy, quieter, student.....
Do I tough it up or say something to him. Im getting so sick of his crap lately. Im a very hardworking student and for whatever reason he and I do not mesh....Only it seems to be for reasons other than my abilities to do well on this rotation.....I even feel like he tries to pitch me against some of the other students on my rotation....I can take an attending yelling at me for not knowing something or making a stupid decision about a pts care...but this guy yells at me for anything from my personality to how I write an H&P.....
Ive been quiet about this for a while but today just took the cake at work and Id really appreciate any suggestions. Hes a serious Jerk. And Im seriously unhappy.

 

[surrender903]

suck it up and move on.

if you get an annonymous eval then let him have it.

 

[leagueelbow]

Well I think the solution is quite simple.

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I am SO not responsible for anyone heading to jail because they seriously took this advice.

 

[LuckyBambooGirl]

I agree with the above poster. The rotation is almost over. I would just suck it up for the rest of the time. It's not worth blowing it up bigger by trying to confront him. That could seriously backfire on you!

 

[JaSam]

So...I can get along with almost ANYONE.....I swear! But im really having a hard time this month (thank god we're almost over) with a resident. I have tried thinking positive, being more kind, no matter what I do, I swear this dude yells at me for his own insufficiency, yells at me for being "happy and smiling" and yells at me when I stay late to actually do whats called learning...in another part of the hospital. (We are allowed to stay and work if we want to in the hospital) Personally I think hes a sorry doctor and he doesnt really like what hes doing. I hope to god Im wrong but thats exactly how I feel. He's not in charge of my grade but he can definitely take credit for work I do or try to get the attending alone and chat. Needless to say this guy is a complete jerk to me. Im serious.....Sometimes he even yells at me if I ask my Attending a good question....Its like he feels inferior and the only thing its done is make me an unhappy, quieter, student.....
Do I tough it up or say something to him. Im getting so sick of his crap lately. Im a very hardworking student and for whatever reason he and I do not mesh....Only it seems to be for reasons other than my abilities to do well on this rotation.....I even feel like he tries to pitch me against some of the other students on my rotation....I can take an attending yelling at me for not knowing something or making a stupid decision about a pts care...but this guy yells at me for anything from my personality to how I write an H&P.....
Ive been quiet about this for a while but today just took the cake at work and Id really appreciate any suggestions. Hes a serious Jerk. And Im seriously unhappy.

Proverbs, I totally feel for you. I've gone through a similar experience last month with my last resident and it totally totally blows goats butt. Is there another med student there with you? Does he/she yell at that other person as well or is it just at you? I would have suggested going to the head of whatever rotation you're on and filing some sort of complaint for this if it was earlier in the month but not now since its already almost over. If you just keep your head up and not take things too personally, this week will be over in a flash but if you keep marinating on that thought, I wouldn't be surprised to see you/him/whoever involved explode and make things much worse than it is.

Last month I swear I was such a stellar med student, all the interns and other people on the team even would come up to me in private and tell me so but my resident just never took notice or cared about the good that I did. Never one "good job" or "wow I'm impressed". But whenever I would do some minor thing wrong like word an H+P a way my resident didn't like, my res would be very vocal about it and would let me know how displeasing that was. It was complete bs, but luckily the attending was nice and in the long run I figured I could care less what my res wrote about me cuz it wouldn't affect the grand scheme of things. Keep your head up buddy, I feel for ya, and I know what you're going through. Good luck getting through next week, I'm sure your exceptional performance will show through in the end. Best wishes.

 

[HarryRosenMD]

Hi...

There is no reason for anyone to yell at you during your training as either a medical student or resident. Its simply inappropriate, ineffective, and divisive. Its always seemed rediculous to me how this reaction has become tolerated - even expected at times.
It seems that your resident lacks confidence - and is trying to somehow make up for it by belittling you. There is no absolute right way to handle this - but I would recommend that you simply wait until the rotation is over - and your grade received. Then... speak to the attending to let him know about your experiences so that hopefully others are not as unfortunate.
It is your time to learn and ask in freedom. Oppressive physicians have missed the point of the calling.

 

[colbgw02]

I've never seen a correlation between getting trampled on and getting a good eval. Conversely, I've known a lot of students probably be overly assertive and still get a great eval. Tell this dude that you're going to thunderpunch him in the brainstem while he sleeps if he does lighten up. There's zero reason you should have to put up with that crap.

 

[radslooking]

tell him you heard about this resident who yelled at his student all the time, and he woke up with a horse's head in his bed

 

[Old_Mil]

Unfortunately, there are segments of medical training that consist solely of alternatively eating **** and kisssing ***. M3 is one of them. Surgery is another. Some segments of IM are yet another.

The highest % of down to earth non malignant people I've met seem to gravitate to Anesthesia, EM, Peds, and FM.

 

[Dr McSteamy]

too bad.
there's nothing you can do.

some residents are just antisocial-how-the-Fk-did-they-get-accepted dckwads.

they'll fk you over, but the damage won't be too bad

 

[Proverbs31]

hey~!
I really just wanted to say thanks to all of you that responded...It def lightened my mood and made an unbearable week and a half somewhat bearable. I really appreciate it... 🙂
I sucked it up...Hindsight is always 20/20 and if Im ever encountering that crap again I wont let it affect what Im saying or doing...
🙂
Thanks again...I love my SDN peeps

 

[mrantarctica]

I've met a few residents in the same elk. To state the obvious - there are numerous explanations.

It's likely he's just trying to bully you to cover for his inadequacy. Don't take it personally, but part of your learning is to become a good team player with all sorts of personalities - and perhaps there are little things like asking questions, or even the way you ask questions that you can modify so that he doesnt yell at you. Consider whether any of your behaviours could be misconstrued as making him seem indadequate.

(for instance - "dr so and so...why havent we started antibiotics?" is perhaps not as nice as "boss, are antibiotics an option for this patient?" as it doesnt pose any sense of inadequacy in decision making)

For a long time in medicine - **** has always travelled downhill. This probably has a large part in your problem. Personally, I don't see any future in giving your younger colleagues and students a hard time, I think the point of doctoring is to teach, and teach well.

Certainly, the students I've had with me I've always got to go and do things and report back. I'll be honest, I'm pretty tough on them if they start waffling when I ask questions, and will tell them straight if I think they're full of **** - but we'll always get a drink later and have a laugh about it, and i've always made time to go thru things slowly if they don't get it. Some things are just harder than others to understand, and everyones different.

Sometimes you also have to try and play "second fiddle". For instance a bolshy surgical resident might respond well to :

"hey dr so and so, i was really impressed with the way you closed that abdomen. do you think if we have some time at some point, you could talk me through tying some knots?"


But yeah, don't let it affect your confidence with patients.

Sometimes it might be worth just confronting him with "hey doc, ive been on the team for a while now... how do you think I'm going with my training? do you think there are areas in which I can improve?"

Let us know how you get on!

 

[MeowMix]

suck it up, and resist the temptation to write the person a really caustic eval. Keep everything extremely professional and use appropriate language.

Here's why: the residents I disliked the very most, inevitably showed up later. I'd scrub in for surgery and they'd be the resident anesthesiologist. Worse, you start your residency and find out they are a hospitalist or other attending at your hospital. Medicine is a SMALL world.

If they write you a really inappropriate, unfair eval, then you absolutely should contest it. Several friends of mine found out that the same resident had written bad evals for all of them, using essentially the same language, without any of them being aware of the coincidence. This is the kind of stuff that a clerkship director should know about.