When are you getting married ????

[fabriciusj89]

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When the voters of my state allow me to.

Same boat! Kind of depends what state I end up going to med school in...

 

[jessiemsy]

:what:

think about it...

 

[Poetic Silence]

Gay boat.

 

[Dynamo24]

Been married 2+ years, baby girl due in January. MCAT studying starts then, too. I thought my life was stressful now...I'm sure I have another thing coming.

 

[Poetic Silence]

Well, this awkward. Apparently mailorder brides are illegal now. No marriage for me. :sad:

 

[Dynamo24]

Well, this awkward. Apparently mailorder brides are illegal now. No marriage for me. :sad:

Come on now, you're pre-med. Giving up isn't in the cards. Find a back channel and get her here on a life raft or something. You can do it.

 

[Poetic Silence]

Come on now, you're pre-med. Giving up isn't in the cards. Find a back channel and get her here on a life raft or something. You can do it.

I guess I could always smuggle her in via an American soldier's coffin. The creativity juices are aflowing.

 

[willen101383]

My wedding reception itself was over 50k. It was definately not extravagant by any measure.

 

[tarheel1408]

My wedding reception itself was over 50k. It was definately not extravagant by any measure.

Uh, it was extravagant by the measure known as 'financial'

 

[willen101383]

Uh, it was extravagant by the measure known as 'financial'

Yeah, its not really uncommon. Half my family is majorly into the jew thing and keeps kosher so having a kosher reception was a huge part of the cost.

 

[Poetic Silence]

Yeah, its not really uncommon. Half my family is majorly into the jew thing and keeps kosher so having a kosher reception was a huge part of the cost.

Because all beef hotdogs are expensive. Totally worth it, though.

 

[willen101383]

Because all beef hotdogs are expensive. Totally worth it, though.

They are delicious, wouldnt have it any other way. I dont consider myself jewish, nor do i believe in a god of any kind.....but you do what you gotta do to keep your wife happy.

I still have the house, and got plenty of gift money so s'all is good in my world. Although I must admit, id rather have the loot and head down to the ol courthouse.

And for all you premeds considering the best time to get married in med school, there is none. I got married, and the following sunday I was back at school. Nuff said.

 

[lovesfall]

so are you planning to get married during undergrad, pre clinical years , clinical years or residency ?
Aha, but before you answer : From where you are going to get the 30,000$ 😡 marriage cost

I'm getting married next year, either before starting med school or soon after. And no way in heck I'd spend $30k on a wedding.

 

[Geekchick921]

It is REALLY not hard to spend $30K on a wedding (though ours was about half that). Most of it will come from your catering and you'd be amazed at how your guest list swells, not to mention the people that think because you invited them +1 they can bring their whole family.

 

[willen101383]

It is REALLY not hard to spend $30K on a wedding (though ours was about half that). Most of it will come from your catering and you'd be amazed at how your guest list swells, not to mention the people that think because you invited them +1 they can bring their whole family.

You guys got married in the delph for 15???? Damn im impressed....considering i think our venue was 15 itself aside from catering, etoh, etc.

 

[angldrps]

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[xXIDaShizIXx]

When the voters of my state allow me to.

Ahh I see what you did there.😉

 

[Geekchick921]

You guys got married in the delph for 15???? Damn im impressed....considering i think our venue was 15 itself aside from catering, etoh, etc.

It was actually closer to 18, IIRC, but yeah. We got married on a Friday, we had just under 100 people, my dress was under $500 (including tax and alterations) and our venue was a country club in Montco that included the site, catering and booze, tables, chairs, linens, centerpieces, taxes and tips.

 

[Poetic Silence]

You guys are all invited to my big fat Greek wedding!

 

[LaughingMan]

South Asian? It really depends on the varying factors. Remember, there still aren't THAT many "grown up" South Asian-Americans yet (as most are recently married or unmarried).

And remember, a lot of South Asian pre-meds come from more "well-off" families, and in those, yes, you don't typically see as much divorce. I came from a much poorer community, and I'll tell you, I've seen 4 (young) divorces since the start of the year (from a not-so-large community, and there may even be more).

Hello,

Yes--South Asian. You are correct--socioeconomic status surely has something to do with it.

Though I'm not sure what you mean by aren't that many grown ups? Care to elaborate?

 

[allthatglitter]

When the voters of my state allow me to.

Where I live it might be legal in a year. So soon me and my fiance will be able to wed. We're probably just going to get married in City hall and have a small party.

 

[arresteddev]

Marriage scares me. I don't think I'd be ready for marriage until my late twenties to early thirties. Possibly later, maybe even sooner. That would put me at around clinical years to residency (eep). I'm assuming my parents will pay for the wedding since it's traditional that the bride's family pays....but it has already been established that if I'm not married in a church, they won't pay. I refuse to ever marry in a church. Honestly, I'd be more than happy with a small ceremony near the ocean with some friends and immediate family. My extended family is scary.

 

[omare61]

OP, judging by your avatar I am going to assume that you are muslim-like myself. And you fell for the demonic deception that you can't get married until you finish medical school-or that you are too young. Don't listen to your family when they say that you are too young. Their sex drive is lower than yours-they do not understand. Coming from a Muslim background myself, I understand the troubles you face.

Marriage is the righteous way to avoid the sin of pre-martial sex. Your sex drive is strong and it will stay until you age or experienced sex. I say get married during medical school, suffer the next decade (residency is a ) and then live a happy life. It could work out and you avoid sin.

Now since SDN is not a religious forum, I say that we abstain from further talk about religion.

Thank you

 

[Poetic Silence]

That's right, OP. Marry so your father in law will give you the key to his daughter's panties. 🙄

 

[Mommy Doc 85]

BWAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Oh man, this guy man, this guy.

On topic though, after seeing my dad's first two failed marriages and the fact that half of all marriages end in divorce I think I'm going to forgo all that bs thank you very much.

Which means half of all marriages are successful, or end in death? 😀
You've got a 50/50 chance.

 

[Charles Darwin]

They are delicious, wouldnt have it any other way. I dont consider myself jewish, nor do i believe in a god of any kind.....but you do what you gotta do to keep your wife happy.

I still have the house, and got plenty of gift money so s'all is good in my world. Although I must admit, id rather have the loot and head down to the ol courthouse.

And for all you premeds considering the best time to get married in med school, there is none. I got married, and the following sunday I was back at school. Nuff said.

You're more Jewish than you think.

 

[Yonko Shanks]

My girlfriend has been bothering me about getting engaged when I finish Undergrad. I probably will get engaged and then marry her after med school. 4 years of engagement woot lol.

 

[Yonko Shanks]

Gay boat.

 

[Long Way to Go]

Take a vacation in Boston!

Actually, a fair number of states (Massachusetts being one of them) don't let out-of-staters get a marriage license. There's always the Big Apple though. It doesn't solve the issue of your home state probably not recognizing the marriage, but you can always hope that the federal government will after that the Supreme Court tosses out the Defense of Marriage Act next year (hopefully).

 

[TipToad]

Actually, a fair number of states (Massachusetts being one of them) don't let out-of-staters get a marriage license. There's always the Big Apple though. It doesn't solve the issue of your home state probably not recognizing the marriage, but you can always hope that the federal government will after that the Supreme Court tosses out the Defense of Marriage Act next year (hopefully).

I'd give it about 10 more years before it's legal all over.

 

[LaughingMan]

My girlfriend has been bothering me about getting engaged when I finish Undergrad. I probably will get engaged and then marry her after med school. 4 years of engagement woot lol.

4 years engagement is just insane man.

Everyone I know who's gotten married said to not push it past 1 year?

 

[SeetaRaj]

When the voters of my state allow me to.

Aww <3 I hope that happens! 🙂👍

 

[funtertaining15]

30K? That's a little pricey, don't you think? If you can't afford it, cut back.
I'd probably get married after I graduate from medical school (if & hopefully when I do get into med school) 🙂

 

[Food4Thought]

As an experienced practicing physician, I have one very important piece of advice for those of you who wish to get married/form a long-term partnership:
WHEN you get married = not important
MONEY spent on the wedding = not important
WHO you marry = PRICELESS

Your spouse will become your backbone. You will ask so much of your spouse, such as sharing nights, weekends and holidays with the hospital (unless you have a private office-based practice with no call). You will be emotionally exhausted, chronically late getting home and often dealing with tremendous pressures. In short, it takes a very special, very stable person to walk with you through the whole process. (There are multiple books written about "the physician marriage"...not that it is that unique among other marriages but rather it comes with an additional set of challenges.)
Do not put a timeline on getting married any more than you put a timeline on getting struck by lightening.
Getting married in med school. residency or beyond is stressful and potentially expensive.
Wait for the right person and then when you both are ready, just go for it.
Your happiness and career stability will be closely intertwined with this person, so sit back, relax, stop planning and open you heart
Respectfully,
Food4Thought (female, married during intern year, married 10 years now)

 

[Haislip]

As an experienced practicing physician, I have one very important piece of advice for those of you who wish to get married/form a long-term partnership:
WHEN you get married = not important
MONEY spent on the wedding = not important
WHO you marry = PRICELESS

Your spouse will become your backbone. You will ask so much of your spouse, such as sharing nights, weekends and holidays with the hospital (unless you have a private office-based practice with no call). You will be emotionally exhausted, chronically late getting home and often dealing with tremendous pressures. In short, it takes a very special, very stable person to walk with you through the whole process. (There are multiple books written about "the physician marriage"...not that it is that unique among other marriages but rather it comes with an additional set of challenges.)
Do not put a timeline on getting married any more than you put a timeline on getting struck by lightening.
Getting married in med school. residency or beyond is stressful and potentially expensive.
Wait for the right person and then when you both are ready, just go for it.
Your happiness and career stability will be closely intertwined with this person, so sit back, relax, stop planning and open you heart
Respectfully,
Food4Thought (female, married during intern year, married 10 years now)

I want one of those!