Why can Oxygen not have three bonds + two lone pairs?

[jackal head]

I know this violates the octet rule but how?

3 bonds + 2 lone pairs = 7 e- and it only has 6 valence electrons but why can't it just be an anion like when it has 1 bond + 3 lone pairs OR when it has 3 bonds + 1 lone pair as a cation?

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[dngu12]

I know this violates the octet rule but how?

3 bonds + 2 lone pairs = 7 e- and it only has 6 valence electrons but why can't it just be an anion like when it has 1 bond + 3 lone pairs OR when it has 3 bonds + 1 lone pair as a cation?

Bonds count as 2 electrons because they are shared between each other so it is 10 electrons in total.