There are a wide spectrum of nurses, but about 75% of them are jerkos (in my estimation). Why?
a) You get the ones who are hypocrites: they claim their bitterness stems from the crap that gets dealt them by everyone else, yet they are the worst offenders themselves. These are usually the older nurses who have the most experience. Since they have done their job for so long - no matter how simple or isolated that job is - it is their God-given right to act like they know more. It's not enough for them to just explain something. They have to laugh at you and loudly and condescendingly act out. And not just to physicians, but also to fellow (younger) nurses. Once I heard some old battleaxe lecturing a new nurse about some mistake and it was so condescending and arrogent that - even though I had nothing to do with it - I wanted to clothesline her. The new nurse was really upset and it was over NOTHING ...but the old nurse wanted to get in her power trip of the day.
b) You get the ones who don't give a crap, usually who are also self-centered. These are the lovely ladies who sit around reading magazines during 'work'. Don't disturb them! One nurse was playing an Internet Shockwave game when our team was rounding. An attending needed lab values and I asked her if I could use her computer. She gave me an irritated look and said, "there's another one on the other end of the station". OH, I'm sorry I almost violated your high score! I forgot that's why you're here ...for 'Gem Drop'.
c) They take the credit and shun the blame. Oh, yeah, a nurse will puff out her chest all day long when they pick up on something you missed (and they do - I can admit that). But when you dare to point out a mistake of theirs, you're just a little piece of "S" doctor and they all swear to make your life a living hell. I made a mistake writing an order once, where the dosing was incorrect and too high by a factor of 10 (P.S., the nurse didn't check it, she just gave it) - there was no adverse reaction to it, but the nurse loudly said in front of the attending, "that kind of mistake REQUIRES a write-up". Same nurse made a mistake a few months later and I say, "well, guess we need to fill out a mistake form". NOPE! Every nurse on the floor yelled at me about how "you're just trying to undermine us ...there was no adverse outcome, so forget about it." And the other doctors said, "just forget about it ...all these bitches stick together."
d) They act like they are the ones making decisions ...until something wrong happens. Then it's, "oh, talk to Dr. So and So". Nurses will happily bask in the praise of patients - "I see you waaaay more than the doctors." "My dad is getting better thanks to you!" - and will never mention a doctor. But when a complication arises or a family is just jacked at some random thing, it's page time! And they leave you there, or even worse, decide it's time to play patient advocate (note: they didn't say a word about this when the patient's family wasn't around) and start saying, "oh, I TOLD you that you should do that."
I could go on, but I'm getting too worked up. But if I have to, I will.
P.S. Where do nurses get off saying, "be extra nice to us ...or we'll be your worst enemy!" Nice. You want to turn the medical profession into a battlefield, then don't get pissy when you get your ass crushed.
P.P.S. Lest I forget, the 25% of nurses that are great - you guys rock. You truly act as part of the team ...including taking responsibility when things go wrong. You understand the stresses of us staying up all night and are considerate to that. You can be nice to us WITHOUT needing us to kiss your butt. When a nurse is great, I AM nice to her - not because she demands it, but because she deserves it.