I did not consider the investing possibility, but even still wouldn't it need to be the case that the return on investment from the $68K would have to be greater than:
1) The sum of the interest from a student loan of $68K taken out.
2) Potential money lost through either postponing entry into a career or missing other career-building opportunities, resulting in less money in the short-term.
Otherwise, it would make more sense for the parent to invest in education. Note that this is not actually assuming the child is more deserving than the parent, because the parent (or child) is both a recipient and parent. In other words, they would receive investment and give it. To clarify my last statement you asked about, I'm referring to someone who may have to go to school and work part time, or turn down opportunities in order to have more time to work.
This of course ignores the benefits of being independent earlier, which would vary depending on the person... I know a lot of privileged people, but primarily one that
really acts like it. In that case dropping support and maybe a couple years of military service would do more good than anything.
Anyways~~~ I'll agree with your last post that paying for education isn't a one-size-fits-all approach and a variety of models can work depending on the family.
@Affiche Would you consider undergraduate tuition in that umbrella as well, or just post-grad? If a family follows the pay-it-forward scheme I don't see why expecting assistance is unreasonable. If it doesn't work that way it might be. I come from a culture that involves lots of extended family living together (think east European/Asian) with heavy support to one another, so I think the standards are different. Not to say I don't think the more individualistic approach has its pluses.
For example, some students from American/western European families I've met are expected to pay rent to live in their house after a certain age. Usually the rent is not very high, but it is rent nonetheless.
In my family (including extended cousins) and culture this is unheard of and I was actually quite shocked.
Genuinely asking- is this common? I've only heard it from a couple people thus far.