It gets easier as you get used to it. And it almost forces you to 1. Get incredibly efficient with notes/busywork (which also helps make you more efficient in general) 2. Become incredibly good at saying No and taking care of yourself and 3. Leave work at work. The motto of my life is to be happy with what I did with my day, don't stress over the could haves, and get up prepared to do it all again the next day. It mostly works itself out, and my kids don't seem to hate me yet.
On the other hand, there are definitely days when Hubs and I recognize that our life would be SO much easier without kids. It's a weird sort of wonderful awful.
I count my blessings that I'm totally not the breadwinner in my house, and my boss is super accommodating with scheduling around family needs.
Edit: It also occurs to me that I might have a make the best of it attitude because I started having kids during school. So I never got to experience vet med sans children.
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If your boss is accommodating, I'm sure that makes a HUGE difference. My current schedule is more or less as follows: three weekdays per week scheduled from 9am-7pm (typically finishing between 7:30-8pm, because we overbook and tend to fall behind and we also are required to accept walk-ins right up until closing) and every other weekend scheduled Saturday & Sunday from 9-5 (typically finishing between 5:30-6pm).
The number of hours is no problem and I really am not finding myself stuck at work ridiculously far past the end of my shift. The problems are:
a) When those hours are scheduled. Not a huge deal right now, because my kiddo is only 3.5 years old and not in school yet. I keep her home from daycare on my weekdays off. Once she starts school in just over a year, though, she'll be at school Monday-Friday and I'll be working every other weekend. Family time will be kind of a rarity and I'll miss activities as she becomes more involved in those.
Also, she doesn't go to daycare until 8:45-9am most days right now (my husband takes her, so she's still awake when I get home at night and okay with a 9pm bedtime. Once she starts school, though, her days will start earlier and therefore bedtime will be earlier. So I'll see her in the mornings, 2 weeknights/wk, and every other weekend? No way. I'll definitely have to change jobs when she starts school, if I even make it that long.
b) The complete lack of flexibility. Like every vet job, sick days are mostly nonexistent - whether it's for myself or a kiddo. Leaving an hour early, coming in an hour late, etc... all of those things are nearly impossible. (In the last year, I left work an hour early ONCE for my kid's daycare Christmas play and it was a huge, big surprise that I was able to do that. I've worked with a fever on multiple occasions because I'm not allowed to take the day off unless coverage can be found, and sometimes there's no one to cover.) Vacation days are typically granted without issue, but must be requested ~3 months in advance.... so when little things come up (like daycare events, etc) it's a total crapshoot whether I'll be able to attend.
All of that was no big deal before my kiddo came along, but is a lot more challenging these days. I expect that it'll only get harder as she gets older and gets involved in more things.
If your boss is family-friendly, I'm ridiculously envious. I thought that I had found an employer like that once... then they started to suspect that I was pregnant (I wasn't) and doing things to run me off so that they wouldn't have to deal with a pregnant doctor. Yep, really.