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I'm hoping you guys will have some words of wisdom for me.
As most of you know I started my first year in a PhD program this September. My first apartment was overrun with bugs that lived in the ceiling and fell on me while I was sleeping. Needless to say, I left after a month. I moved into an apartment twice as expensive that just happened to have carpet beetles (and larvae). I've had three exterminators come and the problem isn't going away. I'm locked in a 12 month lease and the city I'm in is going through a horrible time for finding affordable housing.
Because of this (and the fact that I had a pretty serious bug phobia to begin with) I've been noticeably anxious at school. Profs are starting to notice, one confronted me about it. I've taken steps to manage that but they aren't working since obviously my living situation isn't resolving itself. My University's student mental health center is currently closed due to political issues... which is really bad timing.
I also am a poor match with my advisor who has met with me twice since September and is pretty unsupportive/unhelpful about my research ideas. The department has a reputation with its students for not being very good at dealing with these things.
My family has lost a LOT of money in this process, as they've helped me out with my increased rent, moving costs, exterminator fees, etc. My mom informed me tonight that they can no longer do this.
Nevertheless, I love Clinical Psychology and have made connections with my cohort and am learning as much as possible given my circumstances and limited energy these days.
My choices:
a) Contact the mediating board in my city, fight to get out of my lease, leave all of my bug-infested belongings in the trash and move back home, abandoning the program.
b) Try to transfer into another PhD program somewhere although I think my chances of getting in somewhere since I'd be leaving another program are pretty damn slim.
c) Keep living like this, suck it up, deal with the bugs and the program.
I honestly just cried for like 3 hours because I've been dealing with these issues for over 2 months now. Am I right to assume that leaving one program pretty much seals your fate at all others?
This is way more personal info than I usually like to put on a forum but I really need opinions because I'm not thinking clearly enough to think through the facts on my own. Thoughts?
As most of you know I started my first year in a PhD program this September. My first apartment was overrun with bugs that lived in the ceiling and fell on me while I was sleeping. Needless to say, I left after a month. I moved into an apartment twice as expensive that just happened to have carpet beetles (and larvae). I've had three exterminators come and the problem isn't going away. I'm locked in a 12 month lease and the city I'm in is going through a horrible time for finding affordable housing.
Because of this (and the fact that I had a pretty serious bug phobia to begin with) I've been noticeably anxious at school. Profs are starting to notice, one confronted me about it. I've taken steps to manage that but they aren't working since obviously my living situation isn't resolving itself. My University's student mental health center is currently closed due to political issues... which is really bad timing.
I also am a poor match with my advisor who has met with me twice since September and is pretty unsupportive/unhelpful about my research ideas. The department has a reputation with its students for not being very good at dealing with these things.
My family has lost a LOT of money in this process, as they've helped me out with my increased rent, moving costs, exterminator fees, etc. My mom informed me tonight that they can no longer do this.
Nevertheless, I love Clinical Psychology and have made connections with my cohort and am learning as much as possible given my circumstances and limited energy these days.
My choices:
a) Contact the mediating board in my city, fight to get out of my lease, leave all of my bug-infested belongings in the trash and move back home, abandoning the program.
b) Try to transfer into another PhD program somewhere although I think my chances of getting in somewhere since I'd be leaving another program are pretty damn slim.
c) Keep living like this, suck it up, deal with the bugs and the program.
I honestly just cried for like 3 hours because I've been dealing with these issues for over 2 months now. Am I right to assume that leaving one program pretty much seals your fate at all others?
This is way more personal info than I usually like to put on a forum but I really need opinions because I'm not thinking clearly enough to think through the facts on my own. Thoughts?