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This thread is somewhat inspired by Wire's cry for help from the frivolous women he has to deal with on his rotation. I am a woman in my mid-20s, nearing the end of my first semester on the wards, and I am somewhat disturbed that I have not met a single female attending I can look up to as a model attending in terms of interacting well with students.
I experienced malignancy and frivolity on OB Gyn since I was clearly not material for the general OB Gyn sorority. Then I worked with some female attendings during family medicine who seemed nice at first but then showed me how judgmental they were. One of them asked me if I was married with kids, and I said no. She then proceeded to say, "Well, that's your lifestyle choice" with a judgmental frown and then self-righteous head bob. Another one who works at the same nurses station made my weekend of studying for the family medicine shelf and going out with friends sound silly compared to her supermom weekend of having to take her kid to not one but TWO back-to-back birthday parties and cooking all night for a post-CHURCH Sunday brunch, all of which requires endless errands blah blah blah. Both of these attendings tried to make me feel guilty about eating an extra dinner roll at one of those drug-company funded lunches and tried to get me to tell them my BMI. Now I am on stroke service under a female attending who wears acrylic nails and has an aggressive personality but does her belittling indirectly enough so that you're not aware you've just had your ass handed to you until she's done commenting on your presentation and note. I'm not sure if I even want to find out how the women in general surgery are, but that will be inevitable at some point later this year.
I'm just kind of pissed because these attendings make other women in medicine look bad. They make it seem as if female attendings either don't know how to handle stress well or can't put aside their personal judgmental tendencies to interact with students in a more professional way ... both traits are bad! In the medical field, is there always a TEAM MARRIED WOMEN vs. TEAM SINGLE WOMEN dynamic? Are female attendings usually on the extremes of being too familiar or too malignant or constantly swinging in between those extremes? Have any of you had positive experiences with women in medicine who are different from these attendings? Where are the nonjudgmental, non-malignant women? Private practice?
I experienced malignancy and frivolity on OB Gyn since I was clearly not material for the general OB Gyn sorority. Then I worked with some female attendings during family medicine who seemed nice at first but then showed me how judgmental they were. One of them asked me if I was married with kids, and I said no. She then proceeded to say, "Well, that's your lifestyle choice" with a judgmental frown and then self-righteous head bob. Another one who works at the same nurses station made my weekend of studying for the family medicine shelf and going out with friends sound silly compared to her supermom weekend of having to take her kid to not one but TWO back-to-back birthday parties and cooking all night for a post-CHURCH Sunday brunch, all of which requires endless errands blah blah blah. Both of these attendings tried to make me feel guilty about eating an extra dinner roll at one of those drug-company funded lunches and tried to get me to tell them my BMI. Now I am on stroke service under a female attending who wears acrylic nails and has an aggressive personality but does her belittling indirectly enough so that you're not aware you've just had your ass handed to you until she's done commenting on your presentation and note. I'm not sure if I even want to find out how the women in general surgery are, but that will be inevitable at some point later this year.
I'm just kind of pissed because these attendings make other women in medicine look bad. They make it seem as if female attendings either don't know how to handle stress well or can't put aside their personal judgmental tendencies to interact with students in a more professional way ... both traits are bad! In the medical field, is there always a TEAM MARRIED WOMEN vs. TEAM SINGLE WOMEN dynamic? Are female attendings usually on the extremes of being too familiar or too malignant or constantly swinging in between those extremes? Have any of you had positive experiences with women in medicine who are different from these attendings? Where are the nonjudgmental, non-malignant women? Private practice?