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In my experience, people typically go with their residency interview headshots as one of their pics.

Everyone I've ever seen try to leverage being a medical student in the dating scene failed hard. Men apparently come across as arrogant, women apparently as intimidating.
 
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Katniss Everdeen said:
Hi Everybody!

I've been using SDN since my pre-med days, but this is my first time posting. I was wondering what people though about using a pic from your white-coat ceremony or just any pic of you in your white coat to get strictly casual dates on dating apps (tinder, grinder, HUD, bumble...etc.). Is it unprofessional? Will my school care? Has anybody done it before and does it work???

If there are already existing threads about this, please let me know!

Thank You!
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If you are attractive it might be the extra amount of security a girl needs to hook up with you. Or it might be a way to trap you with a baby. I've had one scare where a girl said I got her pregnant after meeting and hooking up on an app. When I said I wanted testing she said never mind. Lol.
 
If you're going to use pictures of your white coat on apps like Grindr, I'd recommend just blurring out the school logo.

In terms of doing it to attract casual dates, it probably won't help much. It might actually have the opposite of the desired effect. Dressing formally on dating apps tends to reduce the amount of attention you get from people looking for casual encounters, so I'd imagine a white coat picture might have the same effect.

I don't have a white coat picture but do have "med student" in my profile. I've gotten messages from multiple people surrounding doctor/physical exam fetishes, so that's another possibility haha. People are weird.
 
Welshman said:
Every single person I’ve seen in medical school on an app has one on their profile, even saw one girl with two white coat pics out of six.... Compensating? Idk...
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This.
Protip: Pics in scrubs are even better. Just make sure you have your Job Title as: "Medical Student". I've also seen "Student Doctor", if you want to make it perfectly clear.

Austinj said:
I've gotten messages from multiple people surrounding doctor/physical exam fetishes, so that's another possibility haha. People are weird.
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Judging people for their fetishes while advertising on grindr? Shaking my head, fam.
 
Pretty stupid for highly educated medical professionals to be using hookup apps in the first place. You are purposely seeking an encounter with people who have a long history of causual sex encounters with strangers.

Pretty surefire way to get genital herpes by focusing on the 25% segment of the population that has it.

Also seems to run a higher risk of hooking up with a psycho. Heard too many stories about hookup apps resulting in psycho stalkers.

As a med student you’re a quality individual. Do yourself a favor and find a high quality partner who doesn’t sleep around, vet him/her through traditional dating, and get STI tested before you have sex. Despite what you see on tv and social media, it’s what most of us do. But we’re boring and that doesn’t generate stories.
 
It’s not unprofessional, but it will probably backfire. A better tactic is to casually mention it in your bio. The exception is if it’s a candid photo of you, with another person in the image, taken by another person. Never use a formal/headshot, and for god’s sake, do NOT use a selfie.
 
atomi said:
Pretty stupid for highly educated medical professionals to be using hookup apps in the first place. You are purposely seeking an encounter with people who have a long history of causual sex encounters with strangers.

Pretty surefire way to get genital herpes by focusing on the 25% segment of the population that has it.

Also seems to run a higher risk of hooking up with a psycho. Heard too many stories about hookup apps resulting in psycho stalkers.

As a med student you’re a quality individual. Do yourself a favor and find a high quality partner who doesn’t sleep around, vet him/her through traditional dating, and get STI tested before you have sex. Despite what you see on tv and social media, it’s what most of us do. But we’re boring and that doesn’t generate stories.
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Really? Not sure most of us applies to that.
 
atomi said:
Pretty stupid for highly educated medical professionals to be using hookup apps in the first place. You are purposely seeking an encounter with people who have a long history of causual sex encounters with strangers.

Pretty surefire way to get genital herpes by focusing on the 25% segment of the population that has it.

Also seems to run a higher risk of hooking up with a psycho. Heard too many stories about hookup apps resulting in psycho stalkers.

As a med student you’re a quality individual. Do yourself a favor and find a high quality partner who doesn’t sleep around, vet him/her through traditional dating, and get STI tested before you have sex. Despite what you see on tv and social media, it’s what most of us do. But we’re boring and that doesn’t generate stories.
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Sis, stop this. Nobody does that.
 
AsianPersuasion said:
Sis, stop this. Nobody does that.
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Believe it or not most educated people behave responsibly when it comes to finding a partner and choosing who they let into their lives. We’re just boring with happy monogamous sex lives so you don’t hear a lot of gossip about that.

If you want to behave like an animal, go right ahead. Have fun with herpes and psycho stalkers trying to make you their baby daddy.
 
atomi said:
Believe it or not most educated people behave responsibly when it comes to finding a partner and choosing who they let into their lives. We’re just boring with happy monogamous sex lives so you don’t hear a lot of gossip about that.

If you want to behave like an animal, go right ahead. Have fun with herpes and psycho stalkers trying to make you their baby daddy.
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Oh stop with the educated people, bullsh*t. Why are you assuming that everybody in the hook up culture has the herps or some form of STI? There are such thing as safe sex practices.
 
AsianPersuasion said:
Oh stop with the educated people, bullsh*t. Why are you assuming that everybody in the hook up culture has the herps or some form of STI? There are such thing as safe sex practices.
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Condoms minimally protect you from herpes, if at all. Not that it’s a big deal in regards to your health but have fun explaining to your future permanent partner why you have to take valtrex every day. You sure you’re in med school?
 
atomi said:
Condoms minimally protect you from herpes, if at all. Not that it’s a big deal in regards to your health but have fun explaining to your future permanent partner why you have to take valtrex every day. You sure you’re in med school?
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Yes yes, everyone who doesn't do exactly what you do is wrong and has herpes.

Good talk.
 
VA Hopeful Dr said:
Yes yes, everyone who doesn't do exactly what you do is wrong and has herpes.

Good talk.
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Lol. Statistically if you choose to be part of the “hookup culture” and have numerous casual sex partners, you almost certainly will be exposed to hsv2, numerous strains of hpv, and other STIs. Sure, maybe you’ll get lucky a few times or won’t show symptoms, but keep doing it long enough and eventually you’ll either get an STI, have someone you don’t care for fall in love with you and not leave you alone, or you’ll fall for someone else and get crushed when you try to start a relationship then find out they continued to secretly meet up with strangers for casual sex (seen this happen multiple times).

It’s not really a healthy behavior emotionally or physically. And it’s not what most people do. We’ve messed up the minds of a lot of young people, especially men, by lying to them and convincing them that everyone is having tons of sex with lots of strangers all the time and that that’s normal behavior. The reality is that on hookup apps, a small minority of the users are the ones who are repeatedly matching over and over again for causal encounters. Girls that swipe right for a hot guy? Guess what, every other girl swipes right too, and the dude is saying yes to al lot of them and having a new partner every week. So yeah, have fun with that.

I don’t personally care if you use hookup apps. I just think they are trashy and dangerous and not a good way to find a partner. I realize some educated people actively pursue causal sex too, but let’s not pretend that we don’t understand or need to mind the emotional and physical health risks of having sex with 30 different people a year, and ignore that this is really unusual behavior that most people don’t do.

We do a really shi—y job some times as practitioners when it comes to discouraging high risk sexual behavior. Sure go nuts and do whatever you want, just use a condom and come in for regular STI screens... that’s not really honest. Maybe we should say, you know sleeping with a new person every week isn’t really healthy.
 
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Judging people for their fetishes while advertising on grindr? Shaking my head, fam.
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This feels more like an issue you have with me being on grindr than an actual issue of kink shaming, but I'll respond nonetheless.

People can have whatever kinks they want, I don't care. When someone immediately messages pictures of their genitals and asks me to f*ck them in my white coat or do a physical exam on them, I reserve the right to make a joke about their fetishes lol. If those people said hello or had an actual conversation before bringing up their fetishes/sending nude pictures, it wouldn't be so weird and maybe they'd actually get somewhere.
 
atomi said:
Pretty stupid for highly educated medical professionals to be using hookup apps in the first place. You are purposely seeking an encounter with people who have a long history of causual sex encounters with strangers.

Pretty surefire way to get genital herpes by focusing on the 25% segment of the population that has it.

Also seems to run a higher risk of hooking up with a psycho. Heard too many stories about hookup apps resulting in psycho stalkers.

As a med student you’re a quality individual. Do yourself a favor and find a high quality partner who doesn’t sleep around, vet him/her through traditional dating, and get STI tested before you have sex. Despite what you see on tv and social media, it’s what most of us do. But we’re boring and that doesn’t generate stories.
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There is nothing wrong with casual sex. I hope you don't sex shame your patients like this.
 
atomi said:
Lol. Statistically if you choose to be part of the “hookup culture” and have numerous casual sex partners, you almost certainly will be exposed to hsv2, numerous strains of hpv, and other STIs. Sure, maybe you’ll get lucky a few times or won’t show symptoms, but keep doing it long enough and eventually you’ll either get an STI, have someone you don’t care for fall in love with you and not leave you alone, or you’ll fall for someone else and get crushed when you try to start a relationship then find out they continued to secretly meet up with strangers for casual sex (seen this happen multiple times).

It’s not really a healthy behavior emotionally or physically. And it’s not what most people do. We’ve messed up the minds of a lot of young people, especially men, by lying to them and convincing them that everyone is having tons of sex with lots of strangers all the time and that that’s normal behavior. The reality is that on hookup apps, a small minority of the users are the ones who are repeatedly matching over and over again for causal encounters. Girls that swipe right for a hot guy? Guess what, every other girl swipes right too, and the dude is saying yes to al lot of them and having a new partner every week. So yeah, have fun with that.

I don’t personally care if you use hookup apps. I just think they are trashy and dangerous and not a good way to find a partner. I realize some educated people actively pursue causal sex too, but let’s not pretend that we don’t understand or need to mind the emotional and physical health risks of having sex with 30 different people a year, and ignore that this is really unusual behavior that most people don’t do.

We do a really shi—y job some times as practitioners when it comes to discouraging high risk sexual behavior. Sure go nuts and do whatever you want, just use a condom and come in for regular STI screens... that’s not really honest. Maybe we should say, you know sleeping with a new person every week isn’t really healthy.
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With HPV rates topping 80%, that horse is long out of the barn.

Everyone is wired different, just because you don't find it fulfilling doesn't mean casual sex is wrong. With proper precautions, it can be pretty safe (nothing is 100% after all).
 
Coming to SDN for advice like this is a bad idea. You’re gunna get responses from the gunniest of gunners and people like atomi who make their risk-reward assessments in life based on sketchy videos it seems


Almost every single person I know at my school has a white coat pic somewhere on their tinder/bumble profile. It’s perfectly normal most people do it. It works. I was in a relationship for 10 years before med school then became single for the first time in my adult life as soon as med school started. The white coat pic DRASTICLY increased the amount of people I matched with. There is absolutely nothing unprofessional about it as long as the photo and profile isn’t obscene.

Also, idk what school some of the other responders go too but people at my school are hooking up with eachother or random people on dating apps constantly. Sometimes it’s casual, sometimes it’s for a relationship, and everything in between. There’s is nothing wrong with it and if you take precautions it’s relatively safe.


And I know atomi is trying to sound as medically professional as he can by mentioning the “mental and physical risks” of casual sex. But you are not being mindful of the context. We are medical students. Not the general population, not your patients, and not uneducated. We are far more likely to engage in safe sex practices and avoid “high risk” partners. If anything casual sex/meeting new people/going on dates has been a major factor in increasing my mental health and keeping me sane in medical school.
 
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I like the idea that a couple months after you leave college you magically transition into a “highly educated medical professional.”
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Fair enough. I did see a fair amount of people sleeping around in med school but it certainly wasn’t the majority or even close. That’s more the issue I have, pretending that this behavior is what most people are doing.

Pretty surprised to see physicians saying that causal sex is safe and that med students are somehow a safer group.

I think causal sex is gross and doesn’t align with a high value of self worth when you aren’t discerning about your partners.

If telling people that having tons of random sex isn’t psychologically healthy, and that’s “sex shaming,” then fine I don’t care. I guess I’m a sex shamer. You can do whatever you want, that’s fine it’s a free country. But I’m free to have my opinion, which is backed up scientifically fwiw. It’s not totally harmless and people who do this are more prone to numerous other psychological and relationship issues.

But going back to the OP, by all means include your white coat pic. If you can get it in your dads Porsche, even better. The group of people you are advertising to aren’t the kind of people who would be repulsed by such shameless d-bag behavior. Go for it. It will work. You’ll get yourself a nice hot horrible person for the night.

Also glad I got out of the game before the tinder era. Have fun with herpes, kids. I’m out.
 
atomi said:
Fair enough. I did see a fair amount of people sleeping around in med school but it certainly wasn’t the majority or even close. That’s more the issue I have, pretending that this behavior is what most people are doing.

Pretty surprised to see physicians saying that causal sex is safe and that med students are somehow a safer group.

I think causal sex is gross and doesn’t align with a high value of self worth when you aren’t discerning about your partners.

If telling people that having tons of random sex isn’t psychologically healthy, and that’s “sex shaming,” then fine I don’t care. I guess I’m a sex shamer. You can do whatever you want, that’s fine it’s a free country. But I’m free to have my opinion, which is backed up scientifically fwiw. It’s not totally harmless and people who do this are more prone to numerous other psychological and relationship issues.

But going back to the OP, by all means include your white coat pic. If you can get it in your dads Porsche, even better. The group of people you are advertising to aren’t the kind of people who would be repulsed by such shameless d-bag behavior. Go for it. It will work. You’ll get yourself a nice hot horrible person for the night.

Also glad I got out of the game before the tinder era. Have fun with herpes, kids. I’m out.
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atomi said:
Fair enough. I did see a fair amount of people sleeping around in med school but it certainly wasn’t the majority or even close. That’s more the issue I have, pretending that this behavior is what most people are doing.

Pretty surprised to see physicians saying that causal sex is safe and that med students are somehow a safer group.

I think causal sex is gross and doesn’t align with a high value of self worth when you aren’t discerning about your partners.

If telling people that having tons of random sex isn’t psychologically healthy, and that’s “sex shaming,” then fine I don’t care. I guess I’m a sex shamer. You can do whatever you want, that’s fine it’s a free country. But I’m free to have my opinion, which is backed up scientifically fwiw. It’s not totally harmless and people who do this are more prone to numerous other psychological and relationship issues.

But going back to the OP, by all means include your white coat pic. If you can get it in your dads Porsche, even better. The group of people you are advertising to aren’t the kind of people who would be repulsed by such shameless d-bag behavior. Go for it. It will work. You’ll get yourself a nice hot horrible person for the night.

Also glad I got out of the game before the tinder era. Have fun with herpes, kids. I’m out.
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You’re also the guy that gets worked up over peoples clothes right? Or am I mistaken?


I think your visceral response to a largely innocuous question is kinda sad - especially assuming dating app usage automatically translates into an STI. It’s like every SDN stereotype in one user.
 
atomi said:
Fair enough. I did see a fair amount of people sleeping around in med school but it certainly wasn’t the majority or even close. That’s more the issue I have, pretending that this behavior is what most people are doing.

Pretty surprised to see physicians saying that causal sex is safe and that med students are somehow a safer group.

I think causal sex is gross and doesn’t align with a high value of self worth when you aren’t discerning about your partners.

If telling people that having tons of random sex isn’t psychologically healthy, and that’s “sex shaming,” then fine I don’t care. I guess I’m a sex shamer. You can do whatever you want, that’s fine it’s a free country. But I’m free to have my opinion, which is backed up scientifically fwiw. It’s not totally harmless and people who do this are more prone to numerous other psychological and relationship issues.

But going back to the OP, by all means include your white coat pic. If you can get it in your dads Porsche, even better. The group of people you are advertising to aren’t the kind of people who would be repulsed by such shameless d-bag behavior. Go for it. It will work. You’ll get yourself a nice hot horrible person for the night.

Also glad I got out of the game before the tinder era. Have fun with herpes, kids. I’m out.
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I think your judgmental attitude is outdated, gross, toxic, and in conflict with delivering good patient care.
 
atomi said:
If telling people that having tons of random sex isn’t psychologically healthy, and that’s “sex shaming,” then fine I don’t care. I guess I’m a sex shamer.
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Doximity rating: 0.5 / 5 star
"The doctor told me I was a POS and I have low self-esteem, because I decided that I wanted to explore my body safely. Oh, and he gave me a script for valtrex ahead of time when I don't have the herp...why?
 
atomi said:
Fair enough. I did see a fair amount of people sleeping around in med school but it certainly wasn’t the majority or even close. That’s more the issue I have, pretending that this behavior is what most people are doing.

Pretty surprised to see physicians saying that causal sex is safe and that med students are somehow a safer group.

I think causal sex is gross and doesn’t align with a high value of self worth when you aren’t discerning about your partners.

If telling people that having tons of random sex isn’t psychologically healthy, and that’s “sex shaming,” then fine I don’t care. I guess I’m a sex shamer. You can do whatever you want, that’s fine it’s a free country. But I’m free to have my opinion, which is backed up scientifically fwiw. It’s not totally harmless and people who do this are more prone to numerous other psychological and relationship issues.

But going back to the OP, by all means include your white coat pic. If you can get it in your dads Porsche, even better. The group of people you are advertising to aren’t the kind of people who would be repulsed by such shameless d-bag behavior. Go for it. It will work. You’ll get yourself a nice hot horrible person for the night.

Also glad I got out of the game before the tinder era. Have fun with herpes, kids. I’m out.
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Like I said hookup apps are after my time but I feel like my first two years of med school were a lot more like an extension of college (at least for the 20-25 yo crowd) than is portrayed here on this website.

But I dunno maybe I went to a party med school.
 
Sorry if this comes off as too serious, but I don't see any problem in advertising your career as a physician (disclaimer: I take dating apps seriously). Inevitably, being a physician requires a huge amount of dedication and its inevitably a large part of you. I'm not saying medicine is an exclusive club or that it's the only job like that. I'm just saying that if you want to be a good physician, the level of dedication you have to put in doesn't cease when you get into medical school, residency, or fellowship (as much as my mother often wishes it did sometimes). I went on a few dates with a girl coming off a broken engagement and the reason for it in her eyes was her ex-fiance trying to stomp the medicine out of her. She would be at dinner parties and it would annoy the guy if she started talking about her job. The point is you want to end up with someone who can support you so you shouldn't be hung up on trying to be super modest about your career. There's a happy medium between posing shirtless in your white coat and what's being encouraged on here.

In reality, the white coat pic never scores you 10/10 unless you're already one yourself. I personally have snuck one white coat pic in my reel and I'm proud of it. I'd like to think I look decent, but I'm nowhere near male-model status and as a result, I never match with any of Instagram model types on Bumble. On dating apps, my matches honestly are pretty bimodal. I either match with unemployed and unattractive single moms...or I match with attractive female physicians who turn out to be a lot of fun. I have no idea why I don't match with attractive girls in consulting, law, engineering, business, etc. dates. Regardless, the online dating world's pretty brutal for guys so bite me for advertising something that I'm sure's gotten me my top 5 dates.
 
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Nowadays people will probably mistake you for a nurse practioner, a nursing supervisor or any other type of non physicians who wear them.
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At my hospital its more common for students and APPs to wear white coats than residents. Most residents just walk around in scrubs with a sweater and a stethoscope while every single NP/PA is wearing a long white coat and all pharmacy and medical students have on short white coats.

Point of the story? Patagonia sweater selfie > white coat selfie!
 
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At my hospital its more common for students and APPs to wear white coats than residents. Most residents just walk around in scrubs with a sweater and a stethoscope while every single NP/PA is wearing a long white coat and all pharmacy and medical students have on short white coats.

Point of the story? Patagonia sweater selfie > white coat selfie!
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Some of the places I did my surgical sub-I at required the residents to all wear their white coat on top of scrubs when out of the OR, white coat over sweater if you want, and suit / tie in clinic with white coat on top. Even us students had to do that. In certain area of the hospital, we all blend in, but most of the time, you knew who were the surgeons and those not in the club, lol.
 
atomi said:
Fair enough. I did see a fair amount of people sleeping around in med school but it certainly wasn’t the majority or even close. That’s more the issue I have, pretending that this behavior is what most people are doing.

Pretty surprised to see physicians saying that causal sex is safe and that med students are somehow a safer group.

I think causal sex is gross and doesn’t align with a high value of self worth when you aren’t discerning about your partners.

If telling people that having tons of random sex isn’t psychologically healthy, and that’s “sex shaming,” then fine I don’t care. I guess I’m a sex shamer. You can do whatever you want, that’s fine it’s a free country. But I’m free to have my opinion, which is backed up scientifically fwiw. It’s not totally harmless and people who do this are more prone to numerous other psychological and relationship issues.

But going back to the OP, by all means include your white coat pic. If you can get it in your dads Porsche, even better. The group of people you are advertising to aren’t the kind of people who would be repulsed by such shameless d-bag behavior. Go for it. It will work. You’ll get yourself a nice hot horrible person for the night.

Also glad I got out of the game before the tinder era. Have fun with herpes, kids. I’m out.
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Love to see these studies you’re talking about where having lots of sex is psychologically unhealthy. That sounds like nonsense to me. There are people with a sex addiction who use it in an unhealthy manner, but they behave like addicts, not healthy young professionals. Also HSV is endemic in 80% of people so good luck avoiding that even if you maintain safe sexual practices.

Of course there’s a higher risk of acquiring STIs with more sexual partners. However, most highly educated individuals that I know use protection regularly with their sexual encounters, so if you were likely to do a subgroup analysis of this it probably would be much lower in this population. I have a friend who is in his 40s, lives in NYC, never is getting married, is a doctor, passes the time and has relationships through a dating app. He hasn’t gotten gonorrhea yet to my knowledge. I’m sure it’s the same case for most in a similar situation.

I met my wife and now mother of my child the normal boring way (a dating website) but the fact is that most people meet their spouses one of a few ways - dating website or apps, through some sort of social community (church, synagogue, temple, arranged marriage), or alcohol + club/bar. The first two seem more safe and less likely to result in an unprotected rando encounter to me, frankly.

Tl;Dr provide the evidence otherwise I’m calling this BS, and suspect this stems from a strongly socially conservative background.

Also OP... no. Don’t put your white coat pic in. It sounds like a stupid vain idea.
 
OrthoTraumaMD said:
I agree with you. And the people who are trying to shame you for your opinions... calling you “toxic” and such.... methinks the lady doth protest too much. IMHO, advertising your white coat on a hookup app is even cringier than using hookup apps in the first place. For better or worse, modern culture has normalized all sorts of questionable behavior. We live in a world of instant gratification, selfishness, and fake outrage. Stick to your guns @atomi. Your opinions are equally valid. I treat plenty of idiotic patients, it’s part of my job... (most of it really; trauma is “no accident”), but that doesn’t mean I will ever agree with what they do, and diversity of opinion does not make a physician somehow worse or less moral.


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There is a big difference between not normalizing behavior that lands you in front of a trauma orthopedist and telling people that casual sex is "gross and doesn't align with a high value of self worth".

Telling people not to drink and operate heavy machinery isn't the same as saying that someone who takes a casual approach to sex is gross.
 
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In my mind they are on the same spectrum of reckless behavior that can be potentially harmful. You’d be surprised what kind of stuff leads patients to me. Reckless behaviors go hand in hand a lot. And it’s not just drinking and driving. Atomi is right in saying that a lot of casual sex is actually associated with psychological trauma — I saw this a lot when doing psych, promiscuity is often an indication of deeper issues....which harkens back to what he said about getting intimately involved with potentially unstable people. I personally think modern hookup apps are gross and my opinion stands. But I think it’s less about morality and more about the constant need for gratification in our culture, regardless of risk or sense. What I take issue with is people saying atomi is flat out wrong, when his opinion is as valid as theirs.


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And see that's fine - you're making it clear that its your opinion.

atomi did not make that distinction and that's the wrong part
 
OrthoTraumaMD said:
IMHO, advertising your white coat on a hookup app is even cringier than using hookup apps in the first place.
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Disagree with you and atomi about the white coat, though that's probably influenced by the fact that I use these apps to get mostly serious dates; not casual hook-ups. So if I'm trying to hook intelligent females also looking for something serious, a flattering picture with a stethoscope around my neck (no white coats for me personally... I think they're generally lame) can be (and has been) useful.
 
OrthoTraumaMD said:
In my mind they are on the same spectrum of reckless behavior that can be potentially harmful. You’d be surprised what kind of stuff leads patients to me. Reckless behaviors go hand in hand a lot. And it’s not just drinking and driving. Atomi is right in saying that a lot of casual sex is actually associated with psychological trauma — I saw this a lot when doing psych, promiscuity is often an indication of deeper issues....which harkens back to what he said about getting intimately involved with potentially unstable people. I personally think modern hookup apps are gross and my opinion stands. But I think it’s less about morality and more about the constant need for gratification in our culture, regardless of risk or sense. What I take issue with is people saying atomi is flat out wrong, when his opinion is as valid as theirs.


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You guys keep saying casual sex is associated with psychiatric issues. I would love to see these scientific papers. Also promiscuity of the pathological kind is different from periodically using a dating app like Tinder. If you have the evidence I would like to know more about it.

Like I intimated in my post there are far, far more dangerous ways to have high risk sexual encounters than using a dating app.
 
I knew this thread wouldn't disappoint. Unfortunately the 20 minutes I spent reading it was almost as bad a choice as hooking up with a tender junkie med school student, apparently. You guys do you. I will gladly cut out your squamous cell carcinomas in a couple decades. Keep the work coming. 👍:banana:
 
I really want to know from the people who are here criticizing casual sex what the line is. Ok, you think and online connection followed by sex is bad....what about meeting through a friend and having sex on the 3rd date, is that also terrible? Is the line at marriage? Do people only need to have one sexual partner their whole life? Is that what you did?
 
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You guys keep saying casual sex is associated with psychiatric issues. I would love to see these scientific papers. Also promiscuity of the pathological kind is different from periodically using a dating app like Tinder. If you have the evidence I would like to know more about it.

Like I intimated in my post there are far, far more dangerous ways to have high risk sexual encounters than using a dating app.
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More importantly, if there is a correlation it almost certainly is that psych trauma makes you more likely to be promiscuous. Even if this is true it makes diddly squat difference in if casual sex is healthy. What they really ought to show is evidence that casual sex as an adult leads to mental illness. To my knowledge nothing of the sort exists.
 
OrthoTraumaMD said:
If you really want to know....out of genuine curiosity and not just for kicks.... For me personally, it is because sex is the ultimate expression of intimacy. It is the final stage of an emotional and psychological connection. You can’t achieve that kind of intimacy from a random tinder hookup. To me, having sex first is going backwards; it should be the last stage, not the first. And as for your question re: what the rest of us did... for me, I am in my mid-30s, I have had a total of four sexual partners in my life, 3 of whom were long-term relationships over 5 years each, including my husband. I tried the casual hook-up thing once (the fourth person); he was an acquaintance, and I wanted to see if I was missing anything fun by not hooking up with people. Afterwards, I felt gross, and it was not my cup of tea. Missing the intimacy made it feel empty and cheap to me. I value myself very highly, and do not give that part of me away easily because it is so deep and personal in terms of connecting with another human. I realize that not everyone feels about sex that way, to many people it means nothing... but that is how I feel, since you asked.


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Sounds like you are being oppressed by the patriarchy tbh.












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