Tinder/whatever hookup app/dating site is where almost any girl can get laid instantly. Some may choose to have sex with 3-5+ guys every week (some unprotected sex too) and I know of over a dozen examples personally like this.
For men, you need to be in the top 10% of looks to do well. In real life, it's top 20%. Now in that top 10%, if you're barely there then you're most likely meeting average to slightly above average girls. The few hot girls on those apps who genuinely want to meet to hookup will do so if the guy is insanely attractive.
Outside of hooking up, for actual dating - looks are still by far #1 but you can get by being fully above average (still hard to do).
The white coat or "doctor status" later on only helps you within your own league. It doesn't allow you to shoot above. So yeah you can gain premed interest, but ones who are in your league to begin with.
You've got some points, but I'm sorry, no, it's not that much about looks in real life, where women are far less shallow about looks when choosing a partner. On Tinder moreso for sure, as it is really that most attractive men that are driving everything based on published data. The bottom 80% of men are competing for the bottom 20% of women, whereas the top 80% of women are competing for the top 20% of men, or something like that. There is no shortage of short, average looking, non-white guys on the internet (ahem, reddit) complaining that a minority of tall white men are stealing all of the available women (that they believe they are entitled to) for dates and hookups.
I am a tall, facially attractive, physically fit, white, baby blue eyed, well dressed, well traveled, reasonably wealthy male with an MD behind my name. And you know what, I can count on one hand the number of times in my entire life that a random woman has approached me to hit on me and try and take me home (ok maybe two hands if you want to count less obvious flirting). I'm quiet and introverted, very private, never talk about myself, not that confident in new social settings, suck at small talk, and I've failed many times even with far less attractive women (oddly enough I seemed to fail the most with women less attractive than me when I was younger). Sometimes they would be interested at first, then I wouldn't say the right thing and scare them away. Meanwhile I watched my friends who were short and less attractive (even outright fat), poor, but very confident and naturally charismatic consistently get enormous amounts of female attention. Once I started to develop more self-confidence, I watched things change dramatically for me. I think a lot of young guys have this noxious idea (which permeates the nether reaches of reddit and which your comments are reminding me of) that all women are these shallow creatures and that if only they were tall and white with a square chin and a trust fund that suddenly women everywhere would be swooning over them. And it's absolute total BS. If you are talking about hooking up with strangers at a bar, then yes, women will choose the most attractive, confident, and successful appearing male for a one night stand and ignore everything else because the meat market is just a subconscious insecure affirmation of one's value. But this is a small minority of women that are doing this sort of thing and is basically the same as hookup apps. For finding a longterm partner in real life, it's much less about attractiveness and more about other qualities. I wouldn't lose any sleep over the fact that the hot girl on Tinder swiped right on a different guy or the hot girl at the bar went home with a more attractive guy. You don't want that girl, trust me. I had one of those girls, and she almost ruined my life.
If you are a woman using Tinder looking for anything other than a one night stand, you're an idiot because the only guys you are going to swipe right on are most likely swiping right on most girls on the site and having very frequent one night stands. Herpes and a broken heart/soul, here you come. Hopefully not a baby from a man that will never talk to you again. If you are an attractive man using Tinder looking for a relationship, you likely will get somebody who has been taken through the ringer so to speak by the pick up artists on the app and get to enjoy all the baggage that comes with that. So yes, you are right that facial attractiveness matters the most, but you're kidding yourself if you think this is all that matters. Even being attractive you still probably won't do well and adding other superficial things to broadcast your status will help because the reality is that it's an empty superficial platform that people use to reaffirm their own value (this hot unemployed plumber wants to hook up with me huh, oh wait this hot rich doctor wants to hook up with me also...)
Bottom line, Tinder and other hookup apps suck and are a new low for our society. Like all other social media disasters of the current age, they make us feel horrible about ourselves, isolate us, celebrate superficial image, create vapid and meaningless fake relationships foregoing real relationships, and oh of course they totally mine every little last bit of your personal data as possible to sell to the highest bidder and use it to invade your life, steal your money, and control/influence what you buy and who you vote for.
On one hand, I miss being young due to the excitement and novelty of it all. On the other, I couldn't imagine having to be a part of the hell that modern dating has become. Again, glad I am out of the scene now and hope I never have to go back.
