so i got an email from the director of training at my top choice school telling me that i'm on the waitlist, but that they anticipate inviting more people because they will either get more money and/or people will turn down the offers. the email told me to 'please hang in there' because the committee really liked my app and enjoyed meeting me at interview day. the email also said to please let them know about my other offers and keep them up to date on any decisions i make.
this was after i heard incredible, omg-we-cant-wait-to-admit-you feedback from all the faculty (and grad students i met) about my application and my time visiting. the prof whose lab i want to work in actually asked me if they made me an offer, would i take it? i said yes.
my question is 2-fold:
1) why do schools pretend you're the best thing ever only to let you down? i've had this happen 3 times to me so far--professors i've interviewed with have called me afterward and told me that they talked privately to other faculty about how great i am and how excited they were about my application and/or meeting me. at the 3 schools, i got 1 rejection and now 2 waitlists. why can't they just be professional about it and say "we enjoyed meeting you" and then tell you admit/wait/reject? what's the point of all the false courting/ego-inflating? it kind of makes me sick.
2) how should i respond to the email? is it ok to ask if there is a ranking on the waitlist? i'd really like to know.
what a process.