Definitely didn't ignore the denotation when I was thinking about my original post, I spoke about the connotation because the denotation is straight forward. I guess I should've shared why I think he meant it that way originally, I just didn't think this would stir up any controversy: I only wanted to help him out as he steps into the professional world and begins medical school.
I checked out his post history and noticed he used the phrase "******ed" in other posts. This led me to believe it was in his everyday vernacular, not just an accidental mixup. I don't assume he is malicious in his intent with the word, and I totally agree with you when you say his post can only be "insensitive/crass" because I wasn't saying it was anything more than that. I do not hold any judgements for his character or anything, just informing him that it is inappropriate to use that word. 🙂 I hope this helps you understand where I'm coming from: I'm not attacking him, I'm just trying to help! If you have any further desire to talk about connotations, denotations, etymologies, cultural sensitivities, or just about how life is going for you, feel free to DM me 🙂