cbrons, I recognize your name from other threads and I have to say I was a little surprised at what you posted on this thread. I always thought you were a level-headed and reasonable young man (if you are female, I apologize.) And you always seemed to try to be considerate of other peoples' points of view.
After reading the last few posts, I realize that you aren't being an insensitive jerk for taking the position that you have, you are advocating in your own way for the kids you see as being neglected. Especially b/c you were once one, yourself.
My favorite mentor, one whom I love and look to as a mother figure, was surprisingly very vocal against me pursuing a career in medicine. She also cited my potential neglect of my kids as a negative. Guess what? Her dad turned out to be a doctor who neglected his kids. But if a parent is going to neglect his or her child, that is a defect of the parent's personality and not a function of his or her career.
I have faith that most of the parents that frequent this forum are good parents who struggle with decisions every day regarding doing the best thing for their children. Those of us who are experienced parents are able to make snap judgement calls and also able to make sure that our kids are happy and healthy while pursuing our careers--whether it be in healthcare, law enforcement, the military, or whatever. We make every second we spend with our kids COUNT. We make every second we spend studying COUNT. We are really efficient at what we do, although there are certainly times when we feel overwhelmed. We also feel guilty for not being able to do it all, but even a stay-at-home parent can't do it all. We are not gods. Speaking for myself, even right now as a SAHM I feel guilt every day--did I choose the right vitamins? Am I letting the kids watch too much TV? But we learn to find a happy medium and wouldn't you know it, our kids won't break. They know they are loved. And they know that their parents work really hard to have a life of their own AND to do everything to ensure they are taken good care of.
Yes, it is a terrible thing when parents pursue their careers (or hobbies,for that matter) and neglect their children in the process. But if you read the posts carefully, this thread is filled with parents who are trying to ensure that that is the LAST thing that happens. It can be done, with a lot of willpower and a good support system. One small leg of which is the people on this forum.
Ultimately, the ability to make snap decisions and wisely allocate the limited resources (time, energy, money, attention) that we have will make us efficient and compassionate doctors, IMO. Not to mention avoiding burnout--who can stress over a bombed test when your toddler is trying to put lipstick on you and tells you you are beautiful?
It really does help us keep everything in stride.
Cbrons, I know you are looking out for the neglected kids, but please trust that, at least for the kids of the parents on this thread, you are looking at the wrong set of parents.