Advice on how to make things work?

[cowboybuboy]

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Hi! I have plans on going to Med School in the Philippines. However, I'm here in the US working as a PT. I'm also married to an RN and have a kid. Discussed this over with my wife and she doesn't like the idea of being so far away. Med School here is really expensive and ridiculously hard to get into.
My plan is to bring my kid with me and enroll him to a private school while my wife works here for a while and come visit or vice versa. But like I said, she doesn't like the idea of being too far from each other.
I told her that she should come along and we'll buy a business at the same time work while I go to med school. But she's too tied up right now at work.
Any suggestions on this one? It's kinda hard to make this work at the moment.
You might ask why I'd want to go to med school when we're both okay here?
Okay does not cut it anymore. I wanted to be a doctor and that's more than okay. Hope you can help me on this one?
Thanks!

 

[Saipan]

Leaving your wife in the US while you study medicine in the PI sounds like a movie starring Christopher De Leon and Sharon Cuneta, that I once saw on a rainy afternoon in Avenida.

Do I need to detail the entire movie here? Suffice to say that lonely guys in Manila who leave their wives in the States always get into trouble.

Listen to your wife. Actually, send your wife to medical school, and you work, cos she obviously has all the brains.

 

[cowboybuboy]

You know what? I'm looking for options on how to make things work. Not people trying to mock me. If that's the way you help, then, I don't need it.
What a stupid reply. Probably you're watching too much movies.
Huh, Saipan?
Hope somebody has more helpful answer than this one.
Are you in med school? Or are you even in school? Did you even go to school?
I hope you think about it before you reply. By the way you answer this, I know you're a Filipino. I was hoping more from my fellow countrymen.
People like you makes immigration harder for a lot of us.
All you know is answer like a smart Alec. You talk trash but you can't even make it in the real world.
Now, I have proven myself here over and over that my clinical background in allied medicine has become stronger throughout the years.
I'm hoping to go back to med school to make a difference.
What a jackass.

 

[tantrum]

Hi! I have plans on going to Med School in the Philippines. However, I'm here in the US working as a PT. I'm also married to an RN and have a kid. Discussed this over with my wife and she doesn't like the idea of being so far away. Med School here is really expensive and ridiculously hard to get into.
My plan is to bring my kid with me and enroll him to a private school while my wife works here for a while and come visit or vice versa. But like I said, she doesn't like the idea of being too far from each other.
I told her that she should come along and we'll buy a business at the same time work while I go to med school. But she's too tied up right now at work.
Any suggestions on this one? It's kinda hard to make this work at the moment.
You might ask why I'd want to go to med school when we're both okay here?
Okay does not cut it anymore. I wanted to be a doctor and that's more than okay. Hope you can help me on this one?
Thanks!

The best situation is if she's willing to go along with you 3-4 years is not that bad in the Philippines, but I would not suggest being away from your wife. Maybe you can compromise and wait for a while when she's ready for it and show her the advantage of being a doctor. As for the kid, it will depend on their age, if very young like early grade schools, a lot of private schools will do but middle school to high school, only international schools will do and they are very expensive. If you have enough savings then go for it but I would not do it if you expect your business solely to support you there. Try to talk to your wife frequently about this as it takes both of you to make it work. Separation from spoude during med school is very difficult on top of the curriculum.

 

[cowboybuboy]

Yea, I tried talking her into it but it will take some complex planning on how to make it work. Right now, I'm just trying to wait it out. But I will be taking the NMAT soon. So, when she's ready, I'll just take the whole family there for the whole duration of Med School. And probably during breaks, we'll go back to US and work here to save some money and bring it back there.

 

[cowboybuboy]

Wanted to know if I have to take the pre-requisites again. I'm a 1999 grad of BSPT. Would NMAT suffice? I have most of the requirements for med school but I don't know if they would consider it since I've been practicing anyway.
Anyone?

 

[Saipan]

You're too sensitive. Grow a pair. You cry more than Ramiele Malumbay on American Idol.

Three people (your wife, me, and Tantrum) have given you the same advice. Don't move to Manila alone and leave your wife elsewhere. It's a recipe for disaster.

It sounds like you have all the pre-requisites so I wouldn't worry about that. If one school doesn't like you application, don't sweat it, 'cos there's a dozen more that will accept you.

As a married guy (who brings his family...!!!) it's even more important than ever that you pick a school in a location where you're family will also enjoy life (i.e. schools/SECURITY/entertainment/supermarkets...etc) so don't get caught up in applying to the big name schools. Making your home life comfortable should be the priority.

And that's more difficult than it sounds. You're going to really have to hit the streets when you visit in April and check out neighborhoods intensively.

Making the wrong choice will break the med school career of a married man.

 

[tantrum]

Wanted to know if I have to take the pre-requisites again. I'm a 1999 grad of BSPT. Would NMAT suffice? I have most of the requirements for med school but I don't know if they would consider it since I've been practicing anyway.
Anyone?

A lot of schools don't even require science units anymore as long as you have a Bachelors degree. As a PT, you have an edge in Anatomy but that's about it.

 

[cowboybuboy]

I'm not sensitive. I'm just expressing that I'm serious about this and I'm looking for a serious answer. Now, that you're answer is more appropriate, I really appreaciate it. Also, who the heck is that guy? I find American Idol boring and scripted so I don't watch it.
Well, with housing and ride, I have both taken care of. My parent's house is still available and we still have a car.
I plan to teach physical therapy provided it does not interfere with my schedule and I asked my wife if she'd be willing to teach NCLEX or in a University since both of us have updated knowledge on what's going on in our field.
BTW Saipan, I'd like to know the title of that movie you've seen in Avenida since I have not seen a lot of Filipino movies lately. That will be a good dinner date with my wife.

 

[tantrum]

Just a warning though that med school in the Philippines is very intense in terms of hours you spend in school so free time is hard to find. It's not necessarily better but they work their students hard.