I am finding it difficult to accept that my girlfriend (whom I have been with all through college) is going to enter the military after she finishes residency. We are both medical students, and I can see that her leaving for 4 years to serve in the military will be a problem for me, especially when I would be at an age where I would want to settle down with a family and career. I've discussed with her many times about her reasons, and she insists it is to learn discipline, get the worldly experience, and to serve the US (rather than financial). She got particularly angry with me last time I brought it up and told me never to talk about it again. I guess I am wondering whether my problem with her entering the military is not just selfish but also irrational and unfair. I fear, though, that most people intending to become physicians are so career-driven, that any person's location preference for residency and subsequent job could be a problem, military or not. What do others think about this long-distance phase looming in my future?