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Howdy SDNers, I have a question about family. More specifically, family-to-be. My partner's folks are in an alternative healthcare field, and while I don't necessarily appreciate the finer points of acupunture/chiropractic/TCM, it doesn't do me any harm. My partner and I have concrete plans on getting married in the future. While this is still a couple of years away, my concerns are for the child(ren) we will have. (I already have a child from a previous marriage.)
I think my future in-laws are very set in their ways, but also very prone to believing anything that rebels against allopathic medicine. They are generally anti-vaccine, and agree on performing manipulations on newborn babies! This was done to one of their younger children immediately after birth. I have read the studies on CVA post-manipulation, vaccine/anti-vaccine literature, and the like. While I don't pretend to understand everything about either subject, I am concerned that their disdain for allopathic medicine will lead them to push their daughter into making uninformed decisions about our child(ren). You see, my partner is in traditional healthcare, but has adopted some of their practices. While I hope to guide her to read the information freely available online about the consequences of neglecting shots, I realize that there is a point where pushing can just lead to stubbornness. Complicating matters is the fact that we are both females, and not in a state that recognizes same-sex marriage (and therefore, my rights as a parent as she will be the birth mother).
So how do I go about walking that fine line, especially as a pre-med with her family? My partner and I have already talked through this numerous times, but I am looking for an outsider's perspective on how to approach the subject with her or her family in the future. This is something extremely important to me, and she knows it. Our conversations always end with "we'll just have to see" or "that depends on how we feel at the time". The last thing I need right now is more stress, but maybe just typing this out will make me feel better.
I think my future in-laws are very set in their ways, but also very prone to believing anything that rebels against allopathic medicine. They are generally anti-vaccine, and agree on performing manipulations on newborn babies! This was done to one of their younger children immediately after birth. I have read the studies on CVA post-manipulation, vaccine/anti-vaccine literature, and the like. While I don't pretend to understand everything about either subject, I am concerned that their disdain for allopathic medicine will lead them to push their daughter into making uninformed decisions about our child(ren). You see, my partner is in traditional healthcare, but has adopted some of their practices. While I hope to guide her to read the information freely available online about the consequences of neglecting shots, I realize that there is a point where pushing can just lead to stubbornness. Complicating matters is the fact that we are both females, and not in a state that recognizes same-sex marriage (and therefore, my rights as a parent as she will be the birth mother).
So how do I go about walking that fine line, especially as a pre-med with her family? My partner and I have already talked through this numerous times, but I am looking for an outsider's perspective on how to approach the subject with her or her family in the future. This is something extremely important to me, and she knows it. Our conversations always end with "we'll just have to see" or "that depends on how we feel at the time". The last thing I need right now is more stress, but maybe just typing this out will make me feel better.