I think that like others have said in their replies, you should really discuss the future, and what you want out of it, with your SO. I'm guessing that right now all of your finances, as well as most of your daytime hours are spent apart since you go to different schools. When one or both of you finish school you're going to have to make a lot of decisions....especially about finances. It's not that your husband's job isn't important or respected as you've both said, it's just the fact that the training for their job did not require nearly the same amount of time and mental energy as your future career, and accordingly they are paid less. Let's face it, in general the longer and/or harder a degree is to receive, the more you get paid once you have it. I think it's natural to kind of say to yourself at some point "hey, is this party guy just going to get to keep living it up because of my hard work?", and honestly that might end up being the case in some sense, but I think it's important to make sure both parties are contributing to the relationship by some means. He may want to keep his job, and if so would you expect him to take care of all the chores at home because you make the lion's share of the money?
What I'm trying to say is that you're going to be in a strange situation because there's going to be a role reversal in finances. The tradition that men make the money is still in the back of society's mind, and you need to make sure that you don't end up thinking of him as a bad provider. You know what kind of money he is making and if you marry him you should love him fully and accept what his financial contribution is so long as his contribution to the relationship and your needs is good, not that you're off te hook with meeting his needs either.
So just as some starting points, I was wondering if you know how you feel as a couple about any of the following:
If he graduates and is working while you're in pharm school is he going to move in with you and use his little money to sustain you both while you're not making any money in pharm school, and if not, what are you going to do for money?
How does he feel about spending, and has he shown the ability to be discerning with how he uses his money? I ask this just because I think it's something essential for any couple, and if either of you feels uncomfortable with the other's spending habits I think it's important to voice that and come to an agreement before merging your finances, which is inevitable if you stay together.
What are his goals in life as of this point, and what does he want out of the next few years?
Related to the above question, how exactly does your career fit into his idea of the future? I say this because if you go ahead and buy the big house and live a certain lifestyle you will then be required to work, and only your husband will have the option of being a stay at home parent for housework or kids. I guess I'm just saying he should be aware and okay with the fact that you probably will be more of a career woman (I'm guessing) and won't be home all the time to look after kids and whip up dinner every night. At the same time you must accept the fact that he will simply not earn what you do and may have more free time than you.
Obviously finances are only one aspect of life as a couple, but I feel if you aren't on the same page financially it can poison every other aspect of your relationship because how you spend your money has an affect on so much of your life.
