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Hi everyone. Feeling burnt out, bummed, and in need of some guidance that I'm not getting from my friends or husband.
Background: I am a 28 year old non-trad student attending school in the Midwest. I regretted my school choice almost immediately for many reasons, and wish I had chosen a school I was ultimately selected off the waitlist from, albeit too late to make it work for my husband. Out of 10 acceptances, I gravely feel I chose the wrong one almost every single day.
Now: I am 1 block into M2. I despised M1 year and had never been more depressed. I hate the school I've chosen (which uses a brand new completely flipped curriculum, and is far away from my friends and family in the NW). At the end of the year, I strongly considered dropping out, but had done average or slightly below average in every block and made it through. Took this summer completely off, got married, traveled, felt like an adult again with my life back.
I miss my family and friends all the time. One of my parents has long-standing health problems that aren't getting better. I've reached out to the only school in my home state (where i was waitlisted-->accepted) and they don't accept transfers. At this point, I don't really even believe my heart is in becoming a physician anymore. The thought of getting closer to Step 1 and entering M3 year where I won't be able to visit home regularly anymore gives me all-consuming anxiety.
I hate what I'm studying as a medical student, and I just want to care for patients. At this point, all I want to do is drop out and re-apply to a nurse practitioner program, but that feels financially reckless and I don't know that an NP program would even accept me as an MD drop out. At this point, I don't feel like I am willing to sacrifice everything to finish 2.5 more years of grueling school, away from my family, followed by 3 years of residency where I'm not even assured to get a position in the NW (there 2 peds programs....)
To make matter worse, I feel I'll be disappointing my husband if i drop out. He has made sacrificies to support us, and I had considerable student debt from undergrad, the post-bacc and medical school ($150k ish). Taking a LOA looks bad and delays everything, and I would realistically be leaving him in the Midwest to return to the NW to think things over.
What do I do? Tough it out and finish the MD? Take time off and re-evaluate? Apply to NP? Ultimately, I want to care for patients, but I'm not sure I fully weighed all of the sacrifices it would take to complete school so far from my family.
Background: I am a 28 year old non-trad student attending school in the Midwest. I regretted my school choice almost immediately for many reasons, and wish I had chosen a school I was ultimately selected off the waitlist from, albeit too late to make it work for my husband. Out of 10 acceptances, I gravely feel I chose the wrong one almost every single day.
Now: I am 1 block into M2. I despised M1 year and had never been more depressed. I hate the school I've chosen (which uses a brand new completely flipped curriculum, and is far away from my friends and family in the NW). At the end of the year, I strongly considered dropping out, but had done average or slightly below average in every block and made it through. Took this summer completely off, got married, traveled, felt like an adult again with my life back.
I miss my family and friends all the time. One of my parents has long-standing health problems that aren't getting better. I've reached out to the only school in my home state (where i was waitlisted-->accepted) and they don't accept transfers. At this point, I don't really even believe my heart is in becoming a physician anymore. The thought of getting closer to Step 1 and entering M3 year where I won't be able to visit home regularly anymore gives me all-consuming anxiety.
I hate what I'm studying as a medical student, and I just want to care for patients. At this point, all I want to do is drop out and re-apply to a nurse practitioner program, but that feels financially reckless and I don't know that an NP program would even accept me as an MD drop out. At this point, I don't feel like I am willing to sacrifice everything to finish 2.5 more years of grueling school, away from my family, followed by 3 years of residency where I'm not even assured to get a position in the NW (there 2 peds programs....)
To make matter worse, I feel I'll be disappointing my husband if i drop out. He has made sacrificies to support us, and I had considerable student debt from undergrad, the post-bacc and medical school ($150k ish). Taking a LOA looks bad and delays everything, and I would realistically be leaving him in the Midwest to return to the NW to think things over.
What do I do? Tough it out and finish the MD? Take time off and re-evaluate? Apply to NP? Ultimately, I want to care for patients, but I'm not sure I fully weighed all of the sacrifices it would take to complete school so far from my family.
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