Any love story in dental school?

[penny49]

Just for fun , what are the pros and cons to have a girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband in the same dental school at the same year?

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[sgv]

nothing but if it goes sour, you're stuck with them for four years

 

[Sublimazing]

Dated a girl or two in dental school...went HORRIBLY...but met my future wife when we were both residents in different programs at same place.

 

[penny49]

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[Shunwei]

Dated a girl or two in dental school...went HORRIBLY...but met my future wife when we were both residents in different programs at same place.

Different programs at the same place is perfectly fine, but there is no way in hell that I would ever date a classmate . . . .. Or a dentist for that matter. Plenty of fish around without muddying your own waters.

As an anecdote, two of my classmates were dating. Things went sour, and the female then accused the male of 'stalking' her and he make got a restraining order from the administration forbidding him to talk to her, sit within 5 rows of her, or talk about her. The male adamantly denies stalking her and claims that the female is crazy. Go figure.

 

[OhioDMD]

I dated my wife through school (same program, same year). We were married shortly after graduation, went into practice together two months later ( start-up). We practiced together for thirty one years until she retired and will be married thirty four years this September.

 

[ICUrunning]

I dated my wife through school (same program, same year). We were married shortly after graduation, went into practice together two months later ( start-up). We practiced together for thirty one years until she retired and will be married thirty four years this September.

Great stuff. Hope this is me someday.

 

[NDPitch]

I would recommend at least dating outside of your class year. There's enough age distribution in dental school where a D1 could be dating a D3, or something similar. I don't cross paths all that much with other classes, which I think is a plus if you're dating someone. That way, if the fit hits the shan, at least you're not avoiding awkward moments for the rest of dental school.

 

[Miley Cyrus.]

I dated my wife through school (same program, same year). We were married shortly after graduation, went into practice together two months later ( start-up). We practiced together for thirty one years until she retired and will be married thirty four years this September.

I envy you. Congrats.

 

[Daurang]

As an anecdote, two of my classmates were dating. Things went sour, and the female then accused the male of 'stalking' her and he make got a restraining order from the administration forbidding him to talk to her, sit within 5 rows of her, or talk about her. The male adamantly denies stalking her and claims that the female is crazy. Go figure.

Same thing happened at my school. This couple is Persian and guy from Montreal; hope we not talking about same people. Lots of faculty members from post doc hitting on and even marry the predoc.

 

[Miley Cyrus.]

Different programs at the same place is perfectly fine, but there is no way in hell that I would ever date a classmate . . . .. Or a dentist for that matter. Plenty of fish around without muddying your own waters.

I'm curious as to why you would never date and/or marry a dentist? Do you think it's a bad idea for guys to get married to a female dentist?

 

[Shunwei]

I'm curious as to why you would never date and/or marry a dentist? Do you think it's a bad idea for guys to get married to a female dentist?

I am just not attracted to them. With all due respect and courtesy to my female colleagues, I just find most females with degrees like dentistry, medicine, to lack the feminine qualities that attract me. And not to mention conversations would inevitably have a lot of "so, this patient today . . . . ". Not interested in taking work home, like girly girls, that's that.

 

[Sublimazing]

I'm curious as to why you would never date and/or marry a dentist? Do you think it's a bad idea for guys to get married to a female dentist?

I greatly enjoy dating a dentist...we can talk about work with great understanding. We have similar career goals. We understand one another's stresses and victories.

And as an added bonus it can be fruitful in terms of business growth. And having two specialists' incomes? Sick nasty...

To each his own though.

 

[Shunwei]

Same thing happened at my school. This couple is Persian and guy from Montreal; hope we not talking about same people. Lots of faculty members from post doc hitting on and even marry the predoc.

We are almost certainly not talking about he same people, you and I went to dental school in different eras and different schools. But the lesson remains the same.

I personally think faculty dating students is crossing the line of professional ethics. It's not professional and would very likely run into conflict of interests. The saying 'don't **** where you eat' exists for a reason.

 

[Miley Cyrus.]

I am just not attracted to them. With all due respect and courtesy to my female colleagues, I just find most females with degrees like dentistry, medicine, to lack the feminine qualities that attract me. And not to mention conversations would inevitably have a lot of "so, this patient today . . . . ". Not interested in taking work home, like girly girls, that's that.

I agree lol.
But what about those like PAs and nurses???? I've seen a lot of really good looking ones, very nice, and full of the feminine qualities that you would find attractive. A lot of the girls I know who are going into PA or nursing say they want a good job but a good family life as well, which is specifically why they don't want medicine.

 

[Shunwei]

I agree lol.
But what about those like PAs and nurses???? I've seen a lot of really good looking ones, very nice, and full of the feminine qualities that you would find attractive. A lot of the girls I know who are going into PA or nursing say they want a good job but a good family life as well, which is specifically why they don't want medicine.

Yes, nurses are great. I am just talking about female dentists and MDs. pharmacists are even pretty good.

For the record, though, my best dates have been with grade school teachers. Excellent with kids, generally sweet personalities, I like their qualities. My worst dates have been without a doubt female MDs. I have learned to avoid them like he plague.

 

[ggj]

LOL, Shunwei, female dentists and dental students feel the same way about male dentists!! Personally, I would never date a male dentist or male classmate. I like sensitive, romantic, sweet guys. All of my boyfriends have been artists and poets. The male dentist repulses me - the ego is huge (usually compensating for something not so huge), the attitude is nasty and the personality is nonexistent... so trust us, we feel the same 😉
But it could also be because I was a humanities major & I haven't exactly "married" my profession. I'm not obsessed with dentistry. I still like lacy bras & nail polish as much as the next chick. Who the hell wants to discuss patients once they come home?! I completely agree. Opposite professions attract.

To the OP - you can date, but be very careful. In our class, there is already so much drama after a single year of dental school over people liking the same guy or girl, dating someone who just broke up with someone, etc. I think school is stressful enough as it is. You have to be extremely careful. My advice is to be friends with this person for a year and see how you feel after that. See how you feel after a summer apart. After all, the best relationships are those that bud from friendship and mutual love and respect for one another. Happy hunting 🙂

 

[Longcatislong]

Did you have time at all to date while in school? I know every school and each persons experience is unique, but is the dating and social scene that good in dental school? I'm worried I'll be coming into an environment where everyone is hyper focused on their studies. And as a female, I guess it's discouraging to read on here that make dental and med students don't want to date similarly career driven women.

 

[Godspeedyou]

The male dentist repulses me - the ego is huge (usually compensating for something not so huge)

 

[Mattthias]

Die alone and rich that's what I always say.

 

[dieanotherday]

It seems like many people in d school already have significant others or already married.
And for those people they found their partners during undergrad or earlier and both people in the relationship aren't in the same profession
If I was single, I wouldn't look towards dating my own classmates though.

 

[IsaacYankem]

Don't $hit where you eat

 

[DentSchools]

I don't know how common it is but it definitely happens. At least two couples dated in my class and broke up without it affecting them much. And one other couple actually started dating and then got married during school and the same thing happened to two couples in the class before us. So it happens but you have to be careful as some mentioned because if it goes horribly wrong, you have too much at stake.

 

[Contach]

All of my boyfriends have been artists and poets. The male dentist repulses me - the ego is huge (usually compensating for something not so huge), the attitude is nasty and the personality is nonexistent...

I still like lacy bras & nail polish as much as the next chick. Who the hell wants to discuss patients once they come home?! I completely agree. Opposite professions attract.

Really? Small penis jokes?

Have you entered the pre-clinics or the clinics yet? That nail polish wears away real fast... even the gels.

There were plenty of people in my dental school who were dating one another. Some worked, some didn't. In our class of 120, there were about 11 dating couples at one point. About 6 or 7 were pretty long relationships (more than a year).

 

[ggj]

Really? Small penis jokes?

Have you entered the pre-clinics or the clinics yet? That nail polish wears away real fast... even the gels.

There were plenty of people in my dental school who were dating one another. Some worked, some didn't. In our class of 120, there were about 11 dating couples at one point. About 6 or 7 were pretty long relationships (more than a year).

LOL I'm sorry, I had to. You're right, low blow. Just two very bad experiences from dental school that have deterred me from my dental colleagues forever. I was echoing the sentiment that male dental students aren't attracted to their female counterparts, or medical students. In most cases it's true for us girls too.

 

[ggj]

Did you have time at all to date while in school? I know every school and each persons experience is unique, but is the dating and social scene that good in dental school? I'm worried I'll be coming into an environment where everyone is hyper focused on their studies. And as a female, I guess it's discouraging to read on here that make dental and med students don't want to date similarly career driven women.

longcatislong, don't let any of this deter you. it's our opinions and experiences only. my best friend is already dating the guy of her dreams, and he is attracted to her and in love with her & all her goals and dreams (they are both medical students). you will see when you get into dental school that dentistry does take a big percentage of your life, and some students will already be married or committed. but there will be single people too.
no one says you can't be career-driven and lovable too.

 

[sgv]

edit: i am not a funny man

 

[Shunwei]

LOL I'm sorry, I had to. You're right, low blow. Just two very bad experiences from dental school that have deterred me from my dental colleagues forever. I was echoing the sentiment that male dental students aren't attracted to their female counterparts, or medical students. In most cases it's true for us girls too.

Well, you girls certainly look like cougars in dental school. Most of the couples I saw had the girl being at least 1-2 yrs older than the guy. I guess it's the maternal instinct?

 

[sgv]

edit: i should just stop posting altogether.

 

[ggj]

Well, you girls certainly look like cougars in dental school. Most of the couples I saw had the girl being at least 1-2 yrs older than the guy. I guess it's the maternal instinct?

haha! strange. all of our guys are in their late 20s/early 30s.. guess it depends on the school. every class is different

edit: 1 -2 years is a cougar? what does that mean for the guys who are 5+ years older than the girl? watch for those double standards now..

 

[DrJeff]

Met my wife during our freshman orientation of dental school. Started dating about January of our 1st year. Got engaged and started living together the end of 2nd year. Married just after we graduated. That was almost 17 years ago now.

We have a rule, that we really don't talk dentistry at home unless we have a mutual patient and it is warranted to discuss them. (our practices, she's an orthodontist and I'm a GP, are about 25 miles apart so while we do have a few mutual patients, it's really not very many).

Most of the time if we're talking "dentistry" at home, it's more about the business side of dentistry and staff issues as opposed to actual clinical issues.

Having a "dual dental income" isn't a bad thing either 😉

 

[Shunwei]

haha! strange. all of our guys are in their late 20s/early 30s.. guess it depends on the school. every class is different

edit: 1 -2 years is a cougar? what does that mean for the guys who are 5+ years older than the girl? watch for those double standards now..

Fair or not society won't look twice at guys who date younger women but will vice versa. Women tend to age faster so if you date someone who's the same age or older it will soon become a bit visible. Now I have always dated women younger than I am. In fact I am 38 and my current gf is 24, but I look young so even physically it's not a problem.

 

[Contach]

Fair or not society won't look twice at guys who date younger women but will vice versa. Women tend to age faster so if you date someone who's the same age or older it will soon become a bit visible. Now I have always dated women younger than I am. In fact I am 38 and my current gf is 24, but I look young so even physically it's not a problem.

38 and 24: even though that obeys by the divided by 2 and plus 7 rule.. I find this creepy.
I find this arrangement more creepy than a woman 5 years older than her partner.

Yeah for sure.. If one of my friends (who are mostly around that age) was dating a guy 14 years older.. that'd be wierd and we'd all let her know. I don't care how good looking or baby face you look.

 

[ggj]

Met my wife during our freshman orientation of dental school. Started dating about January of our 1st year. Got engaged and started living together the end of 2nd year. Married just after we graduated. That was almost 17 years ago now.

We have a rule, that we really don't talk dentistry at home unless we have a mutual patient and it is warranted to discuss them. (our practices, she's an orthodontist and I'm a GP, are about 25 miles apart so while we do have a few mutual patients, it's really not very many).

Most of the time if we're talking "dentistry" at home, it's more about the business side of dentistry and staff issues as opposed to actual clinical issues.

Having a "dual dental income" isn't a bad thing either 😉

awww <3 <3
congrats, that's beautiful!

 

[Shunwei]

38 and 24: even though that obeys by the divided by 2 and plus 7 rule.. I find this creepy.
I find this arrangement more creepy than a woman 5 years older than her partner.

Yeah for sure.. If one of my friends (who are mostly around that age) was dating a guy 14 years older.. that'd be wierd and we'd all let her know. I don't care how good looking or baby face you look.

I find it fine, I have always dated younger women and the real world is full of such examples. I find women my age to be over the hill and in obvious decline. If I were to date a girl in her 30s I feel like I am walking around with a mom or older sis, especially the Caucasian ones who tend to age poorly. It won't help her that I can pass for mid 20s and am more cut than most guys out there.

Now, of course if you are a female it will hurt you because that inequality stings you. But like it or not that's how we men roll and biologically and societally no one would look twice on it.

 

[ggj]

wow

 

[Shunwei]

LMAO. EVERYONE looks twice on that! you can't run from your age forever! eventually you will look 14 years older than your girlfriend!

and your girlfriend doesn't feel like she's walking around with her father? at 14 you could have fathered her. paternal instincts for you, maybe. but fyi, no woman at 1 or 2 years can mother a child. so dating a boy who is a little younger than her doesn't qualify for maternal instincts - sorry.

shunwei i was not going to reply to your post, except that i think your logic is absurd and disgusting. you are free to date and marry whomever you decide, and no one has any business with it. but it will "sting" in the future for you when you can't please your younger woman sexually. your testosterone goes down when you age - whether or not there are any wrinkles on your face. in bed, your age will show. you should warn her.

i feel sorry for you that you judge your women on how old they are, not what's in their heart. what will happen when your 24 year old gf hits her 30s - will she suddenly stop being attractive to you because of her age? suddenly she'll feel like your mom?

what a shame. i don't care about how old or young a man is (though there is such a thing as too old - you fit into that category for me, and i think for many other women, 14 years is too much and, as was stated earlier, "weird") - what is important is their heart. my comments were strictly on personality and based on my experiences dating in dental school - the personalities of my exes didn't impress me. obviously the only thing that matters for you is looks. it really saddens me to know that men still exist with your mentality. i'm glad they're the older generation and are slowly dying off. the world needs to advance. so many happy couples exist where the woman is older than the man but looks younger.

if you are so concerned with looks and age, i imagine you won't keep a girl much longer after she "expires" and looks like she's in "decline"...

Lol, you responded just I thought you would. Truth hurts doesn't it? What a bunch of typical rhetorical garbage from a female, did you get that from the female relationship coaches? You really believe in what you write? I sure don't. Hey one thing for sure about me is that I don't BS

Peace out.

 

[ggj]

Lol, you responded just I thought you would. Truth hurts doesn't it? What a bunch of typical rhetorical garbage from a female. You really believe in what you write? I sure don't. At least I don't BS

you're a sad man. i regretted replying to you. good luck getting stiff in bed at 60. let us know how that works out for you, old dude..
btw your gf is probs a gold digger. but no one could pay me enough to sleep around with a geezer.. no thanks! i guess i'll leave that job to the women who aren't "career driven."

with all respect to my male colleagues - THIS GUY is a prime example of the dental students i was talking about.

 

[Mattthias]

Well this went south fast.

As my grandpa always said, "Beauty fades so marry someone kind."

 

[Sublimazing]

Well this went south fast.

As my grandpa always said, "Beauty fades so marry someone kind."

Was your grandpa always making passive aggressive comments about your grandma's looks?

 

[Miley Cyrus.]

Met my wife during our freshman orientation of dental school. Started dating about January of our 1st year. Got engaged and started living together the end of 2nd year. Married just after we graduated. That was almost 17 years ago now.

We have a rule, that we really don't talk dentistry at home unless we have a mutual patient and it is warranted to discuss them. (our practices, she's an orthodontist and I'm a GP, are about 25 miles apart so while we do have a few mutual patients, it's really not very many).

Most of the time if we're talking "dentistry" at home, it's more about the business side of dentistry and staff issues as opposed to actual clinical issues.

Having a "dual dental income" isn't a bad thing either 😉

Congrats man, you got it made early. Well I'm happy there are some happy stories out there. I hope I am as fortunate as you, but I don't think I'll be able to get married to another dentist: we'd never get out of debt!


Regarding some of the other responses to this thread, I don't think it's double standard for the young woman/slightly elder man combo to not be looked down upon, but the opposite combo is criticized by more people. Most men who want kids are obviously going to gravitate towards younger women (science dictates this is well). Men are going to be more likely to pick women for their looks (science supports this whether we like it or not) and women are going to be more likely to pick men for stability. Also in many ethnic cultures (one of which I belong to), the men are often heavily pressured into marrying only women younger than them.

I think @ggj is missing the fact that whether we like it or not, science/culture plays a huge role. Believe me, there are a couple of repulsive things that in my culture when it comes to marriage that I believe degrades both men/women and that I just cannot fathom why they continue to exist, but they do and probably will for many decades to come. All too often many people (including the wignut feminists) brazenly paint anyone who states these facts as a misogynist, even though there are many women who agree with these facts. And you cant really directly/indirectly accuse someone of misogyny when you yourself are engaging in misandry.

 

[Godspeedyou]

Well this went south fast.

As my grandpa always said, "Beauty fades so marry someone kind."

You can marry someone who is attractive and also kind. I don't want my son to look like Smeagol

 

[Silent Cool]

 

[CMistry]

I met my wife in DAT class in college. We went to dental school together, now I'm doing an OMFS residency and she's working at a smaller corporation as a GP.

 

[Miley Cyrus.]

I met my wife in DAT class in college. We went to dental school together, now I'm doing an OMFS residency and she's working at a smaller corporation as a GP.

Not that it matters, but who got the higher DAT score lol?

 

[CMistry]

Not that it matters, but who got the higher DAT score lol?

I'm the better test-taker, she's the more intelligent one.

 

[Mattthias]

Was your grandpa always making passive aggressive comments about your grandma's looks?

You can marry someone who is attractive and also kind. I don't want my son to look like Smeagol

This is not at all what my grandfather meant or the spirit behind it. I don't mean that you should marry someone who is unattractive to you because they are a nice person or that pretty people can't be kind or worthy of your time. What I meant and what I believe my grandfather meant is that you should go beyond looks and see a person behind that.

I'm not denying that looks are a major factor behind choosing who you spend your time with both on an evolutionary and physical level, but when I'm sixty-five I'd rather be with someone I've grown with as a person and someone I connect with then just some hot piece of ass.

A major factor in choosing who you want to be with should be the answer to this question "If I was struck blind and impotent (may it never be so) would this be the person I would want to spend time with."

 

[wb1]

I'm the better test-taker, she's the more intelligent one.

I bet her perceptual score was probability higher than your. She saw an OMFS in ya since DAT days 🙂!

 

[Godspeedyou]

A major factor in choosing who you want to be with should be the answer to this question "If I was struck blind and impotent (may it never be so) would this be the person I would want to spend time with."

Blind people can feel ugly brah. Lol I know what you mean and I agree. Would pick a 7/10 with an amazing personality over a 10/10 with the personality of a wall any day of the week. But it is very important that you are physically attracted to a girl and not just her personality. I wasn't physically attracted to my 1st gf even though she had a good personality and it ended terribly. There's gotta be balance.

 

[Mattthias]

Blind people can feel ugly brah. Lol I know what you mean and I agree. Would pick a 7/10 with an amazing personality over a 10/10 with the personality of a wall any day of the week. But it is very important that you are physically attracted to a girl and not just her personality. I wasn't physically attracted to my 1st gf even though she had a good personality and it ended terribly. There's gotta be balance.

I can agree to that