Anyone else not getting as much tail in med school as they thought they would?

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Yeah, it's totally bogus. Women these days have earning power and thus don't care nearly so much about a guy's career prospects. A real tragedy for us beta males, and just another aspect of the "golden age" of medicine that we missed out on. C'est la vie.
 
I expected the dating scene to suck when I moved from an awesome city to a 'city'.

I was, sadly, not wrong.

But also lol@OP.
 
Poit said:
I thought that as soon as you officially became a med student, the dating game would be like fishing with dynamite. I thought you had to fend them off with a stick. Maybe that's only after you get your MD? Confused. Sort of want a refund.
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Becoming a med student means you will have no time or money for 7-10 years. That really isn't a big selling point. Most dates aren't that into such longterm investment. Combine that with the fact that if you had no game in college you aren't going to be magically better as "Student doctor Poit". might as well wear an eye patch to the bars because chicks dig pirates.
 
To be fair, I don't think a lot of people realize the time and money investment that comes with being a medical student. So this shouldn't hinder you from at least getting in the door...
 
ridethecliche said:
I expected the dating scene to suck when I moved from an awesome city to a 'city'.

I was, sadly, not wrong.

But also lol@OP.
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It started sucking when I moved to a city with one of the highest rates of obesity in the nation. I don't think we've ever made it through a lecture without them making a point about how obese the patient population is.
 
Tends to attract the crazy girls in my experience. The ones with nothing to show for themselves except for surgical precision when poking holes in condoms. I avoid telling chicks I'm a med student, I go with my previous job.
 
Poit said:
I thought that as soon as you officially became a med student, the dating game would be like fishing with dynamite. I thought you had to fend them off with a stick. Maybe that's only after you get your MD? Confused. Sort of want a refund.
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Well I have way less time than in undergrad so yea I'm getting way less action. Time is everything. Once you become a doctor expect a little boost but no game changers.
 
Say said:
To be fair, I don't think a lot of people realize the time and money investment that comes with being a medical student. So this shouldn't hinder you from at least getting in the door...
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So what? You think you deserve a pity date because of that? Please.
Poit said:
I thought that as soon as you officially became a med student, the dating game would be like fishing with dynamite. I thought you had to fend them off with a stick. Maybe that's only after you get your MD? Confused. Sort of want a refund.
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I hope you're joking. This isn't the 1950s. Your female classmates aren't going to find you any more attractive and those outside of med school won't care because you're just a student. Right now you just have textbooks and debt.
 
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charmiedermie said:
So what? You think you deserve a pity date because of that? Please.

I hope you're joking. This isn't the 1950s. Your female classmates aren't going to find you any more attractive and those outside of med school won't care because you're just a student. Right now you just have textbooks and debt.
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Sounds very much on point. It'll be a nice status boost when you graduate but only if you look good and sound good.
 
sidefx said:
I think you misunderstood his post. He was saying that most prospective dates will not realize how little free time a medical student has at first, and will thus be more likely to initially give them a chance due to this naivety of how busy their schedule actually is.
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What does that have to do with anything lol.

WinslowPringle said:
True for you, maybe.

Not true for all.
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There's less time so it should be true for everyone unless the person changed.
 
MedicineZ0Z said:
What does that have to do with anything lol.
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The first argument was that prospective dates will be turned off from dating a med student because of their lack of free time. Sidefx is saying that most prospective dates are unaware of the lack of free time a med student has so this is a moot point and thus an invalid justification for why OP is dateless.
 
TaroBubbleTea said:
The first argument was that prospective dates will be turned off from dating a med student because of their lack of free time. Sidefx is saying that most prospective dates are unaware of the lack of free time a med student has so this is a moot point and thus an invalid justification for why OP is dateless.
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Well, that is what Say was trying to say, and apparently there was some confusion so I just clarified what he meant.
 
Am I the only one that found the OP's avatar ironic to this discussion?

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TBV said:
Tends to attract the crazy girls in my experience. The ones with nothing to show for themselves except for surgical precision when poking holes in condoms. I avoid telling chicks I'm a med student, I go with my previous job.
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The OP is apparently not getting any action and probably isn't all that worried about this, which is mostly urban legend anyhow.
 
Mad Jack said:
It's not like the ghetto has a monopoly on crazy or greed.
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Women make their own money nowadays. A man's money holds far lower value than it used to in the dating market. Status does help a bit but again it's not a game changer.
 
MedicineZ0Z said:
Women make their own money nowadays. A man's money holds far lower value than it used to in the dating market. Status does help a bit but again it's not a game changer.
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While I get that women make their own money, they still look into what a potential partner brings to the table. I do the same thing, everyone does. If I marry a fry cook I will have a lower quality of life than if I marry a successful stock broker. That's common sense and factors in to anyone's thought process, making those with more cash more desirable.
 
TBV said:
While I get that women make their own money, they still look into what a potential partner brings to the table. I do the same thing, everyone does. If I marry a fry cook I will have a lower quality of life than if I marry a successful stock broker. That's common sense and factors in to anyone's thought process, making those with more cash more desirable.
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Meh, only if you like expensive things. If you're not really into money, a partner's income doesn't make them very appealing.
 
n00b_pwner said:
why are people so contrarian on this site. obviously marrying a stock broker would lead to a better quality of life versus a fry cook. it doesn't matter if you "only like expensive things."
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I mean, even on a PCP income, I'd have more money than I'd ever need. Plenty of physicians even have stay-at-home spouses, because there's a lot of advantages to that sort of arrangement. There's way more to life than money- if I were having kids, a girl that stays at home and takes care of them would be far more appealing than a girl making 50k that needs to put in 40 hours a week.
 
n00b_pwner said:
completely agree with you. i guess i was just comparing the fry cook to the stock broker. in my opinion the advantages of a stay at home spouse far outweigh those of a stock broker.
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Plus stock brokers work like, 100 hours a week and are a step above a medmal lawyer on the "people I hate the most" list. I mean, honestly I'd still pick the fry cook on availability alone, but also because seriously, **** stockbrokers.
 
charmiedermie said:
So what? You think you deserve a pity date because of that? Please.

I hope you're joking. This isn't the 1950s. Your female classmates aren't going to find you any more attractive and those outside of med school won't care because you're just a student. Right now you just have textbooks and debt.
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Yeah, you definitely didn't comprehend my post. I was implying that long term relationships are hard because people learn the commitment that goes along with dating a med student. However, a short fling won't understand this, hence it won't affect you getting in the door.
 
TBV said:
While I get that women make their own money, they still look into what a potential partner brings to the table. I do the same thing, everyone does. If I marry a fry cook I will have a lower quality of life than if I marry a successful stock broker. That's common sense and factors in to anyone's thought process, making those with more cash more desirable.
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You're comparing extremes. If you make 60k per year then all she has to do is make 30k per year and you have a good quality of life. If she's higher up and making something like 80..150..400 or whatever, you'll just have a better quality of life. Most women don't care about you being rich, they just want you to have a decent job that well a decent income. Very easy to obtain...
Even the girls in my class are all with guys who make/will make decent money but are significantly below them in earning potential.
Women ultimately want someone that they're attracted to and that they like. Money is secondary.
W19 said:
It will be game changer as long as OP is not terribly ugly...
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Maybe with older women or below average to average attractive ones. Otherwise it's a just a boost.
 
Must be that stunning personality keeping you out of the game.
 
MedicineZ0Z said:
You're comparing extremes. If you make 60k per year then all she has to do is make 30k per year and you have a good quality of life. If she's higher up and making something like 80..150..400 or whatever, you'll just have a better quality of life. Most women don't care about you being rich, they just want you to have a decent job that well a decent income. Very easy to obtain...
Even the girls in my class are all with guys who make/will make decent money but are significantly below them in earning potential.
Women ultimately want someone that they're attracted to and that they like. Money is secondary.

Maybe with older women or below average to average attractive ones. Otherwise it's a just a boost.
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Trust me! It will be game changers. OP will be able to attract even attractive professional women... Myself and many of my friends were in similar situation when we were in nursing school... Once we got a job and start making money, things changed completely... I do not think we suddenly became better looking guys and/or our game got better..😛
 
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