Anyone ever date their attending??

[marsupial]

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What I think is lame is when the activities of two consenting adults who are acting in a mature and responsible way become juicy gossip for others, possibly because they don't have enough interesting stuff going on in their own lives. I'm sure you know that people in med school/the hospital sometimes regress into a high school type mentality about things they should be mature enough to deal with in a better way. I don't think it's cool. I'm definitely more of the "what people do in their own home is their own business" mindset.

How true!
what about my situation--chemistry with my attending, not the 'grading' attending though, got my grade already. But we are still working on research together and i'm applying in the same field?? Any thoughts?

 

[Ergo]

Hmm, residents in a department often contribute to decisions regarding ranking of applicants and sometimes have input into rec letters. If someone seems really special, get to know him/her better before 'dating.' If hes actually interested in more than a one night fling your caution will be regarded as prudent. To be romantically impulsive with folks working in 'your' department may throw your judgement into question.

How true!
what about my situation--chemistry with my attending, not the 'grading' attending though, got my grade already. But we are still working on research together and i'm applying in the same field?? Any thoughts?[/QUOTE]

 

[UCmed2004]

this has got to be the biggest bag of sleaze ive ever seen! shame on you all! im disgusted!

 

[phoenixsupra]

this has got to be the biggest bag of sleaze ive ever seen! shame on you all! im disgusted!

Aggreed. Seriously, quit being such *****. I can't imagine many attendings willing to risk their career on some passing student ass, anyway.

 

[roja]

What I think is lame is when the activities of two consenting adults who are acting in a mature and responsible way become juicy gossip for others, possibly because they don't have enough interesting stuff going on in their own lives. I'm not talking about abuses of power or anything like that.

I'm sure you know that people in med school/the hospital sometimes regress into a high school type mentality about things they should be mature enough to deal with in a better way. I don't think it's cool. I'm definitely more of the "what people do in their own home is their own business" mindset.

Again, I am not talking about sex for grades; just "normal" relationships---I know they may not always be totally based in equality, but that's true anywhere in life, not just the hospital.

Apparantly the sarcasm didn't come through in that post. 🙂


In general, I would say that med students dating an attending is still fairly taboo. You will be thought less of and the attending could potentially lose alot of respect.


Less of an issue with residents dating attendings... depends on the culture of that particular residency