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So I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years... Pretty depressing... She basically told me that she can't see us lasting through Medical School(Even though I've not even been accepted yet) and that she needs someone to be able to take care of her needs first. She says she "hope we see each other again and can make this work out."

This is just the most shocking/depressing thing I could not have seen coming.

In case anyone read one of my previous posts, I took the MCAT once before and got a 26Q, retaking, and I've taken all of the AAMCs, and I've gotten between a 35-37 on every one... Taking it next Friday.

Aside from that... not looking forward to anything in the next year... This is me, drunk, and signing out: FML...

P.S. - Has anyone else been in a similar circumstance? And what happened?
 
I feel sad for you after reading your story.

My advice is ... forget it. She doesn't deserve for you to be depressed
 
dude thats sucks. If you love her and want to work then obviusly you need to talk to her. Convince her to stick it out. Theres no reason to break it off now anyway, at the very least you guys can enjoy this next year together...unless theres another reason she is breaking up with you and she is using med school as an excuse/the easy way out.....
 
She "hope we see each other again and can make this work out."


Tell her to get lost. If she isnt willing to be with you through the hard times, then she does not deserve to be with a doctor through the good times.

This girl thinks she can have fun and mess around while your at medical school, and she probably wants to come back to you once you finish. Tell her she cant have her cake and eat it too, you will definately find someone else.
 
Sorry to hear that. GL on your exam.
 
SiR99 said:
Tell her to get lost. If she isnt willing to be with you through the hard times, then she does not deserve to be with a doctor through the good times.
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Word. You do not want to be with someone long term who is concerned with her future needs one week prior to your MCAT. Get sober, get studying, rock your MCAT, then deal with this. Hope things work out for you.
 
I might be going through the same thing as you bro, but the jury is out till the end of the weekend. She makes her choice Sunday.

Good luck and keep the course.
 
wow this is the story of my life. throughout college, i've always felt conflicted between my studies and my girlfriend. she's the relaxed type b personality who hated the fact that i preferred spending my time studying and going to the library. every pre-med knows there is some sort of sacrifice to be made, and this was something my SO didn't understand. i often felt like she was holding me back while she felt like i did not care for her.

bottom line: we broke up, but after 3 years, the damage was done. i often feel like without her, i could've pushed myself further and got even better grades. othertimes, i feel like she was the inspiration as to why i did really good in college.

i truly believe that if she truly cares about you, she would've stuck with you through not only the highs, but also the lows - and that includes focusing on your studies. thus, i think that it's actually a good thing that you two separated. if she really wants to be with you, she'll swallow her pride and do whatever it takes to come back into you life, but be weary.

trust me, i was in the exact same position and was down for months. but i learned that you have to worry about yourself first and look our for your best interest. remember, it's ok to feel "selfish" and fulfill your own goals and priorities first. after that, the other pieces of your life will eventually fall into place. good luck!
 
I think you're gf must have known my ex. I was in the exact same boat as you last year at this time. My gf of 2.5 years ended it saying pretty much the EXACT same thing. I was hating life and couldn't stand the thought of going through all the med school stuff alone. I don't mean to discourage you but I had been getting 35-38 on AAMCs too, she broke it off and moved a week before my MCAT and I got a 29 uhggggg. So I feel you're pain man, my advice would be to not crawl yourself in a hole and drink excessively (that's what I did and it just made things a million times worse academically and socially). Find whatever motivation you can to keep studying and keeping busy, at very least it will give you something else to think about. That way when you're reading you're VR passages you won't be thinking of how things would be better if you're gf were still around (that's what I was thinking :laugh:, sad huh). Other than that all I can say is hang in there and maybe consider why you would want to be there for someone who said they didn't want to be there for you.

P.S. We gave it another shot about 3 months later and it turned out med school was just an excuse to end it. Needless to say it didn't work out. I know this probably isn't the story you want to hear but I wish you the best.
 
HolyGrail said:
So I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years... Pretty depressing... She basically told me that she can't see us lasting through Medical School(Even though I've not even been accepted yet) and that she needs someone to be able to take care of her needs first. She says she "hope we see each other again and can make this work out."

This is just the most shocking/depressing thing I could not have seen coming.

In case anyone read one of my previous posts, I took the MCAT once before and got a 26Q, retaking, and I've taken all of the AAMCs, and I've gotten between a 35-37 on every one... Taking it next Friday.

Aside from that... not looking forward to anything in the next year... This is me, drunk, and signing out: FML...

P.S. - Has anyone else been in a similar circumstance? And what happened?
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I am also dumped 3 days before MCAT by a cheating ex. I managed to pull a 35+ and picked up a foxy lady in front of her a week later in the after MCAT party.

I also met my current girlfriend while I was later out partying with that ex (we reconciled by that point), we are still together.

I also gotten into a top 25 school, so take this as a little inspiration.
 
FYI: I broke up w/ my SO 2 weeks prior to my MCAT and got a 34. Stay focused. Hope is not lost.
 
HolyGrail said:
So I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years... Pretty depressing... She basically told me that she can't see us lasting through Medical School(Even though I've not even been accepted yet) and that she needs someone to be able to take care of her needs first. She says she "hope we see each other again and can make this work out."

This is just the most shocking/depressing thing I could not have seen coming.

In case anyone read one of my previous posts, I took the MCAT once before and got a 26Q, retaking, and I've taken all of the AAMCs, and I've gotten between a 35-37 on every one... Taking it next Friday.

Aside from that... not looking forward to anything in the next year... This is me, drunk, and signing out: FML...

P.S. - Has anyone else been in a similar circumstance? And what happened?
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same same same here. 4.5 years, up and left (we were living together at the time), complete shock. That was 1.5 years ago. I have been single and very bitter at her ever since.

For a time, I let it get to me and it took a toll on my grades and mcat studying. It took about a year before i felt normal again. Don't let it hurt your studies. Like the previous poster said, try to stay sober and kick ass on your mcat. worry about this later. In the long run, you'll realize it wasn't worth getting so upset about.
 
I agree with the person who said that if she is not willing to stick it out through the rough times, she does not deserve to be with an MD. Also breaking up with you days before your MCAT is a really ****ty thing for her to do...I know my ex would constantly mind**** the **** out of me and either get mad at me (for no reason other than the fact I was studying for a test or something) or break up with me right before I had a big event.

I have been through the exact same thing (including the drunk SDN posting). My SO broke up with me the day after I moved 100 miles and signed a 9 month apartment lease to be closer to her (which she was constantly begging me to do). That also happened to be about 1 week before my first interview.

We then "got back together" the day before I flew out to interview at a school and stayed together for another month. Then she broke up with me again (no real reason given as to why both times btw...other than she was Arab and could not have a white BF...racist *****) but this time it was literally the day before I got into medical school. She was also applying to schools (dental...pssshhtt) but got rejected to all of them, so I have made it a point to rub my 5 acceptances in her face.


Long story short since we split up some funny things have happened
  1. I have had the most productive dating period in my life
  2. I am happy I can meet new people at medical school without spending all of my time with her
  3. I discovered the reason I was with her was 100% for her looks and I was so infatuated that I really did not notice how dumb she was. All of my friends and even my parents (who don't usually say negative things about other people) said that she was not the brightest person and gave examples that I had overlooked.
  4. I just found out from a mutual friend that she got engaged (less than 3 months after we broke up BTW) lol I honestly think it might be her 2nd cousin because she mentioned that her mom had been trying to set her up with him. I am betting that she gets knocked up within 1 month of them actually getting hitched because her mother if pressuring her to have children (even though she is just 22)
She sounds like she is kind of a needy ***** who feels she is entitled to always be with people during the good times and is unwilling to go through the rough patches with you. Good riddance IMO. Next year just go out and hook up with some hot chicks (it is really easy once you actually get into medical school cuz you can always drop that line which leads to them wanting to hook up for some reason.)
 
I had to break it off with my boyfriend of four years when I went abroad because our relationship was at a point where it needed a lot of work, and I was not going to be in a position to be able to do that. It was very hard for both of us but now he and I have each found a spouse much more suited to our respective personalities.

I think the people giving the "forget it" advice don't know what it's like to be with someone for years and imagine a future together and then have to lose that. The past four years of your life and all your future plans are not something you can just "forget".

I do agree with the poster who said something about there likely being other underlying reasons for the breakup though. If you're with the right person and have a truly healthy relationship, each person pursuing their own dreams can only make it stronger. My husband and I rarely get to spend time together (well, at least time that we're both awake) because he and I each have very time-consuming goals that are important to us, but ultimately it doesn't hurt our relationship. If anything it makes it so we never run out of things to talk to each other about, and each of us respects the other more. If your relationship couldn't give both of you that support and flexibility then it's worth striving for one that can, whether that means finding someone new or reconciling with your girlfriend and figuring out a way to support each other.
 
RySerr21 said:
dude thats sucks. If you love her and want to work then obviusly you need to talk to her. Convince her to stick it out. Theres no reason to break it off now anyway, at the very least you guys can enjoy this next year together...unless theres another reason she is breaking up with you and she is using med school as an excuse/the easy way out.....
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Sorry bro but I have to disagree with this. Convince her to stay? uh no..U can't..and you shldnt want to convince someone to stay with you. She shld be already convinced to stay. If she's not, then there's no need fightin for the relationship IMO. It takes 2...not just 1..

chargerboy said:
wow this is the story of my life. throughout college, i've always felt conflicted between my studies and my girlfriend. she's the relaxed type b personality who hated the fact that i preferred spending my time studying and going to the library. every pre-med knows there is some sort of sacrifice to be made, and this was something my SO didn't understand. i often felt like she was holding me back while she felt like i did not care for her.

bottom line: we broke up, but after 3 years, the damage was done. i often feel like without her, i could've pushed myself further and got even better grades. othertimes, i feel like she was the inspiration as to why i did really good in college.

i truly believe that if she truly cares about you, she would've stuck with you through not only the highs, but also the lows - and that includes focusing on your studies. thus, i think that it's actually a good thing that you two separated. if she really wants to be with you, she'll swallow her pride and do whatever it takes to come back into you life, but be weary.

trust me, i was in the exact same position and was down for months. but i learned that you have to worry about yourself first and look our for your best interest. remember, it's ok to feel "selfish" and fulfill your own goals and priorities first. after that, the other pieces of your life will eventually fall into place. good luck!
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Exchactely.

ZeusonRoids said:
I agree with the person who said that if she is not willing to stick it out through the rough times, she does not deserve to be with an MD. Also breaking up with you days before your MCAT is a really ****ty thing for her to do...I know my ex would constantly mind**** the **** out of me and either get mad at me (for no reason other than the fact I was studying for a test or something) or break up with me right before I had a big event.

I have been through the exact same thing (including the drunk SDN posting). My SO broke up with me the day after I moved 100 miles and signed a 9 month apartment lease to be closer to her (which she was constantly begging me to do). That also happened to be about 1 week before my first interview.

We then "got back together" the day before I flew out to interview at a school and stayed together for another month. Then she broke up with me again (no real reason given as to why both times btw...other than she was Arab and could not have a white BF...racist *****) but this time it was literally the day before I got into medical school. She was also applying to schools (dental...pssshhtt) but got rejected to all of them, so I have made it a point to rub my 5 acceptances in her face.



Long story short since we split up some funny things have happened
  1. I have had the most productive dating period in my life
  2. I am happy I can meet new people at medical school without spending all of my time with her
  3. I discovered the reason I was with her was 100% for her looks and I was so infatuated that I really did not notice how dumb she was. All of my friends and even my parents (who don't usually say negative things about other people) said that she was not the brightest person and gave examples that I had overlooked.
  4. I just found out from a mutual friend that she got engaged (less than 3 months after we broke up BTW) lol I honestly think it might be her 2nd cousin because she mentioned that her mom had been trying to set her up with him. I am betting that she gets knocked up within 1 month of them actually getting hitched because her mother if pressuring her to have children (even though she is just 22)
She sounds like she is kind of a needy ***** who feels she is entitled to always be with people during the good times and is unwilling to go through the rough patches with you. Good riddance IMO. Next year just go out and hook up with some hot chicks (it is really easy once you actually get into medical school cuz you can always drop that line which leads to them wanting to hook up for some reason.)
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Dang...someone still sounds bitter. Feel your pain tho.

And 3# is soo funny to me...why is it WHEN pple break up that they see how dumb their ex is? lol
And uh..ur last sentence...prepare to be surprised..
 
I'd go as far as saying that the majority of relationships don't survive med school. I know of 2 engagments that have ended, both in previously stable relationships, all sorts of more casual relationships that ended during the first 8 weeks, and a few people who dropped out because their marriages were failing. Application is rough, but med school is far rougher. Brace for the worst, but hope for the best.
 
I'd go as far as saying that the majority of relationships don't survive med school. I know of 2 engagments that have ended, both in previously stable relationships, all sorts of more casual relationships that ended during the first 8 weeks, and a few people who dropped out because their marriages were failing. Application is rough, but med school is far rougher. Brace for the worst, but hope for the best.
 
I'm going through something similar right now except with my wife. Weve been married 5 years and i went back to school about 3.5 years. Im about to graduate and applying to med school, and she just tells me its too hard for her and she didnt even like doing this in undergrad, she cant imagine doing it through medical school. It probably didnt help her best friend divorced her husband while in medical school and always feeds her these horror stories about how it sucks....so now shes going to be leaving (today actually) and i lose my son. Now if i dont get accepted to either USC, UCLA, or UCI, i get to make the decision of whether or not i pursue medicine...or dont get to see my son for 4 years...and maybe longer if i dont match a residency out where she is. Theres no winning decision in that, ill hate myself no matter what I choose. She says its too hard having ot live so poor and the lack of time i get to spend with her...I guess w/e...all i know now is i hope my grades dont slip this qurater...i cant concentrate and im drinking much more heavily. Defiantly hating life right now man i feel ya. I always heard of medicine ruining your relationships while in med school or residency, but not before you are even in -_-.
 
And people act surprised that I'm willing to decrease my chances of acceptance a little to accommodate my husband's life. After reading all this there is no way I'm making this any harder on him than it absolutely has to be.
 
🙁 I'm sorry this has happened to you. I've been with my husband for over 6 years, and I think it's the emotional/mental intimacy that would leave a hole in me (I'm guessing this is what you are feeling). I agree with binko, it's a lot to digest and forgetting is easier said than done.

But a relationship takes two people... she doesn't want to make the sacrifices that you need to get through medical school... to me that sounds like a fair weather girlfriend. You deserve to have someone who will be there throughout life, not just in the moments that are most convenient. Otherwise, is that really fair to you?

It's going to hurt for awhile, but it will be okay. Keep studying.:luck:
 
MilkmanAl said:
I'd go as far as saying that the majority of relationships don't survive med school. I know of 2 engagments that have ended, both in previously stable relationships, all sorts of more casual relationships that ended during the first 8 weeks, and a few people who dropped out because their marriages were failing. Application is rough, but med school is far rougher. Brace for the worst, but hope for the best.
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Dude Milkman! Way to be depressing.

Although from the sound of things, I should've broken up with my girlfriend before my MCAT.
 
HolyGrail said:
So I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years... Pretty depressing... She basically told me that she can't see us lasting through Medical School(Even though I've not even been accepted yet) and that she needs someone to be able to take care of her needs first. She says she "hope we see each other again and can make this work out."

This is just the most shocking/depressing thing I could not have seen coming.

In case anyone read one of my previous posts, I took the MCAT once before and got a 26Q, retaking, and I've taken all of the AAMCs, and I've gotten between a 35-37 on every one... Taking it next Friday.

Aside from that... not looking forward to anything in the next year... This is me, drunk, and signing out: FML...

P.S. - Has anyone else been in a similar circumstance? And what happened?
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Yep. 3.5 yrs here. Just do the best you can. My advice would be to exercise a good bit the couple of days before the MCAT. I went running (and I NEVER run - hate it) the 2 days before my test. Didn't wear myself out, but definitely clears your head and makes you feel better.

Hang in there...
 
koko_eats said:
Dude Milkman! Way to be depressing.

Although from the sound of things, I should've broken up with my girlfriend before my MCAT.
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lol its not depressing as much as true. So many people have this misconception that their relationship will last or some ****. Look i dont care how stabel you two are or how in love you are, when you cant spend time with them and cant make that person even the 3rd most important thing in your life....that person unless they are one of those once in a lifetime type of people and you two are that perfect match that is damn near impossible to find, its going to be hard to stay together. Pre meds are alwayts thinking well my relationship wont be that way mine is stable we are soo deeply in love....it reminds of that stupid idiotic altruism that these 20 year olds spout and how thats why they want to get into medicine. all of a bunch of bs that people who havnt ever left home think. Your relationship may last, but the fact that you cant make your relationship your priority during your medical career will make evry relationship suffer no matter what. If i sound jaded **** it i am
 
koko_eats said:
Dude Milkman! Way to be depressing.

Although from the sound of things, I should've broken up with my girlfriend before my MCAT.
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I'm just letting ya know what goes on. There are plenty of relationships that have survived, but the attrition rate is gigantic. It's incredibly difficult for SO's to understand why they're suddenly marginalized in favor of school if they haven't gone through the same training, and I think it's mostly the sudden part that gets them.
 
I broke up with my long term gf AFTER the MCAT. I can't believe you guys have a SO dropping you so close to such an important test. This truly shows they don't give a **** about you. You will find someone who deserves to be with you.
 
She's not worth it, OP. Move on with your life and good luck on your exam.
 
1. If it was meant to be you would get through it.

2. It is much better that it happened now rather than when you are in med school.


You're gonna be alright!!!
 
nail the mcat and find your self a pair of nice double d orbitals to put your electrons on
 
HolyGrail said:
So I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years... Pretty depressing... She basically told me that she can't see us lasting through Medical School(Even though I've not even been accepted yet) and that she needs someone to be able to take care of her needs first. She says she "hope we see each other again and can make this work out."

This is just the most shocking/depressing thing I could not have seen coming.

In case anyone read one of my previous posts, I took the MCAT once before and got a 26Q, retaking, and I've taken all of the AAMCs, and I've gotten between a 35-37 on every one... Taking it next Friday.

Aside from that... not looking forward to anything in the next year... This is me, drunk, and signing out: FML...

P.S. - Has anyone else been in a similar circumstance? And what happened?
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My boyfriend is moving to another state to go to Optometry school while I still need to finish my undergrad, but when I graduate I will most likely move on the other end of the country to go to medical school. Regardless, I love him and he loves me, so we're going to try it and go long distance. If it doesn't work, then at least we tried to work it out. So, forget about that girl you speak of, I think she's hiding the real deal. If she can't even at least *TRY*, then you need to ask yourself if she's really worth it. Picture yourself in someone else's shoes and a friend was in your current position, what would you think?

But good luck on your MCAT!! 😉 You can do it, just stop worrying about less important things. 👍
 
SiR99 said:
She "hope we see each other again and can make this work out."


Tell her to get lost. If she isnt willing to be with you through the hard times, then she does not deserve to be with a doctor through the good times.

This girl thinks she can have fun and mess around while your at medical school, and she probably wants to come back to you once you finish. Tell her she cant have her cake and eat it too, you will definately find someone else.
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👍 ..........sorry but she has chickenhead-itis...avoid at all costs!!!!
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I am so sorry to hear about this 🙁. I went through a breakup once right before finals time. I was feeling so low, but being productive was actually something that helped me rebuild self-confidence/worth/satisfaction. I had an almost vengeful determination to succeed. I got a 4.0 that semester. Maybe trying to focus on your bright future and rocking the MCAT will be a good first step out of this crappy experience. Best of luck to you on your test!
 
i definitely used med school as an excuse to break up with my boyfriend...
 
Elijah05 said:
I'm going through something similar right now except with my wife. Weve been married 5 years and i went back to school about 3.5 years. Im about to graduate and applying to med school, and she just tells me its too hard for her and she didnt even like doing this in undergrad, she cant imagine doing it through medical school. It probably didnt help her best friend divorced her husband while in medical school and always feeds her these horror stories about how it sucks....so now shes going to be leaving (today actually) and i lose my son. Now if i dont get accepted to either USC, UCLA, or UCI, i get to make the decision of whether or not i pursue medicine...or dont get to see my son for 4 years...and maybe longer if i dont match a residency out where she is. Theres no winning decision in that, ill hate myself no matter what I choose. She says its too hard having ot live so poor and the lack of time i get to spend with her...I guess w/e...all i know now is i hope my grades dont slip this qurater...i cant concentrate and im drinking much more heavily. Defiantly hating life right now man i feel ya. I always heard of medicine ruining your relationships while in med school or residency, but not before you are even in -_-.
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Now THAT's rough. Jeez.

OP, Same thing happened to me 3 yrs ago. Took me 2 quarters to work out of the neurotic pit I was in. It's a tough place to be, but it's a good opportunity to reevaluate your priorities/pre-requisites in a S.O..

Three things:

1) As demonstrated above, it could be worse. Much, much worse

2) I don't know how attached you were, but to me this type of breakup is the ultimate stab-in-the-back. Found someone who's better for you? Fine. Just not working? Fine. But I'm willing to bet she knew from the beginning where you were headed, and if she breaks it off when things get "hard", maybe that communicates the type of life she envisioned for herself. The only reason I say this is that almost every girl I've had since hears "medical school" and gets the same idea. It took me a while until I found one that I could A) Convince otherwise, and B) Appreciated why I was prepared to work and sacrifice so much for relatively little gain
Find one like that, and you better seal the deal ASAP, because that's a keeper.

3. Think about postponing your MCAT. I don't know how tough you are mentally, but 4 years is a long time to be with someone, and if I were in your position I wouldn't be in the state of mind to take any test, let alone the MCAT. Do yourself a favor and give yourself a few weeks to polish up on your skills, and make sure your head's on straight.

Good luck:xf:
 
HolyGrail said:
So I just broke up with my girlfriend of 4 years... Pretty depressing... She basically told me that she can't see us lasting through Medical School(Even though I've not even been accepted yet) and that she needs someone to be able to take care of her needs first. She says she "hope we see each other again and can make this work out."

This is just the most shocking/depressing thing I could not have seen coming.

In case anyone read one of my previous posts, I took the MCAT once before and got a 26Q, retaking, and I've taken all of the AAMCs, and I've gotten between a 35-37 on every one... Taking it next Friday.

Aside from that... not looking forward to anything in the next year... This is me, drunk, and signing out: FML...

P.S. - Has anyone else been in a similar circumstance? And what happened?
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She sounds selfish. You don't want to be with her anyway.
 
I'm sorry to hear your story. It sucks but at least you end it now rather than when you start medical school b/c depression and med school obviously don't mix. Just try your best to move forward and don't spiral out of control. Remember what your goal in life is (to be a doctor) and don't let one girl ruin that for you. If she can't hang then good riddance. Find a woman who understands that you're going into a demanding field and that you won't have time to coddle her and be 100% devoted to her needs. Maybe you'd be better off finding that woman in your medical school, that way at least she'll be just as busy as you are and can't use that excuse on you. 🙂
 
Also, I know quite a few people who divorced in medical school. One woman said her husband was all behind her doing medicine and moving to the big city. Well come MS4, I found out she was divorced from her husband of more then 10 years.

Another person got divorced his first year of med school. His wife was a lawyer but she didn't want him to also go back for higher education because she wanted him to work so she could quit and have kids.

It does happen and at least you didn't have kids or even a wedding ring on her finger. it is better that it happened when you were young. you will find someone. Most people do.
 
Do relationships you form in medical school usually last?
 
BlueElmo said:
Do relationships you form in medical school usually last?
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It is different for everyone. I'm sure some don't last and some do. No one can speak for anyone but themselves and their own experiences.

You just gotta go with the flow.
 
Anthony Hartsoc said:
I might be going through the same thing as you bro, but the jury is out till the end of the weekend. She makes her choice Sunday.

Good luck and keep the course.
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If she has to "make a choice", I'd suggest you just come to the realization she's not reliable and highly unlikely to bring anything positive into your life during some of the roughest years of your life. I'd pre-emptively break it off if I were you saying something to the effect of, "well, I thought about it and we definitely need to break up. this has taught me a lot about you and I just don't think having you in my life while I'm trying to better my future is a good idea.".

^^ pre-emptive breakup FTW!!! :idea:
 
bakanoisha said:
If she has to "make a choice", I'd suggest you just come to the realization she's not reliable and highly unlikely to bring anything positive into your life during some of the roughest years of your life. I'd pre-emptively break it off if I were you saying something to the effect of, "well, I thought about it and we definitely need to break up. this has taught me a lot about you and I just don't think having you in my life while I'm trying to better my future is a good idea.".

^^ pre-emptive breakup FTW!!! :idea:
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Well how is that pre-emptive if the OPs gf already broke it off??? also that sounds childish, the last line anyways. Why the need to be nasty if they decide they want something else out of life? i'm sure she wasn't saying it in the way it seems to be implied on here, i.e. a selfish tone. but medicine is a way of life and once you are in the field of medicine you are arried to it as much as you are to your wife or husband. This was a line both spoken by the former head of adcom voting committee at USF Health in 2003 and by my father in a line he wrote about a cardiologist for a poem at his son's wedding.

It is true to the point.So a woman who wants a 9-5 type of husband or one with more regular hours and ability to do things she values is better. If you can't be that person it is better she and you realize it now before you become real unhappy later.
 
Since this thread is a blackhole of self pity and loathing, I have an anecdote:

A Harvard undergrad met a girl in a formal dancing club in their senior year a few months before graduation. Guy and girl started dating but he was accepted to med school at Harvard and she was accepted to law school at UCLA. They continued to date long distance for three years. It was easier, he admitted, because he could study without distractions and still see each other once a month.

His fourth year, she moved to the East Coast to be with him and they moved together for his derm residency in California. They're married now.

Awww...
 
Most people have this misconception that med students will just put you on the back burner during school. I don't believe this is true and i'm sure there are other that agree with me. Yeah, med school is important but not as important as someone you love and care for. If she said that she didn't want to be with you because you were going to medical school, then she must have not been the one for you. If she can't sacrifice just a little for med school, then what makes you think in the long run she would sacrifice anything for marriage, etc? Just my opinion.
 
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