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My English says that only idiots are happy in the world we live in
 
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Yeeep.
 
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I think that's a complicated and very important question for pre-meds to answer.

I've spent 10 years preparing to get into med school. I'm so thrilled to finally submit my app and get a shot at being a physician. Right now, I'm happy.

That being said, a lot my identity as a person has been wrapped up with a life practicing medicine. It is utterly terrifying to think that, regardless of my stats or how long I volunteered doing X, Y, or Z, I may not get the chance to go to med school. I may not be accepted. That thought makes me very unhappy.

Hopefully, it will all work out, but I am not sure how I'll feel if it doesn't.
 
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sure, I'm content.

Edit: Actually, dammit, I am happy. Looking at these threads about the new upcoming cycle makes me grateful as hell that I don't have to do it over again. That was probably one of the most stressful times in my life. I wish all the current applicants the best of luck in their endeavors.
 
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To be MD said:
I think that's a complicated and very important question for pre-meds to answer.

I've spent 10 years preparing to get into med school. I'm so thrilled to finally submit my app and get a shot at being a physician. Right now, I'm happy.

That being said, a lot my identity as a person has been wrapped up with a life practicing medicine. It is utterly terrifying to think that, regardless of my stats or how long I volunteered doing X, Y, or Z, I may not get the chance to go to med school. I may not be accepted. That thought makes me very unhappy.

Hopefully, it will all work out, but I am not sure how I'll feel if it doesn't.
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10 years wtf?
 
Over the last 5-6 years I've been happier than I've ever been in my life.
 
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I have a wife, two cats and baby on the way. If digging ditches was the way I had to support them, I'd still be happy. If you believe your career defines your happiness in life, then you don't have much of a life.
 
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Pagan FutureDoc said:
Over the last 5-6 years I've been happier than I've ever been in my life.
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Its a crazy way to think, but everyone receives happiness, love, and fulfillment in different ways. I am the most miserable when I am unproductive and the happiest when I have a million things going. I definitely feel the same way about the last 2 years since I returned to school.

I think that if you are to dread all of the 'hoops you're jumping through' rather than looking at them as building blocks that will make you a better person and reach a goal then your road may be long and hard.

CyrilFiggis said:
I have a wife, two cats and baby on the way. If digging ditches was the way I had to support them, I'd still be happy. If you believe your career defines your happiness in life, then you don't have much of a life.
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There was a time in my life where I spent years at a job I did not like for various reasons, and it definitely impacted my overall happiness. To think that you would still be as happy as you are now with children on the way, to digging ditches 15 years down the line when you are probably in pain, have nothing for yourself because you either make nothing or have a family to support? Thats something that would likely have an effect on overall happiness. Im not saying that we should allow our careers to dictate happiness, because I agree with you on some level - as I said in my previous post we all receive happiness in different ways. But to say that jobs or careers don't play a role when it is something you do almost every day of your life is oversight. Being accepted to medical school and well on your way to your goal also make it much easier to say what you have.
 
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If you aren't... just remember there was some poor soul that didn't wake up this morning and your ass did.

That'll definitely make you realize that your problems ain't much compared to those of others in the world.

But yea... I'm frickin' happy.

CAN'T YOU TELL?!
 
ProspectiveKidd said:
There was a time in my life where I spent years at a job I did not like for various reasons, and it definitely impacted my overall happiness. To think that you would still be as happy as you are now with children on the way, to digging ditches 15 years down the line when you are probably in pain, have nothing for yourself because you either make nothing or have a family to support? Thats something that would likely have an effect on overall happiness. Im not saying that we should allow our careers to dictate happiness, because I agree with you on some level - as I said in my previous post we all receive happiness in different ways. But to say that jobs or careers don't play a role when it is something you do almost every day of your life is oversight. Being accepted to medical school and well on your way to your goal also make it much easier to say what you have.
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I never said it doesn't play a role. I just said it shouldn't be the defining part of your happiness. Will it influence your day-to-day? Absolutely, I'm not naive.
 
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10 years wtf?
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I decided I wanted to be a physician when I was 15 and started applying myself in school (C to A student --> got a shot at college --> transferred to better uni) to get there. Now I'm 25. 10 years.

*note: I took 3 years to work abroad in between graduation and submitting my app... but yea, 10 years @_@.

@The Knife & Gun Club, I did look at robbins when I was in 11th grade in a Border's bookstore. Immediately shut it :laugh:.
 
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I just had an exhausting failed application cycle, submitted my reapplication last night, all my money from my minimal AmeriCorps stipend is being spent on my application fees. I can honestly say that I am happy. Probably happier than this time last year. I have family, friends, food and a job that is meaningful.

Updating this. I was accepted about an hour after I wrote this. Yes I am very happy!
 
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I don't think a career alone can make a person happy, but it can definitely make a person unhappy. I spent the last several years working on stuff that mostly amounts to glorified advertisements in terms of its actual impact and meaning in the world. I've been told that there are a lot of people working industries like advertising who genuinely like their jobs and that's great for them, but it'll never work for me.

I think it's not too crazy to say I'll be more likely to become more prone to happiness when I can have a career that isn't a complete mismatch for my personality and education.
 
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CyrilFiggis said:
If you believe your career defines your happiness in life, then you don't have much of a life.
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The sooner people realize this, the better off they will be. Don't let your career define your life, your happiness, or your self worth. Christ, there's more important things happening in the world outside those hospital doors than inside them.
 
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binko said:
I don't think a career alone can make a person happy, but it can definitely make a person unhappy.
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This. I'm fully aware that any job is just that, a job, and there will be stressful times when I won't want to get out of bed. But if my career gives me, on the whole, personal, intellectual, and moral fulfillment I will know I'm in the right place.
 
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I'm weirdly happy. I was not a happy person in high school - I went to a stuffy and competitive high school that I never really fit into. Now as a college student I've found my stride and have learned how to stop comparing myself to others. And while things can be stressful as a premedical student, I find much more joy in the things I love and am proud and happy to be focused. I find the journey in itself to be affirming - proof that I can work hard and be successful. I'm a much less anxious person than I was in high school.

And to be typical and cliche, a quote I've always enjoyed about happiness:

"Happiness is a journey, not a destination; happiness is to be found along the way, not at the end of the road, for then the journey is over and it's too late. The time for happiness is today, not tomorrow." Paul H. Dunn
 
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Woke up to a beautiful morning in colombia. I'm quite happy yeah.
 
I'm mostly bored. Waiting for school to start. At a job I don't particularly like so that I can raise enough money to quit by July and travel/pay rent.
 
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Mad Jack said:
At this very moment, no. I have a horribly painful hangover.

Other than that, yes.
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We have a saying in Dutch that goes along the lines of "If you were having fun last night, you have to keep smiling the next morning"
 
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Nerdeka said:
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I was unhappy as a premed but I am happy now as a sub-specialist, working 8-5 and making ~ 400k. You do have to make sacrifices. If you don't make sacrifices when you're young you won't have accomplished as much when you are older. I remember there was a day in undergrad that I was almost in tears because I was tired of studying.
 
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I was unhappy as a premed but I am happy now as a sub-specialist, working 8-5 and making ~ 400k.
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Turkishking said:
OP are you happy?
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I am very happy, but my few friends + family and great life doing what I love (learning/being challenged) make me happy. Don't want it to change.
 
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Im happy that I am graduating this week. Man... past several years in college has been a wild ride but it was all worth it. I learned so much and became much more disciplined because of all the classes that I took, MCAT and ppl who inspired me. As of now, I am happy.


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ojy77511 said:
Im happy that I am graduating this week. Man... past several years in college has been a wild ride but it was all worth it. I learned so much and became much more disciplined because of all the classes that I took, MCAT and ppl who inspired me. As of now, I am happy.


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Quarter system?
I feel you. Last final tomorrow.
 
CyrilFiggis said:
I have a wife, two cats and baby on the way. If digging ditches was the way I had to support them, I'd still be happy. If you believe your career defines your happiness in life, then you don't have much of a life.
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That's what I mean tho. Will I have a child my parents will get to meet? Will I spend enough time with them? :/
 
The physician I work with in just diagnosed a patient with a brain tumor, and a patient that was clinging on to life died, both in one day. Two families had their lives changed in one day. I saw the pain in the face of the son and father, realizing that their time may be shorter than they had ever imagined, and the sadness of a grandchild realizing a treasured grandparent is gone.

Most days aren't like this, it's usually just routine checkups for patients with a little bit more of a cough or a small flare-up of a chronic illness. Or on another day it's a patient finding out they have a chronic illness like diabetes, parkinson's, or MS. Never thought two things like this would happen in one day, and they usually don't. Days like this remind me of what I have to be happy about.

So yes. Despite all the typical "premed problems" that are complained about, all the hoop jumping, "box checking," and neuroticism, I am happy. Happy because I have the opportunity to achieve my goal of becoming a physician, continue exploring the depths of musicianship, examine deeper into my scientific understanding, and help people come to grips with what may be happening to them all at the same time. It will take awhile, but what the hell. It'll be worth it.
 
Bermie said:
I just had an exhausting failed application cycle, submitted my reapplication last night, all my money from my minimal AmeriCorps stipend is being spent on my application fees. I can honestly say that I am happy. Probably happier than this time last year. I have family, friends, food and a job that is meaningful.

Updating this. I was accepted about an hour after I wrote this. Yes I am very happy!
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Congrats!

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The physician I work with in just diagnosed a patient with a brain tumor, and a patient that was clinging on to life died, both in one day. Two families had their lives changed in one day. I saw the pain in the face of the son and father, realizing that their time may be shorter than they had ever imagined, and the sadness of a grandchild realizing a treasured grandparent is gone.

Most days aren't like this, it's usually just routine checkups for patients with a little bit more of a cough or a small flare-up of a chronic illness. Or on another day it's a patient finding out they have a chronic illness like diabetes, parkinson's, or MS. Never thought two things like this would happen in one day, and they usually don't. Days like this remind me of what I have to be happy about.

So yes. Despite all the typical "premed problems" that are complained about, all the hoop jumping, "box checking," and neuroticism, I am happy. Happy because I have the opportunity to achieve my goal of becoming a physician, continue exploring the depths of musicianship, examine deeper into my scientific understanding, and help people come to grips with what may be happening to them all at the same time. It will take awhile, but what the hell. It'll be worth it.
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So I'm a cancer doctor and this is fairly routine for me. Obviously it's different for a PCP. I honestly feel pretty numb to the pain of my patients when they find out they have uncurable cancer or that their family member is dying/died. If I let that stuff get to me I won't be able to do my job which is to cure those who can be cured. The things that I enjoy the most and makes me happy are in order:

1. Getting to go home at a reasonable time
2. Gratitude of a patient
3. Satisfaction with curing someone
4. Money
 
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mpdoc2 said:
So I'm a cancer doctor and this is fairly routine for me. Obviously it's different for a PCP. I honestly feel pretty numb to the pain of my patients when they find out they have uncurable cancer or that their family member has dying/died. If I let that stuff get to me I won't be able to do my job which is to cure those who can be cured. The things that I enjoy the most and make me happy are in order:

1. Getting to go home at a reasonable time
2. Gratitude of a patient
3. Satisfaction with curing someone
4. Money
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The nurses I work with told me when I started that you can't let it get to you. I'm not one to get overly emotional at the problems of mortality, so I usually manage to take it in stride. It's actually pretty fascinating to watch people come together at times like these.
 
SnowyMoon said:
The physician I work with in just diagnosed a patient with a brain tumor, and a patient that was clinging on to life died, both in one day. Two families had their lives changed in one day. I saw the pain in the face of the son and father, realizing that their time may be shorter than they had ever imagined, and the sadness of a grandchild realizing a treasured grandparent is gone.

Most days aren't like this, it's usually just routine checkups for patients with a little bit more of a cough or a small flare-up of a chronic illness. Or on another day it's a patient finding out they have a chronic illness like diabetes, parkinson's, or MS. Never thought two things like this would happen in one day, and they usually don't. Days like this remind me of what I have to be happy about.

So yes. Despite all the typical "premed problems" that are complained about, all the hoop jumping, "box checking," and neuroticism, I am happy. Happy because I have the opportunity to achieve my goal of becoming a physician, continue exploring the depths of musicianship, examine deeper into my scientific understanding, and help people come to grips with what may be happening to them all at the same time. It will take awhile, but what the hell. It'll be worth it.
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I felt like I just read the first draft of a secondary essay.
 
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CyrilFiggis said:
I felt like I just read the first draft of a secondary essay.
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SHUT UP CYRIL. (Just finishing S5 of Archer, I had to.)

I'll probably include it somewhere, it really was one of those moments where I sat down and thought about it, these moments will likely happen every so often for the rest of my life... am I mature enough to handle that? Or will I have an emotional breakdown every time? Will I be able to do this, do that, etc, etc, questions able to use a hashtag like #justneuroticpremedthings

I'm still here, so y'know. The show goes on.
 
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