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more like 40 years of virgins. ...wait what?
more like 40 years of virgins. ...wait what?
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women = time x money
time = money
women = money^2
money = root of all evil.
money^2 = evil.
women = evil.
...As for your point. There will never be another time in your life when you'll be surrounded by thousands of good looking, young women who are your age in a context that is, when you really look at it, as free of consequences as you'll ever have in life and as free of time as you'll ever have in your life..
Try to enjoy being an undergrad now. The future is the future.
I think its safe to assume that the people on this thread don't know how to tap anything.the way I see it, girls are like atomic power. Everyone is freaking out by them, but only a selected few, like a nuclear physicist know how sweet it is to tap that power.
I think its safe to assume that the people on this thread don't know how to tap anything.
And it isn't anything like nuclear physics and splitting the atom. If it was, then I know a couple guys I used to bartend with who would win the nobel prize every year. Instead, they just get lots of antibiotics.
And if she happens to be vegan, i don't care as long as she doesn't even THINK of turning me away from my juicy porterhouse steak (well done)
hmm you're right.. i like mine medium.. and now i want steak, and its not even 10am!what are you, 12? who orders a steak well-done?
clearly, someone who knows nothing about steak.
what are you, 12? who orders a steak well-done?
clearly, someone who knows nothing about steak.
I think its safe to assume that the people on this thread don't know how to tap anything.
And it isn't anything like nuclear physics and splitting the atom. If it was, then I know a couple guys I used to bartend with who would win the nobel prize every year. Instead, they just get lots of antibiotics.
I don't think my 'rents are ever going to allow me to date. I've been taught that you only get to date after you finish college and you get a stable job which is good. Yeah, we're very conservative and I was not born here. Hmm, don't know. Most likely Pops wouldn't allow me, mum? probably? I have dated once and I was thirteen that time (didn't tell my parents and they found out and I got 3 hours of sermon from the top of my mom and pops lungs and a slap in the face. & i remember mum called me a *****? ) It's just out of curiosity and I thought it was alright during the time and I thought, "man this is stupid." and there I realized how teenagers choose to do wrong things so I stayed away from dating. Some guys have liked me and asked me out though returned their feelings, I never dated them. haha. I always think of the future ("It's not like I'm not going to get tired of this kid's presence one day. Why should I waste time? It's not like it's the end of the world and he's not the only guy.")
I pretty much dated once in my life and never attended prom.
Alright, I'm still a minor and I don't believe in high school love etc etc so I tell my high school friends, "nah don't date. you're just being delusional. one day you will get tired of that guy/girl, break up, you find someone else better and you'll be wasting time + money on him/her then repeat the cycle and why put on time + money that will be put to waste anyway?" I offended someone during my cousin's party cause I said "I don't want to date because I don't want to be stupid." I tried to tell a friend not to date some kid but I don't want her to hate me. I knew they were going to break up. and they did. lol. Too bad I wasn't there when it happened. She tells me it was "tragic" but I don't have much regard for it. lol.
I've "in-your-faced" this kid in my chem class and he's very intelligent too which is very good . He waited for me outside after class and tried to talk and in my head I was like "What the flip, GTFO!" I showed utter disinterest and was just responding "ahuh, yeah, sureeee, whatever." I responded perniciously to him. I'm always like that toward guys I like. I guess it's out of nervousness.
I know you guys are utterly more experienced in such matter than I am so after I read your posts, it got me thinking. (though that doesn't give a guarantee of me taking your advices.)
mehh I'm still a child. i'll probably wait till I turn a certain age and date. I think the chance of me getting settled with someone I date now is very low to zero... so methinks I mayest not date 'till a certain age.
mehh I'm still a child. i'll probably wait till I turn a certain age and date. I think the chance of me getting settled with someone I date now is very low to zero... so methinks I mayest not date 'till a certain age.
I don't think my 'rents are ever going to allow me to date. I've been taught that you only get to date after you finish college and you get a stable job which is good. Yeah, we're very conservative and I was not born here. Hmm, don't know. Most likely Pops wouldn't allow me, mum? probably? I have dated once and I was thirteen that time (didn't tell my parents and they found out and I got 3 hours of sermon from the top of my mom and pops lungs and a slap in the face. & i remember mum called me a *****? ) It's just out of curiosity and I thought it was alright during the time and I thought, "man this is stupid." and there I realized how teenagers choose to do wrong things so I stayed away from dating. Some guys have liked me and asked me out though returned their feelings, I never dated them. haha. I always think of the future ("It's not like I'm not going to get tired of this kid's presence one day. Why should I waste time? It's not like it's the end of the world and he's not the only guy.")
I pretty much dated once in my life and never attended prom.
Alright, I'm still a minor and I don't believe in high school love etc etc so I tell my high school friends, "nah don't date. you're just being delusional. one day you will get tired of that guy/girl, break up, you find someone else better and you'll be wasting time + money on him/her then repeat the cycle and why put on time + money that will be put to waste anyway?" I offended someone during my cousin's party cause I said "I don't want to date because I don't want to be stupid." I tried to tell a friend not to date some kid but I don't want her to hate me. I knew they were going to break up. and they did. lol. Too bad I wasn't there when it happened. She tells me it was "tragic" but I don't have much regard for it. lol.
I've "in-your-faced" this kid in my chem class and he's very intelligent too which is very good . He waited for me outside after class and tried to talk and in my head I was like "What the flip, GTFO!" I showed utter disinterest and was just responding "ahuh, yeah, sureeee, whatever." I responded perniciously to him. I'm always like that toward guys I like. I guess it's out of nervousness.
I know you guys are utterly more experienced in such matter than I am so after I read your posts, it got me thinking. (though that doesn't give a guarantee of me taking your advices.)
mehh I'm still a child. i'll probably wait till I turn a certain age and date. I think the chance of me getting settled with someone I date now is very low to zero... so methinks I mayest not date 'till a certain age.
I guess it's not going to get any easier. I'm a girl and I've been in a committed relationship that I was to pursue, however I refuse point blank to give up medicine. I'll compromise on location and situations as much as I can but not on that. I sometimes fear he won't be able to handle the pressure of long distance that will be imposed once I get into medical school ect ect. And in the end, I wish I didn't have to make this decision. Your right to wait until medical school, because even if you've found the love of your life, sometimes it sucks to find them too early because you being a doctor is a self less endeavor but makes you a selfish person to love. I don't have enough time for family as much as I want, I get depressed that I'm not there to see my brother go through high school as much as I want, and I'm sad that I might lose the guy I love in the end because I couldn't ask him to sacrifice his passion for my passion. I wish I had met him when I was already in med school instead of undergrad, where you jsut can't be stable. I can't even imagine how impossible its going to be for a guy to live up to how perfect he is. Oh and before you all want to throw up, we break up once a month, fight enough to make anyone want to poison us and have been together for 3 years and I thought I loved him when I first met him and we had no problems, but after 3 years of problems, I'm happy. So just hope to find love after your settled, otherwise you won't be able to ask them not to pursue what they love and then you'll feel guilty and you might lose them. Any girls in this situation?
wow.. that is really sad.. and your mentality is completely childish.. .. You're russian, i'm russian.. so i get it.. but come on!.. One of my best friends was like you.. she never dated in HS nor in college.. im sorry but its really pathetic.. and it makes you socially awkward b/c you'll probably have no idea how to act around a guy you like b/c you're too nervous or whatever.. and then you'll be running to your more experienced friends for advice once you find a guy you like.. Dating or hooking up is fine.. as long as you're smart about it.. its just extra experience.. so when you're actually with a person you want to be with.. you'll know what to do.. Whatever.. to each his own... You're probably the way you are because noone has asked you out.. no offense.. or you always wanted to be "daddy's little girl"I don't think my 'rents are ever going to allow me to date. I've been taught that you only get to date after you finish college and you get a stable job which is good. Yeah, we're very conservative and I was not born here. Hmm, don't know. Most likely Pops wouldn't allow me, mum? probably? I have dated once and I was thirteen that time (didn't tell my parents and they found out and I got 3 hours of sermon from the top of my mom and pops lungs and a slap in the face. & i remember mum called me a *****? ) It's just out of curiosity and I thought it was alright during the time and I thought, "man this is stupid." and there I realized how teenagers choose to do wrong things so I stayed away from dating. Some guys have liked me and asked me out though returned their feelings, I never dated them. haha. I always think of the future ("It's not like I'm not going to get tired of this kid's presence one day. Why should I waste time? It's not like it's the end of the world and he's not the only guy.")
I pretty much dated once in my life and never attended prom.
Alright, I'm still a minor and I don't believe in high school love etc etc so I tell my high school friends, "nah don't date. you're just being delusional. one day you will get tired of that guy/girl, break up, you find someone else better and you'll be wasting time + money on him/her then repeat the cycle and why put on time + money that will be put to waste anyway?" I offended someone during my cousin's party cause I said "I don't want to date because I don't want to be stupid." I tried to tell a friend not to date some kid but I don't want her to hate me. I knew they were going to break up. and they did. lol. Too bad I wasn't there when it happened. She tells me it was "tragic" but I don't have much regard for it. lol.
I've "in-your-faced" this kid in my chem class and he's very intelligent too which is very good . He waited for me outside after class and tried to talk and in my head I was like "What the flip, GTFO!" I showed utter disinterest and was just responding "ahuh, yeah, sureeee, whatever." I responded perniciously to him. I'm always like that toward guys I like. I guess it's out of nervousness.
I know you guys are utterly more experienced in such matter than I am so after I read your posts, it got me thinking. (though that doesn't give a guarantee of me taking your advices.)
mehh I'm still a child. i'll probably wait till I turn a certain age and date. I think the chance of me getting settled with someone I date now is very low to zero... so methinks I mayest not date 'till a certain age.
I guess it's not going to get any easier. I'm a girl and I've been in a committed relationship that I was to pursue, however I refuse point blank to give up medicine. I'll compromise on location and situations as much as I can but not on that. I sometimes fear he won't be able to handle the pressure of long distance that will be imposed once I get into medical school ect ect. And in the end, I wish I didn't have to make this decision. Your right to wait until medical school, because even if you've found the love of your life, sometimes it sucks to find them too early because you being a doctor is a self less endeavor but makes you a selfish person to love. I don't have enough time for family as much as I want, I get depressed that I'm not there to see my brother go through high school as much as I want, and I'm sad that I might lose the guy I love in the end because I couldn't ask him to sacrifice his passion for my passion. I wish I had met him when I was already in med school instead of undergrad, where you jsut can't be stable. I can't even imagine how impossible its going to be for a guy to live up to how perfect he is. Oh and before you all want to throw up, we break up once a month, fight enough to make anyone want to poison us and have been together for 3 years and I thought I loved him when I first met him and we had no problems, but after 3 years of problems, I'm happy. So just hope to find love after your settled, otherwise you won't be able to ask them not to pursue what they love and then you'll feel guilty and you might lose them. Any girls in this situation?
agreedI thinks it's kinda ironic how you say that didnt want to date in high school since that was too young of an age (for maturity reasons I assume), yet the way you treated that poor guy out side of your chem class is exactly what girls in jr high used to do. lol
If it takes those people till now to be at least a little mature about dating, sounds like you have till your after 40.
I think its safe to assume that the people on this thread don't know how to tap anything.
And it isn't anything like nuclear physics and splitting the atom. If it was, then I know a couple guys I used to bartend with who would win the nobel prize every year. Instead, they just get lots of antibiotics.
That's so true. I would like a girl on the other end of the spectrum, artsy, intuitive, and into humanities. It's good to have someone balance you out.
You act like it's completely outside of your control. I met my wife when she was 12, and we started dating when we were 16. I dated her for six years and then married her. The odds of you doing the same are indeed on the low end, but they're even lower if you go into a relationship with the outlook of "This won't result in marriage."mehh I'm still a child. i'll probably wait till I turn a certain age and date. I think the chance of me getting settled with someone I date now is very low to zero... so methinks I mayest not date 'till a certain age.
God forbid that someone finds someone that they would like to spend the rest of their life with before they meet your timeline.Why someone would want to get tied down in their early twenties is beyond me. There is way, way too much fun to be had.
Agree. Never put things off like this. There will always be someone who tells themselves "things will be better in med school" and forgoes relationships in college to focus on their studies. Then in med school the time is more at a premium and the number of single people is decreased significantly and folks tell themselves "things will be better when I'm a doctor". And this can go on and on. You should never put your life on hold to focus on school. Truth of the matter is you have more time now then you ever will in the rest of your life if you go down the med school road. You will have a LOT less free time in med school. You will have even less free time than that in residency. And after that you likely will want to focus on your career and it's actually hard to find time to date when you are working 70 hours/week at a new job. And so on. So it's all about balance and juggling. Because you have more time now than you likely ever will again (at least until you become fairly senior in your career), so unless you learn to balance now, you never will.
As mentioned above, a heavy percentage of folks will show up to med school attached. So the pool of people to select from also never gets better than you've got right now in college. Not that you should lock someone down now, but just don't think your classmates will necessarily be the same source of dating potential they were in college. Also, dating and relationships are a skill that you need to work on. Each failed relationship is part of your dating resume that helps you know what you are looking for, what works. Without this, you generally will have a harder time making good relationship decisions. So you could have years of failed relationships ahead of you if you don't get out there and make all those mistakes now, to learn from. It is not a skill you get right the first time.
If you are male, I don't agree with Jolie South and the folks who say just wait and things will happen. This likely works for attractive women, but guys always have to play the game or they quickly become undesirable hermits. You will see more than a few of these in med school. folks who never really had anything going in college, but keep hoping someone will chase them down when they have MD after their name. It doesn't work like that.
Wow, this just depressed me soooo much...I was hoping to find a relationship in med school. I wonder if it ever happens?
wow.. that is really sad.. and your mentality is completely childish.. .. You're russian, i'm russian.. so i get it.. but come on!.. One of my best friends was like you.. she never dated in HS nor in college.. im sorry but its really pathetic.. and it makes you socially awkward b/c you'll probably have no idea how to act around a guy you like b/c you're too nervous or whatever.. and then you'll be running to your more experienced friends for advice once you find a guy you like.. Dating or hooking up is fine.. as long as you're smart about it.. its just extra experience.. so when you're actually with a person you want to be with.. you'll know what to do.. Whatever.. to each his own... You're probably the way you are because no one has asked you out.. no offense.. or you always wanted to be "daddy's little girl"
Your time will come
Agree. Never put things off like this. There will always be someone who tells themselves "things will be better in med school" and forgoes relationships in college to focus on their studies. Then in med school the time is more at a premium and the number of single people is decreased significantly and folks tell themselves "things will be better when I'm a doctor". And this can go on and on. You should never put your life on hold to focus on school. Truth of the matter is you have more time now then you ever will in the rest of your life if you go down the med school road. You will have a LOT less free time in med school. You will have even less free time than that in residency. And after that you likely will want to focus on your career and it's actually hard to find time to date when you are working 70 hours/week at a new job. And so on. So it's all about balance and juggling. Because you have more time now than you likely ever will again (at least until you become fairly senior in your career), so unless you learn to balance now, you never will.
As mentioned above, a heavy percentage of folks will show up to med school attached. So the pool of people to select from also never gets better than you've got right now in college. Not that you should lock someone down now, but just don't think your classmates will necessarily be the same source of dating potential they were in college. Also, dating and relationships are a skill that you need to work on. Each failed relationship is part of your dating resume that helps you know what you are looking for, what works. Without this, you generally will have a harder time making good relationship decisions. So you could have years of failed relationships ahead of you if you don't get out there and make all those mistakes now, to learn from. It is not a skill you get right the first time.
If you are male, I don't agree with Jolie South and the folks who say just wait and things will happen. This likely works for attractive women, but guys always have to play the game or they quickly become undesirable hermits. You will see more than a few of these in med school. folks who never really had anything going in college, but keep hoping someone will chase them down when they have MD after their name. It doesn't work like that.
God forbid that someone finds someone that they would like to spend the rest of their life with before they meet your timeline.
Just remember, for 50 % of marriages, they end in divorce...
... Conversely, the other 50 % ends in death
Win win right?
But I also think dating in med school will be harder because you have fewer classmates, more clasmates who are seriously involved already, and less time on your hands. And you'll probably have a harder time meeting girls who are not classmates since you'll have less time to go out.
That being said, love can happen unpredictably. I promised myself I'd be crazy, carefree, and single until 30. Instead, my casual hormone fling asked me out, I said what the hell, we fell in love, and now I'm happily engaged at 21...things happen.
Just remember, for 50 % of marriages, they end in divorce...
... Conversely, the other 50 % ends in death
Win win right?
it's hard when you've been dating for a while in undergrad and it's just not working. Especially because I'm kind of introverted, I don't have a large circle of friends around me all the time, just a few really good ones. Therefore it's tough to find good opportunities. I can't believe how many girls I've met that are IN college, yet still seem to have no goals and a very narrow view of things. I never put "life on hold" to focus on school. I have developed myself as a person and know what I want in a relationship. Some people in this thread are being a little condescending, trying to say anyone who is "waiting until med school" must be a loser.
To SBBunny: you need a guy who is FAR better than that...you're 22 (super young) and in your prime. Don't let anyone convince you otherwise. Get out there and meet someone who respects you, treats you as HIS gold medal and will make you happy.
I have a feeling your ex-bf will be the leftover NO woman is going to want to put up with. Be glad you dumped his sorry a$$ and are able to move on.
thumbdownFor some reason, in miami every girl i see driving a beetle seems to be pretty damn cute. I don't get it, it's almost guaranteed. And if she happens to be vegan, i don't care as long as she doesn't even THINK of turning me away from my juicy porterhouse steak (well done)
Early admission + all women's college = spinster. Forever.
I'm waiting until I die.
Word.
This thread is filled with dudes that have to date to get laid. Why someone would want to get tied down in their early twenties is beyond me. There is way, way too much fun to be had.