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care bear said:thanks for the replies abt my concerns. yeah, my PI says the same thing: 'you just gotta plow through'.
i guess that's just not the mentality that i'm used to. ..i can't stand to do something while i'm unhappy about doing it; i want to love the process and not just the result. but i guess medicine will bring out that endurance in me? hopefully.
i think it also bothers me to know that my prime childbearing years are essentially wiped out by plans to learn medicine. most of my friends (early 20's) would probably like to have children in their late 20s. some earlier, some later, but i would say that's what most college educated women are aiming for these days.
so maybe more than just the cruel hours, i dread the feeling of wondering if my time could be put to better/more appropriate use. . .but hey, i guess taking care of 20 children per day (peds residency for me maybe?) should actually be more satisfying from a utilitarian standpoint than taking care of your own 1 or 2. . .let's hope so!
Your concerns over child-bearing (and rearing) are valid. Most residents would suggest you have children during medical school (obviously if you have a partner who is willing and able - not only to father them but to assist when you're at the hospital for long hours) rather than residency or beyond. The truth is that medical training, regardless of speciality, does take place during prime childbearing years. There are residencies which are more "family friendly" and conducive to being pregnant. However, the consensus yesterday (during a Women in Surgery meeting after reviewing data and our own personal experiences) was that if you can get married and have children during medical school, that's the best plan.
BTW, don't worry about your ability to work 80+ hours...your body adjusts. I'm a fair bit older than the usual resident (and twice as lazy) and I found that I got used to the long hours (and this was in the days before the 80 hour workweek). Somehow almost all of us make it through...you will too.